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Kit_Kat_Kate

taggiesgirl wrote: »

HI,

Can I ask what milk is she on, we had to change my girls,she was crying all day everyday very unsettled and really unhappy a right grump.
We changed to cow and gate comfort which has reduced lactose in it.
and then we had a different baby:j
.

Im breast feeding.

Kit_Kat_Kate

fsdss wrote: »

i'm afraid to tell you that at around 9 months (and up to a couple of months either side) babies form a primary carer attachment and will become distressed when not in company with their primary carer, nor receiving full attention.

many studies of this have been conducted primarily from John Bowlby ~(who looked at child behaviour)

how they react to it differs from screaming for attention to short lived cry. what it mean is that you have formed an attachment well. and i would just ride the storm for a little while longer.


it happened to me with my LO, however those few months were difficult and i asked to go back to work earlier than take my year off as i couldn't bear it- however a couple of months later things started to improve and i actually felt more relaxed as time got on.

Don't be afraid. It reasuring to know, thanks.

taggiesgirl

is your little one on solids?

scubaleopard

I should try a cranial osteopath . I had a friend who had a crying baby and it worked wonders. Take care

anonymousie

AnnieH wrote: »

That's interesting that you say your crying baby was super intelligent. My eldest daughter is 8 and was grumpy screaming baby from hell. She is seeing an educational psychologist this month as her teacher wants to get her IQ tested as she thinks she may be super clever:)

Fascinating, I know it is all anecdotal, but my eldest was a miserable s*d till 12 plus months. As with many here I felt a failure as a mum, and was so pleased to get back to work part time even when she was 4-5 months old.

She did improve dramatically from 12 months or so (she was breast fed so I doubt milk was a problem- the only thing I felt i could offer her was milk that really comforted her, so I expressed fanatically and she had it at nursery too).

To cut to the present day, she is 14 and in the top few academically (and the top in several subjects) at a highly selective state grammar school. She is also musical- a cathedral chorister and a member of the national youth recorder orchestra.

From about 18 months plus she has been lovely though- and 12-18 months wasn't too bad.....Definately see your GP but hang in there, I honestly believe some babies are just miserable bleeders and do not like being small and helpless IYSWIM

We now have 2 others who were fairly miserable but no where near like their dear sis. We have a 2.5 yr age gap both times- probably showing that it took us "longer than average" to get to grips with each new baby.....Certainly DS is bright, probably as bright as his elder sister (he has a place in the boys school attatched to hers), youngest is nearly 8 and a maths whizz ....They are all so lovely now((()))

jopsey

Have you got a local sure start centre nearby ?

shazrobo

hi kate, you are a great mum, otherwise u wouldn't be worried.
i have identical twin sons who went through the crying a lot stage around the same age as your little one.
young babies need lots entertaining through the day, and a calm settling routine at bedtime.
when mine were that age and woke during the night instead of giving a feed, i would offer a bottle of cooled boiled water, they soon stopped waking.
maybe try offering a little more solid food during the day if u think little one is hungry, my sons were and still are big eaters.
advice from my HV at the time were try and get some time alone, even if it means putting stereo on for ten mins while u have a cuppa, so long as baby is in a safe place they will come to no harm, being left cryin for a few mins, and the music will drown them out.
honestly it will get better, big hugs

ooobedoo

Just a question....with your breast feeding, could the quaility of your milk be effected by the stress? I so hope you get to the bottom of what is upsetting her, I know how if feels to a certain level. My son would cry because it was a tuesday, cry because he didn't like the colour I was wearing, cry when he couldn't crawl walk, talk etc etc. I had PND and I felt like everybody in supermarkets was judgeing me to be a bad mother as he was crying. He grew out of it when he started having the ability to do all of this, my daughter is little miss chilled out, she is a puker though!!! No clothes are safe when she is around.

I hope that you find out and big !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

EthelBloggs

cranial massage is very good, a friend of mine had a baby like this that cried all the time, she took her for a massage and it was like a miracle.

I'll try and find some info for you tomorrow, off to bed now

donny_osmonds_mad_fan

hi there, just wondered if it could be reflux? maybe if the baby is on solids she maybe having reflux? My little one developed it at about 11mths and she cried for no reason but we gave her some babies gaviscon sachets and she was fine, she grew out of it about 18 mths.

I knew a girl also whose baby cried all of the time from when he was born and a year on it was discovered he had quite a severe reflux issue too...its horrid when we have heartburn and that is what lot of babies have but it isnt picked up on.