Wedding dress code and other demands!

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

A wedding is a day you sign a contract, it can be very romantic and lovely but its not supposed to be a performance is it?

Since when did having photographs that look like something out of Hello become more important than family and friends eating and drinking together happily?

If you're 'very traditional', then ordinary people would never have had extravagant weddings in the past like they do today, and lots of people would have had one good dress that they dusted off for every special occasion. Lots of people still do!

I think a wedding day has often had a performance element, historically, not in the same way opf course. But showing the aligning of houses and so on. More modestly, maybe just to show a marriage before a christening!

Performance doesn't mean extravagant, and extravagant doesn't mean performance. Fwiw, widh and I are both extravagant and I think, honestly, people would have felt a very sweet little wedding as much a performance as some people's bling is. An exciting dramatic thing is quite us, but so is just slipping away like we did. We don't dop 'moderate' very well, though it's something we are working on.

kiss_me_now9

Person_one wrote: »

A wedding is a day you sign a contract, it can be very romantic and lovely but its not supposed to be a performance is it?

Since when did having photographs that look like something out of Hello become more important than family and friends eating and drinking together happily?

If you're 'very traditional', then ordinary people would never have had extravagant weddings in the past like they do today, and lots of people would have had one good dress that they dusted off for every special occasion. Lots of people still do!

I didn't say it would be extravagant; just that it would be traditional in the sense of no black/white outfits. I actually want to have a very small wedding - 60 people max - because I don't see the point in spending 15k on one day. But I don't want people wearing black or white. I won't have calla lilies in my bouquet as they're a death flower - but many people do.

If I was a true Bridezilla, I'd be wanting people to wear specific colours depending on the family and would arranging them in colour order, cos I loveeeeeee bright things! Though I suppose this is a bit moot until I get engaged, hah.

jackyann

My grandmother used to say that you should wear black to weddings (as your troubles are just beginning) and white to funerals (as they are over).
She was amused later in life to discover "white mourning" was traditional in some cultures.

Person_one

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

Though I suppose this is a bit moot until I get engaged, hah.

Oh Lord! :rotfl:

adouglasmhor

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

I didn't say it would be extravagant; just that it would be traditional in the sense of no black/white outfits. I actually want to have a very small wedding - 60 people max - because I don't see the point in spending 15k on one day. But I don't want people wearing black or white.

There's very little more traditional for men than a black morning coat with wedding striped or grey trousers.

kiss_me_now9

Person_one wrote: »

Oh Lord! :rotfl:

I like to dream :rotfl: (But I don't think I'm alone in having an idea of how I would like to eventually get married if it happens )

adouglasmhor wrote: »

There's very little more traditional for men than a black morning coat with wedding striped or grey trousers.

That's fine, because it's not a full black outfit. You can also change the waistcoat/tie/cravatte to make it more colourful as is common nowadays... There's a vast difference between that and this:

Elmiee_2

I agree with TK Maxx or eBay - though if I was you I'd just get a nice looking maxi dress and a sequin bolero/shrug to add some glam! 15 quid, sorted! Lol. I got engaged christmas, the wedding will be on a beach in Australia and the only condition I've made is that my fiancee must wear a formal suit (not a heavy and black one tho, sand/light beige I'm thinking lol) - not shorts and tshirts for the actual ceremony and couple of photos right after then can change into his shorts and t-shirts and get some shrimps on a barby!

Person_one

And this:

adouglasmhor

kiss_me_now9 wrote: »

I like to dream :rotfl: (But I don't think I'm alone in having an idea of how I would like to eventually get married if it happens )



That's fine, because it's not a full black outfit. You can also change the waistcoat/tie/cravatte to make it more colourful as is common nowadays... There's a vast difference between that and this:

That's not full black, they have very colourful foundation

sulkisu

I have heard of one slightly different approach. The invitation stated that instead of buying special outfits or giving wedding presents, guests should wear whatever they wanted, come empty handed and donate the money that they would have spent to the couples chosen cancer charity.