Wedding dress code and other demands!

Errata · 10 January 2013 at 4:52PM

skintchick wrote: »

If this were just a party someone was throwing, would all of you object to a dress code then? Just wondering.

If it was fancy dress then fair enough. Of course telling everyone attending a wedding to wear the same colour is also fancy dress.;)

lostinrates · 10 January 2013 at 4:56PM

skintchick wrote: »

If this were just a party someone was throwing, would all of you object to a dress code then? Just wondering.

If it was white tie and demanded something expensive that wouldn't get worn again I would probably decline. If it were something less formal (and cheaper) then I would probably enjoy the challenge. I love clothes, but a request to dress in shocking pink, for example would be a pita if they meant formal long evening gown.....I honesty would never wear again, but a girls video party when it could be a pink top and lipstick.....I could live with that expenditure.

Meh, I am not so fussed about parties these days.

Kirri · 10 January 2013 at 4:57PM

skintchick wrote: »

If this were just a party someone was throwing, would all of you object to a dress code then? Just wondering.

Yes. Bad enough having to conform in a work environment, let alone socially..

BlondeHeadOn · 10 January 2013 at 5:10PM

I still want to know which two colours were specified in the invitation which started all this comment....

Come on OP, do tell !

Teeniepops · 10 January 2013 at 5:14PM

skintchick wrote: »

If this were just a party someone was throwing, would all of you object to a dress code then? Just wondering.

Good point. I wouldn't NOT do as requested at a wedding despite not thinking it necessarily 'fair' (for lack of better word).

However, I think it important to make guests feel happy and comfy - it is a better time all round then.

I'm having a fancy dress party soon and it's a theme one. BUT I picked a theme most could cater for from normal clothes and it is optional. So people can go as crazy as they want or nothing at all. I won't be upset if people choose not to come in fancy dress because why should they spend money they don't have or feel uncomfortable all night because it suits me? They've still come to share the event and that, in my eyes, is more than enough :j

getmore4less · 10 January 2013 at 5:15PM

My first thoughts were charity shops you have plenty of time.

A free bar would help.

I got my DJ from a charity shop £25 worn it loads of times over the years good quality comes up like new when cleaned.

OH has picked up loads of decent stuff as well but she is a size that is not so popular so that makes it a bit easier to find stuff.

for the man a cheap DJ can be got for £50 or even less in the sales.
http://direct.asda.com/george/mens-suits/tuxedo-jacket-trouser-set/SET883,default,pd.html

Person_one · 10 January 2013 at 5:18PM

skintchick wrote: »

If this were just a party someone was throwing, would all of you object to a dress code then? Just wondering.

A generic dress code like 'black tie' or 'smart casual' or 'no shirt no shoes no service';) is ok if its appropriate for the occasion (although I've never really figured out what smart casual means).

Dictating colours and being really specific is never really very hospitable. Even if its a fancy dress or themed party then it should only be a suggestion, not an order or a condition of attending.

barbiedoll · 10 January 2013 at 5:34PM

I think it's outrageous, dictating to wedding guests what they should wear! If anyone told me that I had to wear, (for instance) burgundy or purple, I definitely wouldn't go. I look dreadful in both colours and if a couple want me at their wedding, they should assume that I'm going to take the chance to dress up and wear something nice but it doesn't give them the right to choose my clothes for me!

All this guff about "looking good in the photos" is rubbish. Wedding photos date so quickly anyway so no matter how much the bride thinks she is the epitome of good taste, her photos will look naff in a few years anyway, everyone's wedding photos do!

As for insisting that all female guests wear ballgowns all day, what a ridiculous suggestion. Does she not have any elderly relatives attending? I'm sure that a 70-80 year old woman would much rather wear a smart dress or suit and a hat than a full-length gown. I'm (almost) 48 and there's no way I'd be swanning around in a bloody ballgown all day. But I'm just horrid, if anyone told me that I had to wear a particular colour, I'd just buy the biggest, most hideous wedding dress that I could find on ebay and have it dyed the right colour. Now that would stand out in the photos! :rotfl: