Does the husband in your house pay the bills?

Blackpool_Saver

husband lol, nah, not even when I was married

Katexx

berbastrike wrote: »

I don't understand why though? isn't this what you (women) want?

and I didn't say "pretty little things".

but yeah I was just thinking that its more traditional for the man to pay the bills but it seems I was completely wrong

Perhaps some women do. Not all women are the same, oddly enough. I would hate to have my husband (well, boyfriend/partner, as I have no particular plans to get married) pay for everything. I work hard to earn my money and would want to contribute equally. So far, in the 2.5 years I've spent living with my boyfriend, I've actually paid far more towards the rent, bills, etc as I've been in full-time work the whole time and he's still studying. Doesn't bother me at all.

Tiglath

Not having a go at you at all OP (you sound like a really sweet guy), but my hackles tend to rise at the idea of reverting to the 1950s when women didn't have financial equality. No matter how savvy my husband, there's no way I'd leave the serious side of things to him; I'd want at least equal involvement. If it works for you and your wife, just go for it. What does she think about it?

Skintski

50/50 here but we're both in full time jobs with no offspring.

Tiddlywinks

berbastrike wrote: »

If both partners are working full time in similar paying jobs, I would want to pay the bills rather than my wife but is this normal? or do bills usually get split 50/50

You need to look at your seemingly constant need to control others....

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4396235=

Will you also make sure your wife doesn't wear perfume, deodorants etc?

Have you found the lucky woman yet?

victory

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

You need to look at your seemingly constant need to control others....

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4396235=

Will you also make sure your wife doesn't wear perfume, deodorants etc?

Have you found the lucky woman yet?

Good link:D

balletshoes

berbastrike wrote: »

I would rather she spends her money on things she enjoys - clothes rather than me buying myself treats (im not that fussed)!

seriously - have you discussed this with your girlfriend? she may be perfectly happy with an arrangement like you propose, but she could be up a certain creek without a rowing implement if she doesn't invest a fair portion of her earnings as financial back-up. She will, as others have pointed out, really have to have her name on the utilities etc to help her keep her credit good too.

Tiglath

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

You need to look at your seemingly constant need to control others....

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4396235=

Will you also make sure your wife doesn't wear perfume, deodorants etc?

Oh my stars - I hadn't seen that one.

Mojisola

balletshoes wrote: »

seriously - have you discussed this with your girlfriend? she may be perfectly happy with an arrangement like you propose, but she could be up a certain creek without a rowing implement if she doesn't invest a fair portion of her earnings as financial back-up. She will, as others have pointed out, really have to have her name on the utilities etc to help her keep her credit good too.

Of course, she could save all her money and then be in position to walk away with a nice nest-egg whenever she wanted.

Hermia

Katexx wrote: »

Perhaps some women do. Not all women are the same, oddly enough. I would hate to have my husband (well, boyfriend/partner, as I have no particular plans to get married) pay for everything. I work hard to earn my money and would want to contribute equally.

I would also be uncomfortable with not contributing if I worked full-time as well and wasn't looking after kids etc. A cynical part of my mind would also wonder whether the guy wanted only his name on the paperwork so that he could claim that I never contributed to the relationship in the event of a break-up. My friend's husband never put her name on the bills although she contributed to them and she also did a LOT of work for his business although he never put her name on any of that paperwork either. When they split he used this to prove to the judge that she had spent the entire marriage sitting on her bum spending his money! No one was fooled thankfully.