Trying for a Baby Part 9

teaandcakeordeath

Clevernamehere wrote: »

Thanks, it feels better to know I'm not the only crazy one! I just hate the thought of being a bad friend.
Came off the pill in Feb 2012 but I reckon we've been "trying" for around a year. Been using a cbfm for the last 3/4 cycles. Periods are mostly regular and no underlying health problems. I suppose I've been putting off a doctors visit because it would make it all too real. What could I expect at an initial visit to the gp?

Thoughts are neither good nor bad. They're just thoughts. And your thoughts are not you. You're not a bad person or a bad friend.

Initial visits to the GP tend to vary for a lot of women on here. Some are fobbed off and sent away, others are treated properly! When I went for my initial GP appointment I went with a list of my cycles (dates), temperature charts to show I was ovulating, the varying bd patterns we'd tried- SMEP, every 3 days, every day during fertile window etc. etc. I also went having lost some weight (GPs love to blame weight for fertility problems- if you can go and show that you're doing something about it they seem more inclined to help rather than tell you to go away and diet- obvs don't know if this applies to you... ). I have endo & pcos so not sure if that was what made him refer me for primary investigations after 16months ttc or if it was the look of sheer 'I'm not going anywhere until you're referring me' look on my face.

Go prepared. That's basically the only advice I can give you. If possible take your OH and get him on board- it's an uphill struggle otherwise, My OH thought I was being paranoid- I wasn't and I'm gad I gently bullied him into it! Be aware that if you are referred for investigation your OH will have to be willing to have an SA. Your first investigations will probably be no more than day 3 and 21 bloods and possibly an ultrasound scan. If possible get OH SA arranged through the GP rather than waiting in case you need further investigation. SA's seem to hold everything up and even if they find something with you they won't offer fertility support- clomid/ trigger shots/ ivf etc. until they have OH SA results. Once referred onto the hospital they'll probably do a few other tests like HSG (to check for uterine anomalies/ blocked tubes) and more ultrasounds/ blood tests.

HTH...

teaandcakeordeath

Mrs_T_M wrote: »

Walked outside to check on the clothes on the line and overheard my neighbour and his girlfriend talking. They were trying to figure out a pregnancy test. Turns out it was negative, so now they are celebrating by getting as drunk as possible and smoking weed... Needless to say I pulled all of the clothes in off the line so that they wouldn't smell of drugs.

Glad I'm not the only one with scummy mummy neighbours next to me. Mine smokes weed in front of her 3 kids and never communicates with them in anything less than a scream. She had the third one after the job centre told her to start looking for a job when her second turned 4 and went to school. Words fail me how much I can't stand her. She's given me a brilliant twitch in my eye!

Mrs_T_M

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Glad I'm not the only one with scummy mummy neighbours next to me. Mine smokes weed in front of her 3 kids and never communicates with them in anything less than a scream. She had the third one after the job centre told her to start looking for a job when her second turned 4 and went to school. Words fail me how much I can't stand her. She's given me a brilliant twitch in my eye!

This one doesn't have kids (thank goodness!). He lives next door, she doesn't. She's a nurse, so she should know better! I'm beginning to suspect that he's actually a dealer. I never see him leave the house (and I'm home 90% of the time) and people are always coming and going over there. Every Friday and Saturday night it's the same. Loud, rowdy, lets build a fire that's too big for our fire pit and smoke out all of the neighbours, cursing, drunken, high fools. :mad:

I miss having the couple with the one year old that lived there before this guy moved in with daddy's money...

Edited to add: Quick question: Even though I'm trying to lose weight and stick with this thing now, should I wait to really be strict with it and try to get all of the unhealthy foods out and just not replace them? It will probably only take 2-3 weeks to get rid of all of the stuff that could cause cravings for me. I've already told DH that if he wants something like chocolate, he can have it, but keep it at his desk at the office so that I won't be tempted!

Reason I'm asking: we are a bit behind finances wise and it's going to take a week or two before we will have enough to buy groceries. If we eat the 'bad' stuff and get rid of it, when I can buy groceries, I can get 'good' stuff instead of more of the baddies.

I'd definitely like to make more room in our freezer (and defrost it) before I go grocery shopping. Green beans among other things are WAY cheaper frozen than fresh or tinned!

codemonkey

Clevernamehere wrote: »

Thanks, it feels better to know I'm not the only crazy one! I just hate the thought of being a bad friend.
Came off the pill in Feb 2012 but I reckon we've been "trying" for around a year. Been using a cbfm for the last 3/4 cycles. Periods are mostly regular and no underlying health problems. I suppose I've been putting off a doctors visit because it would make it all too real. What could I expect at an initial visit to the gp?

Hi Clevername here. Think we've all been at the stage where we're fed up with the pregnancy announcements and buying baby gifts. I hate this new fad for baby showers over here now too as its just another torture device.

I've just been to the GP to kick off the fertility investigations. The first GP I saw fobbed me off and told me to have sex on Day 14 of my (irregular) cycle and come back in 6 months. I didn't wait the 6 months because I then went on to have a long cycle with about 5 weeks of ewcm and saw a different doctor. I expected to cry but ended up being very clinical. I explained that we were having trouble getting pregnant, that we'd been actively trying for 15 months but been off the pill for over 3 years, that we were using ovulation tests and ewcm for tracking cycles. The second doctor was really good - very matter of fact, said I probably knew more about it than him, and not too sympathetic (I'd probably have cried if he'd given me pitying looks) I had to arrange day 21 bloods (7dpo) which came back showing low progesterone and did a CD2 test which came back normal. I also had to provide vaginal swabs for STIs. DH has done his first SA and has to do another one in 2 weeks and we've got a referral to the fertility clinic.

Going to the GP is scary but finding out that I'm not getting pregnant because I probably don't ovulate, despite having periods every month, is so much better than us continuing to keep trying unsuccessfully month after month, and actually I felt relieved after the first GP appointment. Obviously, I'd rather we got our BFP without help, but I wish we'd done it sooner.

codemonkey

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Glad I'm not the only one with scummy mummy neighbours next to me. Mine smokes weed in front of her 3 kids and never communicates with them in anything less than a scream. She had the third one after the job centre told her to start looking for a job when her second turned 4 and went to school. Words fail me how much I can't stand her. She's given me a brilliant twitch in my eye!

My neighbours on each side have little kids - although they're not scummy thankfully.

The worst one I know is something who used to be in my year at school - she was pretty messed up back then and I saw on facebook where she's a friend of a friend, that she's pregnant with her 5th kid and the other 4 kids are in care. That's not fair!!

Also, to whoever said they wanted to go the Home and Away beach - I've been there!! Not a totally positive experience. It was raining and the sea was choppy and I'm rubbish at surfing and I got stung by a bluey and couldn't feel my left hand.

teaandcakeordeath

How was your holiday code? Was it Croatia? I've wanted to go there for years.

Mrs_T_M

Just stepped on the scales, after eating half of my dinner. Down to 125.3 kg! I had to do a double take. I know I lose quickly during the first two weeks, but it's never been this quick before! 2 days on plan and 4.3kg down. :j

I've never lost more than 10 pounds due to bloating/water retention before, so hopefully there is actually something to this. I know it probably isn't 'real' weight loss, but it is still encouraging! DH and I are planning on taking a walk tonight to price some fresh and frozen veggies. I'm looking forward to the 3 mile round trip walk to Morrisons nearly every day once the finances straighten out so that I can start finding decent mark downs on fruit and veggies again.

codemonkey

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

How was your holiday code? Was it Croatia? I've wanted to go there for years.

It was great. We went to Croatia and made stops in Montenegro and Bosnia & Herzegovina too and all three had the most beautiful scenery.

teaandcakeordeath

Sounds fab. Glad you enjoyed it!

Disney_Pluto

Hey Everyone!

I'm currently sitting by the pool in the Venetian Hotel in Las Vegas. Had an amazing Wedding and honeymoon has been incredible! Will tell all when back in England.

Congratulations to all the BFP its lovely to have so many announcements!

I ended up only taking the pill to delay AF for the wedding so I am now [COLOR="rgb(255, 0, 255)"]CD 10 [/COLOR] please!

Hope everyone's ok?