Son quit job

tiggerbodhi

suze200 wrote: »

You've hit the nail on the head there tht is exactly how he see himself. He knows nothing about foraging, hunting or anything and camping experience is limited to a few trips with cubs and scouts as a kid.

How about supporting him in this endevour, help him chose waterproof clothing, good boots, some basic camping gear, in reality would only be able to carry a basic tent, one spare set of clothes and the basics of cooking (remind him that carrying knives/hunting equipment in public can be seen as "dodgy" by the police) take him to the countryside drop him off first thing in the morning somewhere nice.

Once he has been told to move on by land owners if he tries to rough camp, realised that in winter in the uk the only foods that can be foraged are basically food waste from bins or roadkill, that starting a camp fire without nice dry wood and kindling is impossible, if he heads into a town or village be prepared to be mugged, beaten up, threatened, or share a hostel with drunks, drud addicts, sexually predatory men, water thrown over him to get him to move on from doorways or other places of shelter he may be begging to come home..... the utopian idea of the jolly tramp/tinker living off the land and wandering the green fields of england is ridiculous, unless you think he is suffering from depression or other mental illness he needs to Man up and have a reality check.

System

How about supporting him in this endevour, help him chose waterproof clothing, good boots, some basic camping gear, in reality would only be able to carry a basic tent, one spare set of clothes and the basics of cooking (remind him that carrying knives/hunting equipment in public can be seen as "dodgy" by the police) take him to the countryside drop him off first thing in the morning somewhere nice.

Thanks for that, ive just spat coffee all over my screen.


We have a phrase 'We dont have !!!!!!!!!!s in this house'. As soon as our children leave college they are expected to pay their way.

ps since when has Free Loaders (one word been singled out by the profanity filter?)

SuzieSue

Joons wrote: »

Do you have kids? If so, is this how you would treat them? He may be an `adult` but he's not a waster - he's a 19 year old who knows mum and dad will cover his back, that doesn't make him a waster, just a normal teenager.

And that is the problem with this generation of teenagers - their parents are too soft.

I would never have walked out on a job at that age without discussing it with my parents if I was still living under their roof because I would have been too frightened of the consequences.

Primrose

Well, the fact that your son was given his P45 and told to go, despite changing his mind, will have perhaps indicated to him a) that he should learn not to act hastily in important matters, and b) that the employers have plenty of other fish in the sea at the moment who are desperate for jobs. That is a chance he'll probably get again and your son needs to realise that slammed doors often don't open again.

Sounds like this week-end needs to be devoted to some serious talking with him.

SuzieSue

Primrose wrote: »

Sounds like this week-end needs to be devoted to some serious talking with him.

And the OP needs to consider if she or her husband would have done the same at her son's age without discussing it with their parents first and if not, why not?

Why does her son think it is ok to behave like that if his parents wouldn't have done the same?

Acc72

Treevo wrote: »

Mine wouldn't walk out of a perfectly good job without a damn good reason, and if while living under my roof, without discussing it with me.

If they did, they'd be expected to have a new job within a fortnight, and if they didn't, they wouldn't be living in my house.

You would really (actually in real life) do this, or is it just an over the top answer posted on the internet ?

Do you expect your adult children to "discuss" all major issues with you ? (and if you don't agree with them you will make them homeless) - that is actually the opposite of helping them to become self sufficient.

alleycat`

Acc72 wrote: »

You would really (actually in real life) do this, or is it just an over the top answer posted on the internet ?

Do you expect your adult children to "discuss" all major issues with you ? (and if you don't agree with them you will make them homeless) - that is actually the opposite of helping them to become self sufficient.

My DS isn't anywhere near old enough to work yet but i'd expect him to tell me if he wanted to give up his job and still lived at home. I'd also expect that he better have a damn good reason with nothing else lined up.

This would especially be the case if he expected me to pick up all his bills, washing, clothing, food etc.

I wouldn't expect them to discuss everything about their lives with me but i'm not there to be "abused" because they can't be arsed / are bored and think they can sit on the sofa playing games all day and night.

It doesn't help set them up for the "real world" by always bailing someone out because something is boring.

Edit: But that is just my opinion

SuzieSue

Acc72 wrote: »

Do you expect your adult children to "discuss" all major issues with you ? (and if you don't agree with them you will make them homeless) - that is actually the opposite of helping them to become self sufficient.

If they want to be treated as adults then they need to behave as adults. If they are relying on their parents for a roof over their head, then yes, they need to discuss any issues which will leave them without the means to pay their keep so deciding to leave a job without having another one to go to needs to be discussed with their parents. If they are living on their own, then it doesn't necessarily need to be discussed.

*Robin*

Haven't read all the replies so if this has been suggested already; apologies.

OP: Your DS wants to live close to the land, away from the stresses of modern life - but has little understanding of the skills he'll need.
:think: You could point him towards this organisation:

http://www.wwoof.org.uk/

He could learn while his board and lodging is covered by his hosts, and you can bet he'll find out a lot about himself and grow up in the process!

ps. You could point out to him that wifi is not commonly available in hedgerow bivouacs, so his gaming hobby won't be possible once he's living off the land.

tesuhoha

suze200 wrote: »

Told them he wanted to leave yesterday. He should work 2 weeks notice. He went in today and said hed been hasty and tried to pursuade his boss to give him another chance. He said sorry but no. Got called to HR for a meeting and was given p45 and they said they would pay him in lieu of notice and not to go back.

I actually think that's sad that they wouldn't give him another chance. Maybe they sensed his attitude before and he showed that he wasn't too keen on the job.

I hope he sorts himself out.