Any of you ladies not own any expensive jewellery?

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SoozieSoo wrote: »

Does it bother you?

My wedding anniversary is coming up and I would really like my husband to buy me a diamond eternity ring. He thinks this is unreasonable as we would have to borrow to get it. I don’t own a single piece of expensive, quality jewellery. I don’t even have an engagement ring. My wedding ring only cost £150.

I am not talking about getting something so expensive the repayments would cripple us, but a debt we can manage on 3 years interest free.

Most of my girlfriends have at least one “bling” item. Some of the have several. I just feel it is every ladies right to have one lovely piece of jewellery.

Am I being unreasonable?

This is the item I am after LOL

http://www.beaverbrooks.co.uk/index.cfm?event=catalogue.showProduct&productID=121

I have my wedding ring (cost about £50 on today's prices), my mum's wedding ring (nothing), and a small silver cross and chain (around £15.). That's it.

I do not think you should take out credit just for a piece of jewellery. IMO it is a waste of money.

Peakma

Personally I like different unique jewelry that nobody else has.I think that makes it special.it has to be made of quality stones and 9.25 silver.I cant imagine spending that much on a ring,especially one that looks so bog standard boring(sorry to be blunt) but I just wouldn't notice that on someone,unless you were to take it off and examine it closely how does it look any different to a £30 copy from argos?
And if you have to get into debt to buy it ,well sorry but thats just ridiculous.
don't get me wrong I absolutely love getting new jewelry,and wear different bits daily.Right now I have a fairly large oval labradorite silver ringcatches the light,and moves lovely,from Glastonbury festival years ago,for £15,a fantastic unique to cool to describe 1970's silver sculptured ring set with loads of tiny uncut diamonds,£24 from ebay,, a 3 banded torque style curved silver bracelet,£2 from a charity shop,and a amazing necklace with 20 seperate strands of tiny delicate real silver beads,that move fluidly,when you move.
I know thats irrellevant and that probably isn't the sort of stuff your after.But so many women seem to just get what the recent style is dictated to them,want the same as their friends,,and rate how good it is by how much it costs .People don't seem to dare develop their own personal style..I'm lucky that my partner has really good taste,and an eye to see quality and style,he enjoys seeing my stuff on me as much as I enjoying wearing it.If I see a bargain,he encourages me to treat myself.The cheaper the better.
I would love a good piece of ammolite( anyone who likes stones check it out its beautiful,and only recently found,I think) I often watch items on ebay,but would never dream of actually buying any.
Spending that much would seem so selfish,think how you could enjoy the money together differently.Have a memorable weekend away.
Why do you want it? Do you think it would mean he loves you more? will you feel guilty once you have it?
is it love on your behalf,for making him feel guilty for not wanting to break the bank buying it?
Wouldn't you be happier with a £100 ring he'd chosen himself for you_or if he's not got a clue what you like,with you?
Sorry if my post seems a bit harsh,I do think a nice piece of jewelry is a lovely gift to mark a special occasion,but I don't see why the high price tag makes it any more special,sorry.

Peakma

just read this post to my partner,to see what he thought of the ring.
Don't mean to be nasty,but his response amused me,he says your on the wrong website,you need to be posting this question on moneywastingexpert.com!

katecheshire

My wedding ring cost £9 in 1974 - I sold it for £1 at a car boot sale :rotfl:
I always wear a silver ring my boyfriend bought me in Turkey for £3

I have a Victorian amethyst and rose gold ring inherited from my aunt - which is too chunky to wear much. My only expensive piece is a tourmaline pendant - we bought the stone in Thailand and I had it made into a pendant. It's probably worth about £150

Redbedhead

I have some expensive jewellery and I do love it. But I would never go in to debt to buy it and I would not be happy with my H if he went in to debt to buy it as we have more important things to spend our money on at the moment.

Re the equality issue - when I got my engagement ring (which is my most expensive piece of jewellery by far) I got my (now) H a nice watch. It wasn't as expensive as my ring but it was the one he liked which was more important to us.

ailuro2

modgit wrote: »

Please learn from me, I thought along these lines and we were burgled and mine was taken from a "they'll never find it here" place. Have had replacement engagement ring, but it's not the same, i do however, NEVER go out without it, I'd rather have it broken than lost.

I have to take my rings off for work everyday (safety hazard-would rather keep all of my fingers:eek: ) which means leaving it a locker in a room that is unattended and has been broken into before.

You're right, though. I really should wear it more.

SoozieSoo

ailuro2 wrote: »

http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/2298511.htm if your dh had brought that home in a beaverbrooks box would you have known any different?

To be honest, yes as the diamonds are tiny! I have no problems with buying jewellery from argos if the jewellery is of a good quality. I don't know what their more expensive pieces are like though.

loopy-loo73

I got my engagement ring from Samuels, a white gold diamond solitaire, it cost £450 & i love it

We'd been living together 9 yrs when OH proposed & WE paid for the ring.

not married yet but the plan is 2008/9 and when we do WE will be paying for the lot. OH earns more than me so we put 60%/40% or our wages respectively into the 'bill' account but we both still contribute.

he bought my eternity ring years ago & it cost him £150, it was my xmas pressie & i spent the equivalent on computer stuff for him!

i wouldn't want such an expensive ring, i'd be ashamed that he thought he needed to prove he loved me by wasting so much money.

lou.

skylight

Another option.

Why not save the Tesco Clubcard vouchers, using extra online points codes (several about right now!) use them on yours and hubbys account and shop at Goldsmiths with the vouchers??

A sort of "free" ring then. MSE and no debt!

Emms

We got our wedding rings from Goldsmiths with Clubcard Vouchers. Spent about £450 I think on the both of them but since it was all vouchers they were free yay! Engagement ring we got in the sale from £600 to £300 bargain! OH paid for it tho as he had just sold some shares so had the money. I wouldnt want to get into debt for a piece of jewellry.

Emms