The Most Saddest Baby...

BusyLizzie_3

Much sympathy to you - I know how hard it can be to have a crying baby! There is a support group for parents of babies who cry a lot, called Cry-sis - they have a helpline you can ring for support and advice. As others have said, it would probably benefit both of you if you had regular breaks from your little one - is there anyone near you who could look after her for you occasionally?

AnnieH

That's interesting that you say your crying baby was super intelligent. My eldest daughter is 8 and was grumpy screaming baby from hell. She is seeing an educational psychologist this month as her teacher wants to get her IQ tested as she thinks she may be super clever:)

Kit_Kat_Kate

There isn't anyione but her Dad and he works long hours. She doesn' pull her legs up or pull her eyes. She sit puts her hands up for me to pick her up and cries.... I can't get anything done when she goes to bed then I do all my jobs I will get to bed about 11. She wakes at around 12.30, 2.30 and 5. Finally gettng up between half 5 and half 6. I feel I can't cope anymore and thinking about going back to work full time to get a break. which makes me even more sad.

*zippy*

Kate

I do think though that you need to have a chat with a different health visitor or visit your doctor just to put your mind at ease. Did it start when she went on solids or did anything happen that could have triggered it? Write it down and don't let them fob you off until you happy.

My second DD cried constantly from birth and wouldn't be put down, she improved when she started walking. Just to give you hope she is now 11 and has turned out to be an absolute joy, always happy and loving.

Hope it improves for you soon.
zippy x

Kit_Kat_Kate

She only use to cry when she was hungry/sleepy. But now she crys all the time. That's why I think its my fault that I have made her this way?

Katgoddess

Kit_Kat_Kate wrote: »

Yes and feel like I have failed as a Mum.

You have not failed as a mum. You have realised that something is not quite right and you are seeking advice and reassurance from other mums. You care - and that is the most important part of the job description of being a mum .

I second the advice on getting a second opinion from a GP or another health visitor, just to put your mind at rest. Do you have a Surestart Children's Centre near you? They often have health visitors and health professionals attached to them, so you can drop in for advice.

Good luck. It sounds like you have an intelligent child.

soolin

Kate, you've done nothing wrong. Every baby is different and there does seem to be a theme here with bright children starting off as criers. The other hting that seems to come out of thse replies is that they grow up to be affectionate as well, so maybe all the physical contact they demand as a baby carries on when they are older.

I look at my son and I look at my friends sons and I know which I prefer. Whilst at 15 many boys are becoming aggressive and don't want to be around their family, my son is still a joy to be with.

Kit_Kat_Kate

Thanks for your kind comments, I feel a bit better. I will see my GP .

*zippy*

Kit_Kat_Kate wrote: »

She only use to cry when she was hungry/sleepy. But now she crys all the time. That's why I think its my fault that I have made her this way?

You must not think this Kate, I think it is true what someone mentioned earlier that they are bright children trapped in a babies body. Its really hard to cope with when you are going through it, but it makes you a brilliant mum, after coping with this you can cope with anything they throw at you in later years....honestly!

PoochyChoo

how about joining a baby group, at 9 months old perhaps she would liek to see other babys and sit/crawl with them for an hour? how about investing in a baby waker sit in type, and she if she likes that as then she can mover herself around a bit !