tonights the night

Dragon_Lady_3

Hi HM,

I apologise if I came on on bit strong in my previous post, but people like your husband make me soooooooooo mad.

I hope you realise that WHAT EVER DECISION you choose to make, you have our support and our virtual hugs.

With love :grouphug:

Indebted2uRen79

debsy42 wrote: »

Good luck for tonight, sounds like you need all our best wishes.

Personally I think he's being a bit of a git with you and I've found with his type, if you give them an inch they'll take a mile. My friend is with a fella and when he started being controlling with her I tried to get her to realise but she couldn't see the wood for the trees. Now she finds him a nightmare, like telling her which coat to wear when we were going out :eek: Next time he's being nosey and trying to get your bank statments/payslips tell him to sod off. Don't be intimidated, don't be apologetic and let him beat you down tonight.

I'm sorry if this all sounds a bit manic but I get really upset when bullies take advantage of people. I wish you all the luck in the world and that you can be happy and stress free *big hug*

hear hear!

hannahsmummy1

well.... its been a week since i told him & a long week altogether (i'll be glad to see the back of it!) We have argued, well more me shouting at him, he has a son from a previous marriage, and thats why he pays the money, he used to pay more, but since we moved he dropped it by 50 pounds. I have never once had an issue with how much he pays his ex, but i told him i do have a problem with him not being able to provide for his daughter too, i told him he hadnt given me a penny since november last year, he didnt believe me so i shoved the bank statments at him and showed him, and told him that his witch of an ex would be on the phone asap if she hadnt got her money & maybe thats what i should do each month. He then started going on again about my parents in all this, and how we are actually 2k out of pocket- i told him you mean I'm 2K out of pocket, so i told him if thats much of a problem to ring my dad up, my dad had said if he had a problem with anything to ring him up, i got as far as dialling the number before he took the phone away and said he didnt want to ring him. I also told him my mum wouldnt be coming down and that it was his fault & that i hoped he felt guilty about depriving his daughter of her nannie when she doesnt get to see her that often. Lots of things were said, mainly by me, i told him that he needs to stop doing this to me, otherwise i might end up leaving him!

Little_Miss_Winner

Well Done Hannahsmummy!:T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T

Seaxwyn

Wow well done Hannah's mummy!

Good for you standing up for yourself and your daughter. You have given him something to think about and if he doesn't realise he's in the wrong then you know you can stand on your own two feet. Even though I don't know you, I feel very proud of you - and I look forward to reading more updates in future.

elantan

wow that sounds like you had some pent up feelings there well done for getting it off your chest ...have read your thread from the begining with interest please keep us updated

amani_2

Lovely to hear from you again HM

Well done for finding the strenghth to stand up to your hubby, for you and your daughter. From what you said before I dont you think it was easy for you.

At least now he knows how you feel and maybe he will do something about it now.


AMANI XXX

rosieben

Well done, HM. I'm glad you are having your say.

Funny that he didnt want to actually speak to your father on the phone, wasnt it? Like most bullies, when you stand up to them they back off.

Good luck with the situation, I really hope you can bring things to a happy conclusion. But as you have already said there is the option of leaving if things dont come right for you. Dont back down now and maybe you will be able to look forward to a better life together as equal partners.

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Seaxwyn wrote: »

Even though I don't know you, I feel very proud of you

Absolutely!!!

hypno06

Well done you for finding the strength to do this - you have had one heck of a week.

Whatever happens now, you ARE stronger, and HE knows that. Remember that whatever you choose to do, we will be here to rant at, moan at, chuck things at (virtually, of course, you understand) or for a laugh.

Keep hold of that strength, I suspect you may need it, but stand tall, and be YOU x

Shineyhappy

I am glad you got some of the stuff of your chest. :j

I would try asking him how many people he knows whose parents have paid for their daughters wedding. I certainly dont know anyone. Parents seem to make donations or pay for a certain part like the cake or the dress but not the whole thing. I certainly wouldnt expect my parents to pay.

Has he said if he will help you out with money so you can stop working two jobs?

Make sure you dont take any c$%p off of him and hopefully he will be a bit less time warped with his thinking!