Awkward situation with a friend

andy.m_2

too many posts to read in a hurry, so apologies if this has been raise already.

Were you by any chance, even light heartedly moaning about the pregnancy?
My wife did it a lot, and this could be upsetting to somebody who can't get pregnant and considers your position to be a privilidge.

Don't pay

pesky85

I'm interested hear how the meet up went, and how long it took for the money she wants you to give her to be brought up!

koalamummy

Today did not go anything like I expected at all. Have to admit I was kidding myself about how everything was going to work out in the end. Looks like I should have listened to you all as you could all see the situation for what it really was rather than how I wanted it to be.

It was lovely seeing her and catching up some more but it became evident quite quickly that she would be happy to reestablish and tolerate my friendship as a means to an end rather than any great desire for my company.

Padstow

fannyanna wrote: »

Don't give your hard earned money to this woman.

By all means develop a friendship with her again but why should that friendship come at a cost?

Most likely no money = no friendship.

Shame that someone so trusting as OP is being used in this way. I suppose experiences like this turn us into the cynic I am today.

Scorpio_girlie

I'm so sorry to hear that it didn't work out how you wanted it to - however, having said that, it is better that you realised it now than once your money was in your friends bank account.
SG
xx

poet123

I can sense your upset and disappointment. From what you have written on here it is her loss not yours. You seem like a lovely friend and if she carries on in this vein (regardless of what personal issues have lead her here)she will end up a lonely embittered woman.

Take care OP and spend some time with your real friends, the ones who value you through thick and thin and who can see the wood for the trees.

*zippy*

Sorry it wasn't quite as you expected Koala, but at least you know now rather than later.

She lost a good friend in you huni, more fool her x

Igottawii!!

koalamummy wrote: »

Today did not go anything like I expected at all. Have to admit I was kidding myself about how everything was going to work out in the end. Looks like I should have listened to you all as you could all see the situation for what it really was rather than how I wanted it to be.

It was lovely seeing her and catching up some more but it became evident quite quickly that she would be happy to reestablish and tolerate my friendship as a means to an end rather than any great desire for my company.

Oh KM I'm so sorry to hear that, it must feel like being punched in the stomach all over again
Take care and know it's her issue and not yours

peachyprice

koalamummy wrote: »

Today did not go anything like I expected at all. Have to admit I was kidding myself about how everything was going to work out in the end. Looks like I should have listened to you all as you could all see the situation for what it really was rather than how I wanted it to be.

It was lovely seeing her and catching up some more but it became evident quite quickly that she would be happy to reestablish and tolerate my friendship as a means to an end rather than any great desire for my company.

I'm sorry to hear it didn't turn out the way you hoped it would, but I'm so glad for you that you posted here first gathering opinions that enabled to be on your guard and see through her.

lostinrates

koalamummy wrote: »

Today did not go anything like I expected at all. Have to admit I was kidding myself about how everything was going to work out in the end. Looks like I should have listened to you all as you could all see the situation for what it really was rather than how I wanted it to be.

It was lovely seeing her and catching up some more but it became evident quite quickly that she would be happy to reestablish and tolerate my friendship as a means to an end rather than any great desire for my company.

Well, I am certainly glad you saw through it.

For all I said about how difficult it can be to be without and I have to admit something's I am not proud of ( I cried when I found out my sibling in law was pregnant for example) I am actually very happy for my friends and their families. One friend 'lends' me her toddler regularly, and has since he was a baby, which has been fun for all of us. ( she gets a few hours off, he loves it here and we love having him here. Dh and I are as proud if him as we are our neices and geographically closer. Others bring children to play here, children who e love as 'little friends' as we love their Parents. I would be lying if I pretended it's always 'ok' with me, but it's more pleasurable to have children in our lives in this wa than it would be not to know any of these wonderful, imaginative, fun, creative beings of potential.