Kids living at home.

lizzie12_2

betterlatethannever wrote: »

quarters sound good to me, though it means i'm taking too much from her at the mo.
I may have a chat with her and agree to reduce a little IF she agrees to save the same amount each week that i charge for rent.

Yes, know what you mean... A friend at school - her elder brother paid 1/4 of his wages as mentioned before. He hated it - moved out with a friend - back home after a month........ Knew where his bread was buttered so to speak.... he NOW has a lovely family, NEVER been in debt ( as far as I know), and pal said it was all down to how things were at home. Learnt the value early on I supose.

You charge what you think is right for you, your daughter and the rest of the family. Bet it is difficult but wished I was charged more at home........ shock when you leave.

babes21

crawley_girl wrote: »

I'm sorry but I disagree. Why should my parents support me any longer? I've had a mortgage for the past 5 years and rented for 2 years prior to that and was at university for the 3 years before that. I returned home for 3 months inbetween renting and buying, but only cos the vendor was dragging her heels and my mum insisted... I was all up for trying to extend my tenancy for a further 3 months!!! Anyway, I'm off on a tangent... my closing point is that parents have supported us financially from birth and shouldn't be out of pocket cos we carry on living with them past higher education or employment.

Please don't think I am attacking you babes21 or your situation, I just think your comment is unfair

What's unfair to one person could mean fair to another, that's what makes us all different.

I think you missed my last quote at the end, "this of course, depends on your families situation", i was just explaining my situation and what i thought, not anyone elses.

My parents set that amount for me, i haven't asked them to support me, if they bumped my rent up to an extra £100-£200, then of course i would agree to it. Of course i treat them every now and again, meals out, helping out around the house, looking after my little sister etc, not being at home the majority of the time. Depends on the individuals circumstances i guess.

Thanks for the reply.

crawley_girl

babes21 wrote: »

What's unfair to one person could mean fair to another, that's what makes us all different.

I think you missed my last quote at the end, "this of course, depends on your families situation", i was just explaining my situation and what i thought, not anyone elses.

My parents set that amount for me, i haven't asked them to support me, if they bumped my rent up to an extra £100-£200, then of course i would agree to it. Of course i treat them every now and again, meals out, helping out around the house, looking after my little sister etc, not being at home the majority of the time. Depends on the individuals circumstances i guess.

Thanks for the reply.

Like I said, it wasn't a personal attack, just my thoughts on a delicate subject... hey... when is money not a delicate subject?! Different strokes for different folks I guess.

vaio

Maybe there’s a case for charging the marginal cost of having them there

Rupa

I think it's important to note why the child is living at home. In the case of the man with child maintenance to pay and a mortgage to save for, it's fair enough to charge cheap rent. But to some teenager who is not continuing with education and merely having a good time (while working) it's a bit much to expect a good deal. As we live in a city with a bus service I would help towards driving lessons but no way would I be paying insurance etc!

in_debt_again_but_dealing_with_it

Interesting thread, we've just had the "board" conversation with our 19 yr old student son. He is away at uni but will be home for the summer and working at ASDA we've asked for a "token" £15 contribution to living expenses more to make a point than anything else. His pocket money stopped when he got a p/t job when he was 16 and he's been buying his own "luxury" items since he got his paper round at 14. He had a few driving lessons for his 18th (+ provisional licence etc) and he paid for the rest - we bought him an old banger for Xmas 2005 (oh mechanic so kept it going) he passed test 1st time but had to sell car (got more than we paid for it!) when he went to uni cause couldn't afford it then. Financial reality learnt young is the only way, if he hits hard times he knows we'll never be in a position to bail him out (not financially anyway!!?) so he has to be (reasonably??) sensible.

Oldernotwiser

The way I look at it that if a young person is paying £25 when their actual living costs are £50, then it's as if their parents are paying the child £25 per week for the privilege of having them living with them! If that young person is then spending around £150 on going out, buying clothes, mobile costs and running a car, why should the parents subsidise them for doing this? Obviously there can be exceptional circumstance and I certainly don't include students home for vacations in this but I don't see that it's a parent's responsibility to subsidise a young adult's social life!

milkydrink

God my daughter has it easy, shes 20 next month & at college.

I give her £17.50 per week pocket money, drive her to & from college and make her packed lunches. I also get her general toiletries - but not make up.

She gets £30 ALG (this is the first year she has got anything as she was never entitled to EMA) & she gets the odd bit of part time work from two companies, one pays her £70 a day (corporate events) & the other about £50 (general admin), she works her college holidays & sometimes one or two days per week.

She got this year at college free as it was the second year of a course she started while under paying age, but I think we will have to pay next year.

faded_flowers

I'm 22 and living rent-free at the moment. I feel really bad about it actually, but I try to do most of the house-work at least for them. I'm looking for a job and my parents have said they'll take some money off me when I get one, but to put into savings I think for when I move out.

lil_me

From starting earning I paid my parents 1/3 of what I earned. Started when I was earning £30 a week, eventually was £300-£400. I am pleased now, aswell as helping them it mean't I paid a realistic amount towards living costs which prepared me better for when I left home.