***UPDATED POST 102***Terrible kisser?

VestanPance

miss_independent wrote: »

Yeah but he didn't need to kiss me...It wasn't like I was begging him to :rotfl: He (clumsily) made the first move. On my behalf there was no pressure physically.

That sounds like nervous and inexperience.

He liked you and wanted to be physical, but due to nerves wasn't through the night and then just lunged at what his brain deemed an appropriate moment.

miss_independent

VestanPance wrote: »

That sounds like nervous and inexperience.

He liked you and wanted to be physical, but due to nerves wasn't through the night and then just lunged at what his brain deemed an appropriate moment.

That sounds about right. Lunge! That's the word! I mean, as I mentioned before, he kissed me a few times but they all came out of nowhere and were very hasty. It was just...awkward .It can't have been good for him either because he kept getting me in a vice like elbow grip and breaking off before I had a chance to respond in any way.

I never thought I'd be so grateful for a night in on my own with the telly. I've got to see him at a mutual friends party at the weekend though . I'm thinking about painting on a fake bleeding coldsore :rotfl:.

Threebabes

oohhh noooooo.

Pthree

miss_independent wrote: »

I think alot of my problem as well is that I've been single for such a long time and people have made me feel like its my fault ("oh you are too picky!" "you scare men off" etc) that I kind of feel like I'm running out of chances. I'm fine on my own

Oh this sounds soooooooo familiar!!

But honestly, look around at the friends that tell you this, are you envious of their relationships, really?

Out of my "friends" there is one couple who I look at and think "ahh that’s what I want", and they are the only ones who don’t think I am too fussy.

I think most of my friends have "settled" or go out with anyone just for the sake of having an OH and I am not prepared to do that.

Yes I am choosey, so what.

But, someone remind me I said this in ten years time when I have 40 cats

PS: Good kissing - even if technique can be learned, chemistry can’t be created.

Lunar_Eclipse

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Really? Because kissing to me, is a good half of a good lover, maybe that's just a male talking

I agree with you, but I also had a similar experience to Gemimilady. I actually can't breathe properly when my husband is really close to me (in a weak at the knees way, not a bad breath way!) but needed to teach him how I wanted to be kissed. It is personal preference though, because I have a female friend who isn't remotely interested in any foreplay, including kissing and apparently a lot of friends who say they never kiss (snog) their husbands anymore.

Glad to hear I'm not alone on a love of kissing. Bad breath and not being a naturally tactile person (if he is, it's very early days) are much harder to deal with, but I'd say it takes about 5 minutes to become a brilliant kisser.

Is there chemistry? If so, I'd stick with it. If not, walk away.

thehappybutterfly

Oh dear. My hubby isn't the best kisser either but we've been together 18 years! He's very wet, leads with his tongue most of the time but sometimes it's quite 'pecky'. Now that I think about it, OP, are you sure you weren't kissing my hubby? :rotfl:

You learn to live with it........

ETA: And bad breath too. Not great but what can I say to him?

miss_independent

Pthree wrote: »

Oh this sounds soooooooo familiar!!

But honestly, look around at the friends that tell you this, are you envious of their relationships, really?

Out of my "friends" there is one couple who I look at and think "ahh that’s what I want", and they are the only ones who don’t think I am too fussy.

I think most of my friends have "settled" or go out with anyone just for the sake of having an OH and I am not prepared to do that.

Yes I am choosey, so what.

But, someone remind me I said this in ten years time when I have 40 cats

PS: Good kissing - even if technique can be learned, chemistry can’t be created.

To be honest, it's not so much my friends (they know how hard it is to meet someone and they genuinely believe no one we know is good enough for me lol), it's my parents and relatives and friends of the family who are alot older. I find they are much more direct in questioning me and making me feel bad. I feel they assume I'm happy being a single, independent, "career woman" and try and make me aware of things I'm already aware of like the fact I'm alone and my biological clock is ticking. It's not like my childhood dream was to be alone, unloved and childless. Like lots of people I dream of love, marriage and children but it hasn't happened yet for me. I don't need constant reminders of the things which make me sad and insecure. They really make me feel like a freak. But that's a whole 'nother thread!

I actually don't know any really loved up couples in real life that I want to emulate! Everyone I know argues too much and don't seem very affectionate with each other. I think I'd rather be alone than in an unhappy relationship.

mucklebones

Bleghhh trying not to vomit just imagining lol.

I think that would of been a major turn off for me and doomed any possibility of relationship.

Good luck though in whatever you decide.

miss_independent

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

Oh dear. My hubby isn't the best kisser either but we've been together 18 years! He's very wet, leads with his tongue most of the time but sometimes it's quite 'pecky'. Now that I think about it, OP, are you sure you weren't kissing my hubby? :rotfl:

You learn to live with it........

ETA: And bad breath too. Not great but what can I say to him?

:rotfl: How can you put up with it? If I liked someone enough to marry them I'd have instigated things so that he'd end up kissing me how I want to be kissed! How have you resisted saying "Babe, your breath STINKS! BRUSH YOUR DAMN TEETH!"
:rotfl:

busiscoming2

My DH wasn't very good at snogging when we first got together, more like a long peck on the lips. I left it a couple of weeks and then told him he'd have to learn to kiss me properly or else! It worked, he's pretty good now (but we have been practising for 17 years!)

He didn't have bad breath though - I don't think I could have coped with that!