Wedding dress code and other demands!

kiss_me_now9

Person_one wrote: »

And this:

That's the colour blue that my sister was toying with. Looks black on all of them apart from the blonde at the end to me (Also, bridesmaids wearing dresses that don't match - :eek: )

mummybearx

I think if the wedding is in a lovely fancy posh place, it's not too bad to ask women to wear gowns and men to wear their full tux or whatever.

And fwiw, at my wedding 2 years ago, a women wore a white fitted dress, another wore a black fitted dress (nearly with her bum hanging out it was that short!), I had some guys in jeans, most in suits. And I didn't honestly notice til I saw the photos!

It just didn't cross my mind to look at guests outfits, to see if they were 'good enough'?!! I only really remember seeing my husband on my wedding day, it was all I could to to say my vows and have a drink, I was too busy smiling and staring into his eyes.

Person_one

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

That's the colour blue that my sister was toying with. Looks black on all of them apart from the blonde at the end to me (Also, bridesmaids wearing dresses that don't match - :eek: )

I think its nice, women come in all shapes and sizes and they're probably wearing styles that they feel comfortable and confident in.

At least with bridesmaids dresses though the person dictating is also footing the bill, so less heinous!

kiss_me_now9

Person_one wrote: »

I think its nice, women come in all shapes and sizes and they're probably wearing styles that they feel comfortable and confident in.

At least with bridesmaids dresses though the person dictating is also footing the bill, so less heinous!

This is very true I dunno, I like order and matching - though if one bridesmaid really didn't like the style or cut etc. then a compromise would have to be made! It's far too long a day to be uncomfortable I think.

This thread has definitely made me think, weddings are a very odd thing nowadays.

Person_one

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

weddings are a very odd thing nowadays.

We can probably all agree on that!

TeamLowe

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

That's the colour blue that my sister was toying with. Looks black on all of them apart from the blonde at the end to me (Also, bridesmaids wearing dresses that don't match - :eek: )

one of my best friends ended up with two bridesmaids in a pink dress and two in a black dress with a pink sash because she was a bridezilla about the dress
we said several times 'nothing halterneck, we all have big boobs and it will look bad'. she didn't listen, then said she'd get a panel put across the front where it gaped open.
three weeks before wedding was final fitting and the seamstress informed her she couldn't do that and besides, me and friend were bulging out on the other side of the triangle too. so she had to run around getting another dress that would actually fit us. it was lovely too. it's a shame she didn't just do that in the first place, find a dress that looked nice on her bridesmaids rather than just decided that's what she wanted and we would have to wear it.

so yeah, i think it's better the bridesmaids wear a dress that the look nice in and not just one the bride has picked for them all no matter what.

Teeniepops

Personally, I think this is OTT and a bit unfair.

1 - it can be stressful buying any dress for women without narrowing to a style and colour!

2 - it imposes costs onto guests if they don't have anything existing to fit the scheme.

3 - you invite people who you want to share the day because they mean something to you - they're not decorations! They're losing their personality a bit as they'll look like they're in uniform.

4 - it smacks of 'our day is only special if... '

Maybe I'm being really harsh - in a grumpy mood! I realise that it's THEIR day but it costs enough to attend a wedding with gift, outfits, travel and hotels (if needed) without this.

Like I said, I'm grumpy so this is showing lol!

balletshoes

squirrelchops wrote: »

Hi all

I have been invited to a work colleagues wedding that has a dress code - 2 choices of colours.

On asking a little more I was then told that the code is also formal attire and for ladies to wear long dresses (ie ballgown type dresses) and gents DJs.

I am already mentally totting up how much this is all going to cost and I don't wish to feel like a curmudgeon but it has taken the fun and excitement out of celebrating their day.

I feel a bit mean and should embrace their wishes but I also feel they haven't given a second thought as to how this will impact on their guests in terms of costs etc. Gosh I sound like a right scrooge but unless I want to look pants this is going to be big £££ potentially. I am going to look into hiring an outfit. It is not until next autumn so have time to save up too.

Has anyone else come across colour coded weddings or outfit demands? I wondered if there are certain 'scruffions' in the family that they want to smarten up for the pictures!!!

wow - Bridezilla rears its head!
Wear something smart that you feel comfortable in, doesn't cost you outside your budget, and within the colour theme if either colour suits you.

stir_crazy

To be honest, our wedding day is such a blur that I didn't notice who was wearing what until we looked at the photos afterwards.

So I can only conclude that this bride thinks she'll have time to inspect her guests during the day or just wants some freakishly coordinated pictures...

skintchick

If this were just a party someone was throwing, would all of you object to a dress code then? Just wondering.