frustrated!!

sweetsheep84

onlyroz wrote: »

As a stay-at-home mum I would say it is your "job" to do most of the cooking and cleaning for the household. If you're struggling to find time to do all of this then I'd suggest that you lower your standards, especially on the housework front. Floors don't need mopping every day and carpets don't need hoovering every day. If you have a problem with damp/mould then buy a dehumidifier - I've just got one because I dry the washing in our bedroom and I was fed up of the walls and windows dripping with water, and I've been amazed to find that the dehumidifier works and can collect a litre or so of water each day

I agree and I dont have a problem with it. I just want a day(morning) not to get up and cook. Will defo look into de-humidfier. Thanks

thehappybutterfly

sweetsheep84 wrote: »

Hi thehappybutterfly, I try not to use chemicals as much but do try wipe the moisture off daily as it gets mouldy easily in each room. Thanks. Think i do need to relax a bit.

I know what you mean about the moisture and mould. I have a major problem with both in this ancient energy deficient house. I second the recommendation of a dehumidifier. We actually got a system installed to deal with the damp - Positive Airflow System I think it's called. It cost a few hundred, sits in the loft very quietly and costs something like 7p a day to run. That's solved a lot of the problem. If you can, keep your windows open a crack all the time and wide open as much as you can.

It's soul destroying isn't it, seeing mould spring up everywhere? As I sit here, I know on the wall behind me in the corner there's a growing area of mould and mildew and I really need to get up and wipe it. I usually use anti-bac wipes. In fact... <<trots off to do just that>>.... :A

mucklebones

OK on a Sunday I would have the uniforms ready for about a week, they do not need ironed everyday. I would get up when your son does, sod the OH he can sort himself out. Keep your routine with son, if you get time for a little housework before you leave for school do it, if not when you get home at 9.30 am hammer the house for an hour getting it cleaned then do nothing(your time! does not have to be nothing) until you go get your son.
At 3.40 I would not be doing more work with him after a long day, sometimes too much can actually not be as beneficial especially if he has difficulty concentrating. Hes been conforming at school all day save this for later if you feel its absolutely necessary.
5.00 start dinner and finish dinner within an hour including washing up. Meals dont have to be epic.
Between 6-8 baths/showers and bedtime that is fine. Washing does not take too long to sort out.
Use your time in the day for YOUR time instead of making extra work for yourself and you might feel less frustrated.
At 8.30 other than loading and unloading a washing machine you get a good 2 hours to relax then too?

Have I missed something?

sweetsheep84

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

please dont take offence at anything i say as i know its different for everybody



im really not wanting to be harsh but you need a better routine to fit more stuff in the daytime imo

I tend to find hidden away plates by OH. Annyoing habbit. Uniform doesnt get dried till morning. Dishes by mid day is the morning and hidden away dishes. DS walks slow. Slower if with scooter as he stops and tries to push it lol. I tend to tidy up as I cook. OH just makes a mess when he comes in so i leave it till hes eaten.

I am not offended. In fact, I appreciate your input

sweetsheep84

Hi mucklebones, 8:30 to 9:30 is when i squeeze in deadenders and online banking for us. So it is not just play time unfortunately lol. Thanks for your input though. Some things will be changed.

thunderbird

Definitely make sandwiches - for husband and son - the night before. Wrapped up tight and left in the fridge, they will be fine the next day.

Show your husband how to make porridge in the microwave. Only takes couple of mins and minimal mess. He can run the hot water into the sink whilst it is cooking and then wash his bowl up afterwards.

That means you can get up at 7am instead of 4.30am!

Put washing in machine before you take your son to school and take it out when you get back home - then it can be hung outside (if you have facilities - and if weather is ok!).

Clean kitchen as you are cooking and always wash up afterwards - never leave dishes overnight.

sweetsheep84

Well. I was only having problems about the weekend me wanting a day off now it seems its my whole week lol.

Hi thundercats, thanks. I do washing at night is coz OHs uniform. Only got given a set at work and they DO need washing daily. Some porridge cant be made in microwave (his peanut butter one) so its harder. But yes, will try the sandwich night before one.

Indout96

Not sure if I dare post on here being a man

Your OH sounds like a pi11ock but still I agree with the above poster you need to get organised.

Making sandwiches is 10 mins max, washing up about the same.
You have an hour down for laundry as WORK but once its in the machine that hour is spare until it needs to come out again.

sweetsheep84

Indout96 wrote: »

Not sure if I dare post on here being a man

Your OH sounds like a pi11ock but still I agree with the above poster you need to get organised.

Making sandwiches is 10 mins max, washing up about the same.
You have an hour down for laundry as WORK but once its in the machine that hour is spare until it needs to come out again.

The washing machine stops at least once in the process, so i have to listen to it, go back and turn it back on. Put it on spin when it finishes. I do squeeze in my one soap and online banking in that time too.

I dont really have a problem with doing all this work. I just want a Sat or Sun morning to myself. Not a mum or a wife. But myself.

365days

While you keep doing these things for hubby he will continue to expect them simple as that.

Why don't you look into getting a part time job? This will

a.Get you out of the house (Sounds a pretty lonely and dull exsistence)
b. Earn you some money (Can buy DS an extra set of uniform)
c. Show Oh that you are not just a house skivvy
d. Make OH take some childcare responsibility (If you got a weekend or evening job)

You have loads of free time everyday. You just choose to use it online. That's fine but it could be more wisely spent elsewhere.