Does the husband in your house pay the bills?

jasperlil

We have a joint acount and both of wages go into this. All bills come out of this and everything is shared. I see to the admin side of things.
If we want anything we will ask the other. Hubby earns more than me but its all shared and it never bothers him.

Gloomendoom

Wife and I earn roughly the same. I'm the husband and it just so happens that I pay all the bills except food. What does it matter? We are married so it is all 'our' money.

Mrs_Ryan

OH earns a little more than me but he wont allow me to contribute financially apart from paying the landline/internet bill and paying for the odd tank of petrol. We arent married and he wants me to have as little right as possible over his house if we split (house and mortgage in his sole name)

zcrat41

Mrsryan - I hope you are investing elsewhere, I'd be so worried with an attitude like that that he doesn't see you being together for the long term

As for the op I would give you slightly more benefit of the doubt than some of the posters. I have a dh who sees it as his responsibility to financially provide for his family. I earn money but its peanuts compared to his. W share our financial future and plan for it together. Yes, he officially pays the bills but we both discuss our future investments. It's also taken a number of years to get to this point, I very much paid my way 50/50 (actually, I still am till our baby is due in a wk) and I've ensured that my financial future is secure in the event of death or divorce.

jsaver

All our earnings are pooled. All bills paid then any reminder split, up to a monthly max. If there is still money left, it gets put in an easy access savings a/c, and / or used to op the mortgage.

I earn more than my wife by a considerable amount, and I organise it all, because she doesn't enjoy it and I do. Nearly all bills in my name, but all come out of 'my' account.

We've never argued about money, probably because we have never been hard up. That's just luck.

sithmaster

me and oh have joint account both wages are paid into this and bills go out. however i do the admin for the banking, we both have seperate savings acounts and an equal amount goes into both

YORKSHIRELASS

Throughout our 22 year relationship we have had various different financial circumstances. In the early days I earnt more than my husband then I went part time after having children and the role was reversed. Now I am caring for our son who has health problems and my husband brings in the majority of our income.

We have always pooled our money. Everything goes in the joint account
and I manage our finances, simply because I like doing it. I think most women nowadays would find the idea of the husband being in control of the bills very outdated and patronising.

brummiebabe

Both our wages go into a joint account & is then split between various accounts (food shopping, car stuff etc) - we then have a certain amount of cash left which we can spend during the month - everything is budgeted for. I organise it - DH is not interested & is happy for me to do it. We left it to him once & got in a bit of a mess:rotfl:

I work part time, he works full time - makes no difference - it's 'our' money. Don't know if it's different because we have 3 children - but it works for us!

MrsE_2

berbastrike wrote: »

If both partners are working full time in similar paying jobs, I would want to pay the bills rather than my wife but is this normal? or do bills usually get split 50/50

Will you marry me:)

andygb

msb5262 wrote: »

Ever heard of a joint account? Lots of people use them, for bills if nothing else...

:beer:
I would have thought that this would still have been "normal" for most married couples. Once you marry (or have a long term relationship), you are a team - what is my wife's is hers, and what is mine is hers;):rotfl:
Back to being serious though, do some people split the mortgage in half and pay from seperate accounts? The same with other expenses - does the husband pay for his car insurance and the wife hers, despite the fact that both probably have the use of either vehicle?
It doesn't seem to me like a very trusting relationship, if you have to use basic bokkkeeping to sort out who pays what in the house.
Surely one account should work, along with sensible discussions on overall expenditure/budgeting?