Does the husband in your house pay the bills?

in_shock_2

All income into one joint account. Everything out of that one account. Whatever's left at the end of the month gets split between mortgage OP and savings.

We don't spend much on ourselves - OH will go out for a few pints a couple of times a week, I go to a slimming club, kids get what they need.

I am the main wage earner by c £14k/yr but I would never dream of saying we should put a % of each salary in for bills and the rest should be personal spends. We are a partnership and all money is "ours". That said, I manage the money - have set up everything DD, pay any other bills, move money between joint, mortgage & savings account - OH wouldn't know how much goes out for what, nor does he know how much mortgage is left or what saving we have and he's not bothered so long as he can go to the cashline and take out £50 if he needs it. I do tell him but he's not that interested!

JethroUK

berbastrike wrote: »

If both partners are working full time in similar paying jobs, I would want to pay the bills rather than my wife but is this normal? or do bills usually get split 50/50

All great until you have to decide who actually owns what

Me and the wife have our own personal accounts - my wife is much better saver than me and she has lots more personal savings than me and thats hers

We also have one joint/bills account where we both put money in each month - i get bit more than she does so i put more in - 55/45 ish - simple calculation really and we are both happy its fair

Absolutely everything for the house (for 'us') comes out of 'our' money

Mortgage, food, petrol, electric, gas, water, curtains, carpets, MOT, car tax, house insurance

Everything

Any balance is offset against our mortgage (not much mortage left now really) - If it goes too far in the black we have couple months off, if it goes a bit low we chuck a few quid more in each

been using this method for nearly 20 years with no arguments about who owes what

clairec79

We split the bills so pay half of them each

burnoutbabe

to answer the question, I pay all the bills via DD, as its my house and he pays me half the bills each month by standing order (as they don't vary).

System

so is it a myth then that women want rich men?

Mojisola

berbastrike wrote: »

so is it a myth then that women want rich men?

"Women" don't all want the same thing.

Some women want a rich man. Some women don't want a man at all. Some women want a man they can control. Some women want to be equal partners in a relationship. And so on........

mummyroysof3

My husband works and I don't...we get taxcredits and I get carers allowance. If it didn't all get put in together I wouldn't know how to work out who's is who's tbh

JethroUK

burnoutbabe wrote: »

to answer the question, I pay all the bills via DD, as its my house and he pays me half the bills each month by standing order (as they don't vary).

which could make it tricky when deciding who has paid for what - especially if these "bills" include mortgage payments

the records show that you alone pay all the bills (they all come from your own account)

which is fine from your perspective - but certainly not 'fair' finances

your partners position is rocky (have no claim to anything) and certainly not one i would put myself in

a joint account doesn't cost anything to set up but would be fairer

Tiglath

andygb wrote: »

:beer:
I would have thought that this would still have been "normal" for most married couples. Once you marry (or have a long term relationship), you are a team - what is my wife's is hers, and what is mine is hers;):rotfl:
Back to being serious though, do some people split the mortgage in half and pay from seperate accounts? The same with other expenses - does the husband pay for his car insurance and the wife hers, despite the fact that both probably have the use of either vehicle?
It doesn't seem to me like a very trusting relationship, if you have to use basic bokkkeeping to sort out who pays what in the house.
Surely one account should work, along with sensible discussions on overall expenditure/budgeting?

DH and I have very different attitudes to money. I keep receipts, tally them to my bank account, always know to the penny how much money I've got. DH sticks his head in the sand, won't look at his statements and never knows how much he's got left for the month. I'm not prepared to risk bills bouncing, and if we shared one joint account for everything I'd be apprehensive to say the least. We do however have a joint account we're trying to get off the ground for household bills so eventually we will each transfer a set monthly amount into that. I'll still handle the groceries from my account and he'll still handle the car from his.

balletshoes

berbastrike wrote: »

so is it a myth then that women want rich men?

what are you talking about? if you pay all the bills you won't be rich - but your wife will be as she'll have all her income to save .