Ex Girlfriend Changed the locks

koalamummy

At risk of sounding like a complete idiot here I am going to suggest contacting a charity like shelter who will be able to tell you exactly what your grandson and his mothers rights are regarding their current housing situation. If you know this then you will know exactly what you can and can't do and in which order.

Dinnie2006

LannieDuck wrote: »

Dinnie, I know that she appears to have acted badly in this (I say 'appears' because we don't have her side of the story). Legally, you'd probably be in your rights to do what you're considering. However, I think you and your son need to step back from the situation and ask what you're hoping to achieve.

How important is it to you all that she vacates the property? It's liable to irrevocably damage the relationship between you and her, and grandparents have no automatic right to see their grandchildren. I realise you're not being allowed access to your grandson at the moment, but if you go down this path, she could cut contact for years.

I'm not saying its right, but you need to be pragmatic. As far as I can tell, your main aims should be:

i) ensuring your son has a viable address for when he leaves prison
ii) attempting to restore a relationship with your grandson

I think your plan may end up sacrificing ii) in order to achieve i). Has your son spoken to any probation officers (/similar), or taken advice yet?

Is there no way you can manage to speak to her? Can you go over at a time you know she'll be in?

If you have to go down the locksmith/police route, I would try to be as friendly about it as possible - e.g. put a letter through the letterbox in advance, send text messages/FB/whatever saying that you're not sure why she's changed the locks, but you have to get access to the property for a, b or c, so you're having them changed back. Could she please get in contact with you as a matter of urgency?

Lannie...i have tried contacting her both re the changing of the locks asked for a key, have told her i would like to see them both..we have requested contact with our Grandson,,my son has tried to contact her..she completely ignores all contact..We are aware of that some of my Sons belongings have been given to her Father and items from the House are in the Garden.We have now got to the stage of forewarned could be fore warned and if she knows qe will be turning up she will empty the house...so we now feel as tho its the only Option...
My son will be returning to his home and is due day release in next 3 weeks ...she has already told him she will try and mess this up for him...so we really do need to get her out
He is not in a very good place emotionally right now and is on anti depressants due to all this...

Person_one

Have you tried contacting her but not badgering her to give you unlimited access to her home and surrender her privacy and security?

Dinnie2006

koalamummy wrote: »

At risk of sounding like a complete idiot here I am going to suggest contacting a charity like shelter who will be able to tell you exactly what your grandson and his mothers rights are regarding their current housing situation. If you know this then you will know exactly what you can and can't do and in which order.

Have checked there web site ..it seems as tho because she has no contract or tenancy agreement she hasn't really got a leg to stand on...
We really have searched everywhere for advise re this situation..
It states because they are a Charity its not always the quickest route of obtaining advice..

Thanx tho

Dinnie2006

Person_one wrote: »

Have you tried contacting her but not badgering her to give you unlimited access to her home and surrender her privacy and security?

Yes..i asked as Advised on here if i could collect post...no response
I advised here as advised to let me have a key after she had changed the locks..no response
My son called her..her response was " what you calling me for..what you want..Then hung up..
Oh sorry just re read that...you mean access to the Home i,m paying for and the home ( that belongs to my son) while she gives his items away...she has crippled him emotionally now i,m supposed to sit back while she destroys everything hes worked for...o