Get mad or get even?

dandelionclock30

No I am the woman.

meer53

Best form of revenge ?

Stay quiet and let her keep him.

Person_one

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

No I am the woman.

Are you saying you've been in this situation and stayed with the lying !!!!!!?

Its a valid perspective, but not everybody would.

krlyr

meer53 wrote: »

Best form of revenge ?

Stay quiet and let her keep him.

Revenge on who though? The "other woman" seems to have been equally as mislead as OP, she's not some conniving mistress who's seduced and stolen the love of OP's life away from her - not from what OP seems to think anyway.
Having been the unaware "other woman" before, I certainly had done nothing to deserve it!

dandelionclock30

Person_one wrote: »

Are you saying you've been in this situation and stayed with the lying !!!!!!?

Its a valid perspective, but not everybody would.

No I've not been in that exact position, I was being funny.

This is what often happens from what I've seen from various friends, colleagues, aquaintances etc.

I also dont believe in monogamy/committed relationships personally and would see more than 1 person at a time if I felt like it.

Person_one

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

No I've not been in that exact position, I was being funny. Oh, ok then. :rotfl:

I also dont believe in monogamy/committed relationships personally and would see more than 1 person at a time if I felt like it.

As long as you tell all your partners they aren't the only one you're seeing and they're ok with it, that's fine, but people deserve to know they aren't in an exclusive relationship.

sweetme

Surely the best form of revenge is to simply move on and live a happy life?

Rev

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

If you tell her, what will happen is that he will say that you are a lunatic who is jealous and that you are a liar etc. She will not want to believe you and will stick with him whatever.Even if deep down she does believe you she wont admit it to herself and will be in denial.
No way will she kick him out especially if hes got money/house/a nice car etc.

That's her choice. What she does with the information is up to her.

Once I've told her my conscious is clear. If she decided to stay with him that's her call.

I couldn't give half a crap what her opinion of me is.

LannieDuck

Rev wrote: »

That's her choice. What she does with the information is up to her.

Once I've told her my conscious is clear. If she decided to stay with him that's her call.

I couldn't give half a crap what her opinion of me is.

Totally agree with this. You can't make someone believe you. All you can do is tell them and let them decide for themselves.

pickledonionspaceraider

If I were the other woman, I would want to know. Honestly, it might be an unpopular train of thought, but nothing on earth would stop me from telling her!

I am so sorry this has happened to you x