Found out I have a step daughter!!

Person_one

glitter_fairy wrote: »

Where is the best place to find information about counciling of this sort?

Your GP might be a good place to start, or Relate, they don't just do couples work.

http://www.relate.org.uk/family-counselling/index.html

glitter_fairy

Person_one wrote: »

Your GP might be a good place to start, or Relate, they don't just do couples work.

http://www.relate.org.uk/family-counselling/index.html

Thank you I will discuss it with my husband tonight x

HeadAboveWater

glitter_fairy wrote: »

how have you found it? do you have children of your own?

Sent a PM

HAW

getmore4less

Acc72 wrote: »

What kind of difficulty do you anticipate this will cause ?

(The question is refering to the parents wills).

Take the simple case of mirror wills where everything goes to the spouse and then to the children equaly.

Depending on the wording and the order the parents die this could have 2+ very different outcomes.

they may or may not be an issue but it does need reviewing.

extended family finances and succession planning could complicate further

Joons

Oh gosh, what a surprise to get! Sounds like you're doing everything right so far so just carry on as you are, I'm sure she'll wnat some kind of relationship with all of you, esp dad and her siblings. Saying all that, I've been a stepmum and it's hard, only advice I can offer you is don't get too involved, it's up to her mum and dad to be responsible for her, you're kinda on the outside looking in I'm afraid, you can be her friend of course and support them both but just be careful you don't get too involved, with her being 18 that shouldn't be too much of a problem, she's an adult now so needs less looking after than a younger child. Good luck with the holiday, you sound lovely btw.

BGJAM

HI, is he sure this girl is his? if not the first thing i would do is get a DNA. Good Luck

glitter_fairy

BGJAM wrote: »

HI, is he sure this girl is his? if not the first thing i would do is get a DNA. Good Luck

The DNA says she is his, though she is the imagine of his sister and our dd

glitter_fairy

Joons wrote: »

Oh gosh, what a surprise to get! Sounds like you're doing everything right so far so just carry on as you are, I'm sure she'll wnat some kind of relationship with all of you, esp dad and her siblings. Saying all that, I've been a stepmum and it's hard, only advice I can offer you is don't get too involved, it's up to her mum and dad to be responsible for her, you're kinda on the outside looking in I'm afraid, you can be her friend of course and support them both but just be careful you don't get too involved, with her being 18 that shouldn't be too much of a problem, she's an adult now so needs less looking after than a younger child. Good luck with the holiday, you sound lovely btw.

yeah it was a huge shock, I must admit my first reaction was wanting it all to go away but luckily I have gotten over that.

Oddly its me she seems far more attached to, phone calls texts, meeting for coffee etc.

We both have the same careerers which I think helps as it gives us common ground

Joons

glitter_fairy wrote: »

yeah it was a huge shock, I must admit my first reaction was wanting it all to go away but luckily I have gotten over that.

Oddly its me she seems far more attached to, phone calls texts, meeting for coffee etc.

We both have the same careerers which I think helps as it gives us common ground

She's probably got more in common with you and you obviously have made her feel very comfortable so:T well done.

glitter_fairy

Well its not going so well now.

Her mum just turned up very drunk yelling abuse about my husband and telling me to stay away from her daughter, she is now sat in her friends car outside my house waiting for my husband to get home.