dilemma help please

purple.sarah

TBH, your sister comes across as aggressive but you come across as passive aggressive. When you say things like:

"If ever you feel like being reasonable and actually waking up to yourself then we are here, as we always are."

"Love (though you make it very hard)"

and

"I would love to have an adult conversation about things if she was willing to listen"

It doesn't build bridges or open lines of communication between you, it actually burns bridges and shuts down communication by sending out an uncompromising message that you are completely right and she is completely wrong (and unreasonable, unlovable and unwilling to listen.)

She is aggressively saying she doesn't want to communicate with you but you are passive aggressively saying you do want to communicate with her while also getting in a lot of digs at her that might make it difficult. I am not saying this to try and upset you but because you say you genuinely want to reconcile with her so I think you might not realise how it is coming across. I understand you are hurt and I hope you and your sister can work things out but perhaps it would be best to take some space for now and talk things through later rather than sending tit for tat emails and texts. The further this escalates the harder it will be for her to back down.