***UPDATED POST 102***Terrible kisser?

pigpen

Dump him.. My sister was amusing she had a similar experience and came into the house and said 'well he's dumped it was like kissing the dog!' lol

londonsurrey wrote: »

If he's 16, then it's excusable. If he's 30, then you kind of begin to worry about someone that age who doesn't know about flossing and dental hygiene and is that inexperienced - what mitigating circumstances are there? Has he been locked away, beavering for a professorship in all that time?

My OH had only had 1 gf before he met me and that only lasted a few months. He is just shy and doesn't get on well in social situations so didn't meet anyone. He was 25 when he met her and 28 when he met me. So there are other reasons for being inexperienced... I saw that as a good thing.

valk_scot

I really wish I'd waited till after breakfast to read this thread....

Honestly though OP, either you can tell him he's got awful breath or you can not kiss him again. Only you can make the call. How much do you fancy him otherwise, that's the question?

mrcow

There is no excuse for having a mouth like a drain. Not in this day and age.

If that's how bad it is in the evening, imagine what his morning breath will be like! I'm feeling sick thinking about it.


Run like the wind, girl!

mrcow

Oh and if his dental hygiene is that bad, it doesn't bode well for what his hygiene in other areas may be like..........

miss_independent

Morning all! No nightmares, thank the Lord!

It's so hard, I don't want to hurt him or damage his confidence more but I'm honestly dreading ever having to kiss him again. It's not just the kiss or the breath...just physically he was awkward. When he kissed me, he didn't take me into his arms or touch my face or my neck or anything he just sort of grabbed my elbows and next thing I knew his lips were on mine! Oh and there was about a mile of space between our bodies. There wasn't a sense of us getting closer as the night went on, or a building up of any kind of intimacy. I felt like a teenager...and not in a good way. When I was at school/sixth form I kissed a few boys who had never kissed anyone before and, compared to this guy, they were good. Honestly, I don't think he has a clue about women. And I'm not sure that I want to be his teacher because that's my day job lol!

I think alot of my problem as well is that I've been single for such a long time and people have made me feel like its my fault ("oh you are too picky!" "you scare men off" etc) that I kind of feel like I'm running out of chances. I'm fine on my own but I do miss having someone. If I'm honest, that and the fact I don't want to hurt him are the two reasons I'm considering giving him another chance. But a huge part of me feels that I'd SO much rather be single than kiss him again. There's really just no attraction there. But I used to believe that could grow over time.

miss_independent

geminilady wrote: »

I never liked how my husband kissed but he was the best lover I have had.

See I don't think I could marry someone who was a bad kisser, I'd find it hard to even get to the bedroom with him! Kissing is a big deal in my world lol.

VestanPance

miss_independent wrote: »

It's so hard, I don't want to hurt him or damage his confidence more but I'm honestly dreading ever having to kiss him again. It's not just the kiss or the breath...just physically he was awkward. When he kissed me, he didn't take me into his arms or touch my face or my neck or anything he just sort of grabbed my elbows and next thing I knew his lips were on mine! Oh and there was about a mile of space between our bodies. There wasn't a sense of us getting closer as the night went on, or a building up of any kind of intimacy. I felt like a teenager...and not in a good way. When I was at school/sixth form I kissed a few boys who had never kissed anyone before and, compared to this guy, they were good. Honestly, I don't think he has a clue about women. And I'm not sure that I want to be his teacher because that's my day job lol!

So by the sounds of it he's socially awkward or at the very least inexperienced with the opposite sex and has terrible dental hygiene. Doesn't sound like much of a catch.

miss_independent

VestanPance wrote: »

So by the sounds of it he's socially awkward or at the very least inexperienced with the opposite sex and has terrible dental hygiene. Doesn't sound like much of a catch.

I think, surprisingly, it's that he is inexperienced. Surprisingly because he isn't socially awkward, he is attractive, other girls fancy him, he is funny, sweet and can hold a good conversation. He just ain't got a clue about kissing or wooing or even...hugging?! Maybe he just isn't a very physically affectionate person.

VestanPance

miss_independent wrote: »

I think, surprisingly, it's that he is inexperienced. Surprisingly because he isn't socially awkward, he is attractive, other girls fancy him, he is funny, sweet and can hold a good conversation. He just ain't got a clue about kissing or wooing or even...hugging?! Maybe he just isn't a very physically affectionate person.

If it was a first date could just be nerves I guess. Although that wouldn't excuse the bad breath.

Might just be his personality type. I know that I'm fairly insular and often take a while to open up to people, particularly physically.

I know at least one woman how hated the fact I'm not a flirt, so would get annoyed that I only conversed with her about serious topics despite her barrage of flirty stuff banter. Being male and not fawning after her 24/7 apparently marked me out as one of those "weirdos".

miss_independent

VestanPance wrote: »

If it was a first date could just be nerves I guess. Although that wouldn't excuse the bad breath.

Might just be his personality type. I know that I'm fairly insular and often take a while to open up to people, particularly physically.

I know at least one woman how hated the fact I'm not a flirt, so would get annoyed that I only conversed with her about serious topics despite her barrage of flirty stuff banter. Being male and not fawning after her 24/7 apparently marked me out as one of those "weirdos".

Yeah but he didn't need to kiss me...It wasn't like I was begging him to :rotfl: He (clumsily) made the first move. On my behalf there was no pressure physically.