***UPDATED POST 102***Terrible kisser?

miss_independent

Would you stop seeing someone simply because they are a terrible kisser? Or would you try and, erm, "teach" them.

I've just had the worst kiss of my life. Worst than my first kiss which is saying something.

Issues were: His breath smelled like poo and I was desperately trying not to vomit. It was very wet and "pecky" and I ended up with his smelly spit on my nose. There was no build up, it came out of nowhere and kind of happened before I was expecting it. Thankfully it was over quickly.

I think he is just extremely inexperienced but he is a sweet, well mannered, handsome guy. But a TERRIBLE kisser. Should I give him another chance?

whitewing

No, it was terrible.

thatgirlsam

I'd like to say yes but in reality not sure I could cope with that and would probably shy away from the next kiss

How awful, what a shame - Honestly I think some people's DNA doesn't mix and that has something to do with a gross kiss! Nature trying to tell you something!

miss_independent

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I'd like to say yes but in reality not sure I could cope with that and would probably shy away from the next kiss

How awful, what a shame - Honestly I think some people's DNA doesn't mix and that has something to do with a gross kiss! Nature trying to tell you something!

Lol I think Nature is trying to tell me to give up! It was my first kiss in years too...let down doesn't begin to describe it.

Life as a crazy cat lady beckons!

skintchick

I don't know. Kissing can be learnt, plus there's more to intimacy than kissing.

Do you connect on other levels and in other ways?

londonsurrey

If he's 16, then it's excusable. If he's 30, then you kind of begin to worry about someone that age who doesn't know about flossing and dental hygiene and is that inexperienced - what mitigating circumstances are there? Has he been locked away, beavering for a professorship in all that time?

thatgirlsam

skintchick wrote: »

I don't know. Kissing can be learnt, plus there's more to intimacy than kissing.

Do you connect on other levels and in other ways?

But she was trying not to vomit!

I think that goes beyond a 'bit of a rubbish' kiss - We've all had those and I wouldn't dump someone over that.

But when it's that bad you try not to vomit?!

glitter03

If you don't get a spark or passion from the kiss then it doesn't look good for other areas!

unoriginal_uk

Just in my own experience I would cut your losses and run. When I was younger and at college I went out with a guy VERY briefly who was so awful a kisser it felt like my mouth was being attacked by a bowl of jellied eels everytime I had the misfortune of being kissed by him.

My friends all really liked him and he was lovely so I made the mistake of staying with him for a few weeks in the hope that he would get better but towards the end I just found myself finding every excuse not to kiss him at all because it was just so awful and we ended up being friends who everyone (including him) still thought were in a relationship!! I broke up with him in the end and actually lost several 'friends' over it because they 'could not see what the big deal was' but it was a huge thing to me. There was no chemistry there at all and the kissing thing just made me feel sick and on edge all the time.

So in my opinion, it's not something that can get better if it's awful right from the start (but others may have different experiences to share!)

miss_independent

skintchick wrote: »

I don't know. Kissing can be learnt, plus there's more to intimacy than kissing.

Do you connect on other levels and in other ways?

It's early days...it could be that we just end up as friends. He's really nice. And beautiful to look at but, after tonight, I don't know about physical attraction. He didn't really seem to know what he was doing at all. There wasn't an intimate feel at all. His eye contact is pretty poor.

londonsurrey wrote: »

If he's 16, then it's excusable. If he's 30, then you kind of begin to worry about someone that age who doesn't know about flossing and dental hygiene and is that inexperienced - what mitigating circumstances are there? Has he been locked away, beavering for a professorship in all that time?

I'm 28 and he's younger than me. Mitigating circumstances... I dunno, maybe he's too nice? Might have always fell into the "friend" category.

londonsurrey

Mmmmm, talking about sparks. I remember when the relationship with my paramour was new (I'm middle aged, too old for a bf. Lol)

He literally made me go weak at the knees when he touched me, but he didn't know it. It led to silly situations - one day, we were a bit late getting to an auction. He grabbed my hand and said "Let's run for it". Unfortunately, him touching my hand made my knees go funny - of course, just at the point that he was trying to make me run. Lol!