Help Me Win Back The Love of my Life

Captain_Charisma

I've learned alot. I'll appreciate her more, I'll make a massive effort with her friends and family and make a massive with her with my friends and family, I'll do all the little things, I'll treat her like the princess she is.Theres so much more I could say. As far as the commitment goes, in the future I would love to make her my wife, in the short term I have just moved into my own house whilst she lives with her parents, I would give her a key and tell her she is welcome whenever she likes, I would ask her to move in but I know I need to earn the trust of her parents before asking that question - something which I would do whatever it takes to do.

marisco_2

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I'll know once and for all where I stand and that I made every effort to try make things right.

Why can you not see that sending multiple valentines cards does not 'make right' all that was wrong with your 6 year relationship. To think it does shows an unbelievable lack of understanding of how women think and what they value.

Stephb1986_2

Everyone we should leave the OP to make his own mistakes, he came here to ask advice we've given it and he's chosen not to take the advice on board. That is his choice leave him be.

OP I feel that it's all a little too late for the relationship to work, I mean 6 years where the hell have you been???? I've been with my partner coming up to 7 years I wouldn't dare let him treat me the way you've treated this girl. My OH isn't the most romantic but he has his moments. I will look forward to your update on the 15th.

Steph xx

Captain_Charisma

marisco wrote: »

Why can you not see that sending multiple valentines cards does not 'make right' all that was wrong with your 6 year relationship. To think it does shows an unbelievable lack of understanding of how women think and what they value.

I know I can't go back in time and change what I've done, but I can show her that I'm sorry and I want to make the effort. Knowing her like I know, I think she will appreciate the efforts I've gone to (especially the re-written lyrics). Whether it leads to a reconciliation or not is a different matter.

make_me_wise

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

One for each of the 6 years we've been together. The first will arrive Thursday, the second Friday, the third Saturday, the fourth Monday, the fifth Tuesday, the sixth Wednesday and I'll hand deliver this years on Thursday.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

A man with huge faith in Royal Mail. Do you really trust them to deliver the cards in order on the exact dates you want them to arrive.

Or are you paying extra to come across super creepy and arranging a courier?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Hurt or humiliated?


How about arrested?


Seriously, back off. You sound like a stalker. One that could quite easily hurt her if she still doesn't back down.

Captain_Charisma

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Hurt or humiliated?


How about arrested?


Seriously, back off. You sound like a stalker. One that could quite easily hurt her if she still doesn't back down.

It's not going to come to that.

Calien27

Captain_Charisma wrote: »

I know I can't go back in time and change what I've done, but I can show her that I'm sorry and I want to make the effort. Knowing her like I know, I think she will appreciate the efforts I've gone to (especially the re-written lyrics). Whether it leads to a reconciliation or not is a different matter.

She would have appreciated much more if you had done them when you were actually together. You've only "learned a lot" because she had enough and walked away.

Honestly, sending numerous cards (there is no way they will each arrive on the designated day btw) just comes across as desperate and clingy, and again, about this song...don't!!

Also, don't under any circumstances show up at her place of work with some grand gesture, not only will you embarrass her, potentially annoy her employer(s) you also run the risk of her never wanting to see or speak you again. Just write her a letter (only one) telling her how you feel, wish her well and leave it at that, leave with dignity.

EDIT; You don't know it won't come to that, she could very well feel you are over stepping the mark and get a restraining order.

aliasojo

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Hurt or humiliated?


How about arrested?


Seriously, back off. You sound like a stalker. One that could quite easily hurt her if she still doesn't back down.

C'mon Jo isn't that an assumption a bit too far?

What happened to the days of helpful advice and that was it?

MSE seems to be full of advice coupled with assumption then character assassination if the advice isn't heeded

I've had it myself and there's another thread on the go right now where someone else is getting similar.

None of us know him or her so why make assertions like the above?

Tropez

aliasojo wrote: »

C'mon Jo isn't that an assumption a bit too far?

What happened to the days of helpful advice and that was it?

MSE seems to be full of advice coupled with assumption then character assassination if the advice isn't heeded

I've had it myself and there's another thread on the go right now where someone else is getting similar.

None of us know him or her so why make assertions like the above?

More than a few cases at work involving stalking have involved a jilted lover not willing to let go, a ridiculously over-the-top "grand gesture" mentality to "win" the other party back and a complete lack of understanding that the behaviour could be considered quite disturbing.

Sure, it probably won't end like that but these so-called grand gestures could be considered quite unnerving. This woman has made it clear she no longer wishes to be in a relationship, she seems happy to have cut contact for the past week which is not indicative of a woman in two-minds, yet still, he wishes to invade her personal and private life as part of some grand scheme.

Frankly, even if his intentions simply are to regain his lost love, his actions show little respect for his former partner.