Son quit job

Joons

SuzieSue wrote: »

And that is the problem with this generation of teenagers - their parents are too soft.

I would never have walked out on a job at that age without discussing it with my parents if I was still living under their roof because I would have been too frightened of the consequences.

Totally agree Suzie.

building_with_lego

trolleyrun wrote: »

Change the password for the internet. Every day if you have to.

How do you do that?[/QUOTE]

Just noticed that no-one has answered this yet. On the router is written a web address and login name and password. Type the address into your browser and log in- you're now 'in' the router and can change the wifi password. Change the login password too though

alleycat`

building_with_lego wrote: »

Just noticed that no-one has answered this yet. On the router is written a web address and login name and password. Type the address into your browser and log in- you're now 'in' the router and can change the wifi password. Change the login password too though

Problem is if anyone has physical access to the router they can squash that with just a paper clip.
There'll be a hardware reset button on the device.

If you don't have "physical security" you have no security. Especially when it comes to teenagers who work in computers (briefly).

If you don't want someone to use it turn it off and take it with you.

ValHaller

alleycat` wrote: »

If you don't want someone to use it turn it off and take it with you.

Leaving the way open for the next attempt to defeat - plugging in a different router.

dandelionclock30

I think he did the right thing if he really didnt like it.Theres nothing worse than being stuck in a job you hate and like David Bowie says when you know you know you know! You dont want him to end up with proper depression and on tablets etc because he cant get through the day etc.
What I would do is actively encourage him to look at other options and do volunteering, look for another course job etc. Go through with him his strenghts weaknesses and look towards something he wants to and can do.
I also wouldnt let him be lying about the house all day.What about getting him to leave the house with you in a morning and to be doing all the household cooking shopping and cleaning including washing and ironing? If he doesnt do it all whilst unemployed then I would be telling him he has to find somewhere elce.
Also the majority of jobs are boring thats the truth of the matter.He has to get his head round this painfull as it is.

olibrofiz

I'd give your son a bit of slack OP. He realised, for whatever reason, that the job wasn't for him. Yes he was silly to jack it in rather than stick it out and look around for another job, but it's done now - a moment of learning about the working world & adult responsibility.

He will have learnt a lesson from this. He will have enjoyed having his pay packet over the last 5 months, and will now be back to limited £££ which may spur him on. If it were my teen I'd just provide him with the basics now - food etc, not xbox/laptop (I locked DD's in the boot of my car when I went to work each day over the summer - where there's a will an all that - i also have no guilty feelings about taking the router or xbox cables with me to work either....:cool:) *

Are the dreams of living off the land a kind of escape in his mind maybe? Getting away from the demands of life? He should try it to get it out of his system & that site looks interesting.

Hope your son gets on ok X

EDIT * oo-er, i sound awful! but doing that means I don't come home to a bombsite while she's sat all day playing games and chatting on fb!

FBaby

OP, have you considered that he isn't telling you the full story. For instance, could it be that he was struggling to get on with his job, was under huge stress, maybe his boss said that if he didn't pull himself up, he would have to let him go and decided to resign himself, but is too proud to tell you how it is. Could it be that he felt under pressure at home too knowing that you had high expectations of this role after he quite college? Could it be that he pretended to go back and ask for his job back because that's what you expected him to do?

There could possibly be a lot more to it then what he is showing and before you take the tough love approach, do make sure that it isn't the case.

suze200

Thanks to everyone for offering some really sensible advice. Being a parent it so hard sometimes. I wish I'd studied psycology instead of pharmacy to be better prepared for this kind of thing.

alleycat`

ValHaller wrote: »

Leaving the way open for the next attempt to defeat - plugging in a different router.

Take your point but having a differet router defeats either scenario (assuming you have the username and password).

Most households don't have additional routers knocking about.

Mojisola

suze200 wrote: »

Yesterday my 19 year old son has quit a job as an IT apprentice with one of the 4 big banks (leading programming qualifications C++ etc) after only 5 months because it was boring.

Prior to getting that job he'd quit a 2 year college course (studying aerospace engineering) after the 1st year for the same reason.

He says he doesn't want a job anyway.

I really don't know where he gets the idea he doesn't need to work from. We both work as does his older brother.:mad:

Teenagers' brains go through massive changes which affect, among other things, their judgment and risk assessment capabilities. It might be that your son's brain still hasn't settled down into its adult phase.

If he is willing to go WWOOFing, do encourage him. He'll meet some interesting people, learn the necessity of boring, repetitive work and give himself some space to get his head right.