Os Daily Friday 4th May

stefejb

Evening all and hugs to those who need them (i'm hugging myself at the moment too)
17yo dd has contacted her dad again and is going to meet him in a couple of weeks. In order to put my mind at rest he has told her that he knows exactly where I live and work and has left me alone - somehow or other I don't find this fact very reassuring - why make the effort? I can understand her curisosity as she has no memories of him whatsoever (lucky thing) but I feel that her decision puts us all at risk - ah well. He has however promised to give her some photos of her brother who died of cot death nearly 21 years ago which he kept from me. I am overwhelmed that in two weeks time I may have some real picture-memories of my son as I haven't seen these pictures for over 15 years. she has never seen these pictures either but has always felt that she had a brother even though he died before she was born and gave her son his name as a middle name. Probably that's all a bit TMI but its really on my mind at the moment

Many many congratulations to granny moggins (or is it nana, nanny or grandma?) - if only we could cut out the midldeman and go straight to grandchildren - all the fun and none of the hard work

10yodd is watching grease for the umpteenth time - It's bl**dy Maria School all over again - sigh. She informed me this morning that a girl in her class doesn't like her which his fine by her as she can think of a million reasons not to like her back ... which she then proceeded to list until I was quite exhausted and depressed - why are little girls so horrid to each other at this age?

Oswise I have had a tantrum and declined to cook which resulted in exoh treating us all to fish and chips - yum!

HariboJunkie

How very hard this must be for you stef. You are very brave to deal with your daughter's natural curiosity with such good grace. I'm so sorry you lost your son and I don't know how you have coped without soo much as a picture.
You must be very close to your daughter and I'm sure you are a wonderful mum. Be kind to yourself and take good care.

Haribo xxx

anniebooklover

stefejb wrote: »

(i'm hugging myself at the moment too)17yo dd has contacted her dad again and is going to meet him in a couple of weeks. In order to put my mind at rest he has told her that he knows exactly where I live and work and has left me alone - somehow or other I don't find this fact very reassuring - why make the effort? I can understand her curisosity as she has no memories of him whatsoever (lucky thing) but I feel that her decision puts us all at risk - ah well. He has however promised to give her some photos of her brother who died of cot death nearly 21 years ago which he kept from me. I am overwhelmed that in two weeks time I may have some real picture-memories of my son as I haven't seen these pictures for over 15 years. she has never seen these pictures either but has always felt that she had a brother even though he died before she was born and gave her son his name as a middle name. Probably that's all a bit TMI but its really on my mind at the moment.

10yodd is watching grease for the umpteenth time - It's bl**dy Maria School all over again - sigh. She informed me this morning that a girl in her class doesn't like her which his fine by her as she can think of a million reasons not to like her back ... which she then proceeded to list until I was quite exhausted and depressed - why are little girls so horrid to each other at this age?

Oswise I have had a tantrum and declined to cook which resulted in exoh treating us all to fish and chips - yum!

stef ((((hugs)))) I am so sorry that your xoh is making you re-live something that happened so long ago. I have no idea what you are going through and nor can I offer any help in getting through this. I think your XOH is being insensitive and has not thought through his actions. I can only offer you my best wishes for you and your family.

As for girls being wicked and horrid - I agree with you 100%.

I haven't read the rest of the thread but I gather that congratulations are in order to grandma moggins!. :T

lil_me

Stef, I really can't understand how hard that has been for you, to have him keep all of the photographs of your son, but at least it is one good thing that will come out of her meeting up with her father. I suppose aswell she is old enough to make her own mind up about him, you are being very brave about it, well done.

As for girls being horrid, having similar problems myself with DS2, but it's boys. Strange as I didn't think boys were so b1t@hy!<<<doesn't let me spell it properly !

meanmarie

Evening all,

I have been reading posts bit by bit through the day, but never got round to posting.

Hugs to all who are in need of one or more.

Congratulations Moggins on becoming a grandmother, glad that Jon Daniel and mother are well. Becoming a grandmother has definitely been one of the best things ever happened to me....being Maimeo is wonderful.

OH planted the climbers we bought yesterday, hopefully we have chosen the right location for each, time alone will tell.

Colder to-night, feels like rain which would be nice for the garden, but am afraid if it starts it won't stop and it would murder my daisies which are just coming into bloom and which make a wonderful show at no financial or labour cost to me...packet of seed about five or six years ago has seeded in clumps all over and look as if someone is being very industrious!

Going to try for an earlier than usual night to-night as would like to do many things to-morrow, don't have to go out for any reason so might do some baking, batch cooking and gardening.That overflowing basket in my bedroom? I think that is called the ironing, might do some of that as well if I'm in the humour.

Enjoy the weekend, and to those in pain of one kind or another, you are in our thoughts

Marie

samsampotts

Thanks Miolere, I'll do that tomorrow. Fell asleep on sofa as predicted, going to bed now with a crick in my neck! Teeth don't hurt at the mo tho!!

Goodnight!

samsampotts

Just realised there's a page six!

Huge (((((hugs))))) for stefejb - I hope things go ok there. Sounds like you've been through a lot and despite that are putting your daughters needs first, I really admire that, good luck

Really am going to bed now

jet77

stefejb wrote: »

In order to put my mind at rest he has told her that he knows exactly where I live and work and has left me alone - somehow or other I don't find this fact very reassuring - why make the effort? ...............................
She informed me this morning that a girl in her class doesn't like her which his fine by her as she can think of a million reasons not to like her back ... which she then proceeded to list until I was quite exhausted and depressed - why are little girls so horrid to each other at this age?

OMG.......this sounds like my life :eek: :eek: :eek:

I still haven't mastered how to do a quote without quoting the whole post

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jet77 wrote: »

I still haven't mastered how to do a quote without quoting the whole post

Hi jet,

Just quote the whole post as you have done, then delete the bits that aren't relevant to your reply.


Stef, I can't imagine what you are going through at the moment but you sound like a fantastic Mum in dealing with your daughter's wish to see her Dad. She'll thank you for it some day. Kids, even 17 year old ones, are good at working out that a parent cares about them and loves them. I imagine seeing the picutres will be a very bitter sweet experience for you. Take one step at a time and give yourself time to deal with all the emotions that the whole thing is going to bring up. <<<Hugs>>>

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