Social services onto me about not having child in nursery! Advice needed

johnnyl

Person_one wrote: »

Wow, its incredible that so many people who went to school become functioning perfectly nice adults! How on earth are they managing it?

I wouldn't fancy being operated on by a doctor, or living in a house designed by an architect who left school at 11. Very narrow minded to assume that because he doesn't think he learned anything useful after that age (I suspect he did) that it would be better for everyone to stop there.

Disappointing, I used to love his books when I was a kid.

I think you have missed the point.

The point isnt that everybody should not go to school, the point is that contrary to popular belief, it isnt the only way to do things. The system and the state want everyone to be x rather than accepting that for some people y is fine.

shirlgirl2004

Person_one wrote: »

Wow, its incredible that so many people who went to school become functioning perfectly nice adults! How on earth are they managing it?

I wouldn't fancy being operated on by a doctor, or living in a house designed by an architect who left school at 11. Very narrow minded to assume that because he doesn't think he learned anything useful after that age (I suspect he did) that it would be better for everyone to stop there.

Disappointing, I used to love his books when I was a kid.

But home educated people do become Drs etc. The difference is they might not go to school at all and then go straight to university where they choose what they want to do rather than having a curriculum dictated to them as is the way when one attends school.

I think you're also missing the point that a lot of people come out of schools very damaged by their experience. Isn't it odd that there are so many teachers that choose to home educate? Why do you think that might be?

poet123

johnnyl wrote: »

I think you have missed the point.

The point isnt that everybody should not go to school, the point is that contrary to popular belief, it isnt the only way to do things. The system and the state want everyone to be x rather than accepting that for some people y is fine.

I think that is a fair point, but it wasn't the one that Deary was making.

poet123

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

But home educated people do become Drs etc. The difference is they might not go to school at all and then go straight to university where they choose what they want to do rather than having a curriculum dictated to them as is the way when one attends school.

I think you're also missing the point that a lot of people come out of schools very damaged by their experience. Isn't it odd that there are so many teachers that choose to home educate? Why do you think that might be?

And the majority don't, why do you think that might be?;)

POPPYOSCAR

Person_one wrote: »

Wow, its incredible that so many people who went to school become functioning perfectly nice adults! How on earth are they managing it?

I wouldn't fancy being operated on by a doctor, or living in a house designed by an architect who left school at 11. Very narrow minded to assume that because he doesn't think he learned anything useful after that age (I suspect he did) that it would be better for everyone to stop there.

Disappointing, I used to love his books when I was a kid.

And many do not.

My children have always done much better with the teachers that have made the classes 'different' and interesting, ie not stuck in the classroom staring at a board.

I also think there should be a better way of educating but economic constraints probably prohibit it.

Air_Cooled_75

OP, poor form to pull someone up over transposing a couple of letters when you can't grasp the difference between 'there' and 'their'

Perhaps it might not be a bad idea to send your girl to nursery, give her a bit of a head start...

Lucky94

Just wanted to say that our HV is very what we called 'text book' so to speak, but we didn't not want her to come again as it isn't very often, she came to do a visit with our 2 year old and at the time we knew something was a little different with him but we didn't know who to talk to about it. Well she has been a massive help and got the ball rolling for us and we are just now awaiting for him to get a dx of ASD.

So it is I think worth them continuing to visit it's not very often and we really didn't know how to go about getting our little one some help. He is now at a Nursery doing his funded hours and loving it, he is really coming on

bagpuss38

After reading the OP "charming" response to all the posts , i would like to ask ,why you feel the need to post your contempt of a valuable service on a public forum.Then throw a hissy fit and call people fools when what they say isn't what you want to hear?

We all have choice to make for our children, for they are unable to make the choices for themselves.

Do as others have advised allow social services to do their job, explain your reasons for your reluctance to send your child to nursery.
As you say there are no other issues then i am sure that allowing a check will do no harm at all.

coolcait

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Has this been said to the OP?

No mention of it in their posts>

Many people are reading deeper into this.

I for one with my experience of social workers and health visitors can well believe that the HV was put out that her services were no longer required. Some of them do seem to have the attitude that they know best and that everyone should follow a prescribed course of action as advised by them.

I bet if the OP had continued to accept visits by the HV none of this would have happened.

I don't have any particular views about social workers or health visitors.

I do agree with the BiB in your post. But probably for a very different reason than the one you had in mind.

If the OP had continued to accept visits by the HV, then it wouldn't have been the case that the children were completely off the radar.

coolcait

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

But home educated people do become Drs etc. The difference is they might not go to school at all and then go straight to university where they choose what they want to do rather than having a curriculum dictated to them as is the way when one attends school.

I think you're also missing the point that a lot of people come out of schools very damaged by their experience. Isn't it odd that there are so many teachers that choose to home educate? Why do you think that might be?

Your first paragraph makes me think of Ruth Lawrence - although there's obviously a difference between 'normal' homeschooling, and the way she was 'hothoused'.

The two questions in your second paragraph make me think that teachers might choose to home educate because they have the skills to do so.

I wouldn't have chosen to home educate my children because I know my limitations in some areas. So, while I could have taught them a lot about a lot of things, I would have failed them dismally if I had insisted on teaching them certain subjects.