Trying for a Baby Part 9

tinkwings

cd2 please

teaandcakeordeath

Clever (sorry for shortening your name- feel free to call me tcd!) I have told quite a few people now as I was driving myself to distraction. My Mum knows and it took a long time for her to understand what I was going through. Her initial response was the dreaded 'relax' as the no nonsense nurse in her took over. It wasn't until I snapped and had a massive row with her about how it felt that she grasped the impact it was having on us. She's still occasionally insensitive (She knows she'll be a Nan soon as I will get pregnant- not bloody likely by ourselves and though I know IVF is the only way I hate the idea.) but it's far better for me that she knows than doesn't. I suppose it's how you think your mum will support you and if she'll give you the support you need. It's taken me a will to drill into my mum what I need and we're still not totally there! I have a three friends who know. One who has her own ttc troubles, one who 'wouldn't be bothered if she was in my position' (nearly walloped her and no longer talk about it with her) and another who isn't looking to have kids but lets me rant and then gets me drunk. A couple of managers in work know as I've been off with depression relating to infertility and other stuff.

Basically if you can get the support you need then share.

teaandcakeordeath

*hugs* tinkwings

Mrs_T_M

Winner of August BFP predictions (4): No one! Closest guesses (5): samtoby, MrsMuffin, and ruth26

September Graduates:
samtoby: 12/9/13 :j:T
chelseablue: 16/9/13 :j:T
becsxxx: 17/9/13 :j:T
Sophiasmum: 18/9/13 :j:T

September BFP predictions
without-a-paddle: 3
chelseablue: 4
Disney_Pluto: 4
samtoby: 5
picklekin: 5
Mrs_T_M: 6
Part Mouse: 6
Loveactually: 6
becsxxx: 6
catloverbex: 7
MrsMuffin: 7
ashia: 7
ruth26: 7
kellykins: 7
tia86: 8
sophiasmum: 8
chocoholic_chick: 8
time2deal: 8
purcy81: 8
ttc39: 9
tea lover: 54!!!

Thread Graduates:
fluffysox BFP 06/02/13
toothfairy BFP 06/02/13
Hopelass BFP 10/02/13
MiffyMoo BFP 11/02/13
Lemonmelon BFP 14/02/13
maire BFP 19/02/13
Trina BFP 20/02/13
AngelMommy BFP 21/02/13
TTC40 BFP 21/02/13
Lilymay BFP 04/03/13
Retepetsir BFP 05/03/13
abis BFP 12/03/13
amy_85 BFP 14/03/13
vic3 BFP 23/03/13
KScarlet BFP 26/03/13
Optimistic_mummy BFP 16/04/13
Lilymay BFP 20/04/13
emylou BFP 21/04/13
amyloofoo BFP 24/04/13
BigZippy BFP 3/05/13
Mincepiemonster BFP 7/05/13
firefly BFP 22/05/13
TeamLowe BFP 27/05/13
Birdie85 BFP 2/6/13
Becca BFP 26/6/13
Faithhope BFP 26/6/13
Kynthia BFP 27/6/13
Lara44 BFP 29/6/13
blondy24 BFP 4/7/13
squ1rrel5 BFP 7/7/13
thriftylass BFP 9/7/13
Lannie Duck BFP 15/7/13
sjlou BFP 16/7/13
claire16c BFP 17/7/13
faith2009uk BFP 29/7/13
Katy29 BFP 7/8/13
Debs0778 BFP 8/8/13
twigpig BFP 14/8/13
Elsie37 BFP 20/8/13
samtoby BFP 12/9/13
chelseablue BFP 16/9/13
becsxxx BFP 17/9/13
Sophiasmum BFP 18/9/13

Mrs_T_M

Two week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD?? WillowCat - Awaiting AF :cool:
CD58 Slinky_Selina - 15DPO :cool:
CD38 Angeltreats*- 15DPO :cool:
CD30 Gopppers - 15DPO :cool:
CD29 Kellykins - 9DPO :cool:
CD26 cwtw - 8DPO :cool:
CD46 MrsMuffin - 8DPO :cool:
CD24 lilmissmup - 8DPO :cool:
CD19 lollypopswater- 6DPO :cool:
CD22 Loveactually - 5DPO :cool:
CD18 PommeVerte - 4DPO :cool:

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD92 JoJoB - Awaiting ov
CD83 any name will suffice - Awaiting ov
CD77 atton- Awaiting ov
CD71 skintchick - Awaiting ov
CD70 paulashek - Awaiting ov
CD62 Lemon Tree - Awaiting ov
CD60 january23- Awaiting ov
CD58 Loulou123 - Awaiting ov
CD50 Clarebear2013 - Awaiting ov
CD44 Kalama -Awaiting ov
CD39 claretsgirl - Awaiting ov
CD38 Skint_Catt - Awaiting ov
CD36 Smookle - Awaiting ov
CD31 LailaP - Awaiting ov
CD28 BabyMad* - Awaiting ov
CD26 tia86 - Awaiting ov
CD24 Skaps* - Awaiting ov
CD23 linz4383 - Awaiting ov
CD23 sweaty betty - Awaiting ov
CD21 ruth26 - Awaiting ov
CD21 Catloverbex - Awaiting ov
CD21 chocgirl - Awaiting ov
CD21 Fannyanna - Awaiting ov
CD21 159 - Awaiting ov
CD18 s0237276 - Awaiting ov
CD17 littleme - Awaiting ov
CD13 Chocoholic_chick - Awaiting ov
CD13 Vesper - Awaiting ov
CD12 credit_crunch - Awaiting ov
CD12 jammy26 - Awaiting ov
CD12 Disney_Pluto - Awaiting ov
CD11 time2deal - Awaiting ov
CD10 Carrot34 - Awaiting ov
CD9 Purcy – Awaiting ov
CD9 Mrs_T_ M – Awaiting ov
CD8 Codemonkey – Awaiting ov

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD5 ttc39 - Awaiting ov
CD4 tea lover - Awaiting ov
CD4 Goodvibes* – Awaiting ov
CD4 ejecoms - Awaiting ov
CD3 without-a-paddle - Awaiting ov
CD3 Picklekin - Awaiting ov
CD2 Clevernamehere - Awaiting ov
CD2 Tinkwings - Awaiting ov
CD1 Gelly123 - Awaiting ov

TCD's own special list
CD37 teaandcakeordeath- Awaiting next step

Those we haven't heard from in a while
MsTTC
Tashatutuw
KimLouise
McRach
Sapphire
Alice31
BeautyButterfly

Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
The names in blue has a link to their Fertility Friend chart.
When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

tia86

Mrs TM - I try not having any naughty food items around, but now OH doesn't work away this doesn't work out as he is super skinny and can get away with eating junk. I would just not replace any junk food once it has gone and only buy it when you want it

Code - glad you had a good holiday

Hugs withoutapaddle and tinks for AF arriving

Disneypluto and Catloverbex - hope you are both having great holidays, grand canyon is amazing!

ejecoms - sorry to see you back, hope your stay is short and you get a sticky bean

Welcome aquamarine

Hope you are enjoying your holiday Picklekin


Nothing much to report for me, finally BD today having not done it all week when we should have, guessing CD26 is going to be too late for a 34-36 day cycle

angeltreats

Hi all

Sorry for the silence, I'm also on holiday (in Italy) and having a lovely time but the internet access at our apartment is very dodgy so I've been able to read but not reply to anything, very frustrating!

AF was due yesterday and I've been cramping for a few days but no sign of any spotting yet. I stopped bothering to temp after FF gave me crosshairs but it might well have been a bit premature, so who knows where in my cycle I actually am. We'll be home on Tuesday so I might test then if AF hasn't made an appearance by then but judging from the cramps she isn't far away.

Can't believe our week here is over tomorrow night

tia86

Angel - hope you are having a lovely time, Italy is a lovely place to visit

So if you read my message above I though CD26 would be too late for ovulation....just used a cheapie internet one and have the most positive I have ever seen on one!!! This has never happened to me before - do I now BD the next few days? Am thinking will make my OH do it again later and then tomorrow- is that enough?

Gelly123

A quick check in from me in very sunny Portugal but CD1 here- totally gutted and burst into tears around the pool on Friday because of all the families with young children having a wonderful time - clearly AF was on her way :0)
As I know she's def arrived, I may have to indulge more in the all inclusive drink this evening.

Off to a water park tomorrow - hubby has never been to one before so it's going to be a fun day:0)

Back to the UK on Thursday - catch up soon and massive congrats to the BFPs in the last week
Much love
Gelly x

ttc39

ejecoms wrote: »

Can I join back in everyone (and come off the graduates list)?

I had a miscarriage about 2 months ago. We found out at the 12 week scan. They were worried that it might be a molar pregnancy so I had a ERPC but fortunately everything was fine. It has been really hard coming back here after 2 miscarriages this year, but I realise that a few of you are in the same boat as me.

The only good thing that came out of the miscarriage was that it made me reassess things and realise how my poor relationship with my in-laws was affecting my relationship with my husband and I've made a big effort to improve things with them and now things are much better between my husband and me.

Everyone keeps telling me how fertile you are after a miscarriage and I really hoped I'd be pregnant again by now (we started trying straight away, didn't even wait for my first period) but I'm not, think I'm now CD4.

I've now been TTC for 18 months, have barely touched alcohol in that time, severely cut down on caffeine, have now cut down on sugary food and look after my teeth obsessively (apparently bad teeth can increase your miscarriage risk), taken so many prenatal vitamins I rattle and even meditate to reduce my stress, DTD frequently and use the CBFM... I don't think there is anything else I can do! Even though it has been a long time trying, I don't think it is time to go to see a doctor because I've been pregnant twice this year but I've not had enough miscarriages to count as them being recurrent. And I'm always convinced that 'this month' will be the one... This month we were on holiday when I ovulated and we DTD every night so I was really convinced I was pregnant.

I have had really heavy implantation bleeds which last as long as a period all 3 times I've been pregnant so, for me, even when I start bleeding, I'm still hoping that I'm really pregnant.

Thinking of you all, especially those who have recently had a miscarriage,

Love Ejecoms

Sorry to hear your sad journey so far xxxx same happened to me and I hoped we would fall straight away too but no :-(

Lets hope everyone on this thread gets their forever babies very soon xxxxx