Wedding dress code and other demands!

adouglasmhor

squirrelchops wrote: »

The dress code is for all day, for everyone. It was on the invites!

Also they have chosen very dark colours too.

Before I found out about the formal wear I had commandered a lovely dress off a friend of mine to borrow that I thought would have been perfect.

DJs and Ball gowns are evening wear not day wear, they are either Americans or they are chavs.

adouglasmhor

Stephb1986 wrote: »

We're having a formal attire wedding not dictating colours to guests that would be wrong. I don't expected to be worshipped or anything just that there is a certain few family members have been seen to turn up to a wedding in a tracksuit and rockport shoes. I'm not being snobbish or anything I just know how stupid it looks on someones wedding photo's.

I'm not saying the OP will turn up in a tracksuit but maybe the wedding she is going to the couple have has similar experiences to me?

Steph xx

All you have to say is no casual wear please.

rachbc

squirrelchops wrote: »

Hi all

I have been invited to a work colleagues wedding that has a dress code - 2 choices of colours.

On asking a little more I was then told that the code is also formal attire and for ladies to wear long dresses (ie ballgown type dresses) and gents DJs.

I am already mentally totting up how much this is all going to cost and I don't wish to feel like a curmudgeon but it has taken the fun and excitement out of celebrating their day.

I feel a bit mean and should embrace their wishes but I also feel they haven't given a second thought as to how this will impact on their guests in terms of costs etc. Gosh I sound like a right scrooge but unless I want to look pants this is going to be big £££ potentially. I am going to look into hiring an outfit. It is not until next autumn so have time to save up too.

Has anyone else come across colour coded weddings or outfit demands? I wondered if there are certain 'scruffions' in the family that they want to smarten up for the pictures!!!

Clearly they have no clue - black tie is dinner jackets - usually worn only in the evenings and coctail dresses are acceptable for ladies. White tie on the other hand implies long dresses for ladies and tails for gentlemen. Perhaps you could send her some dress etiquette information along with your reply.
If she's going to be snooty and demand a dress code then she should at least get it right!

personally I love dressing up and wearing a long gown but not during the day at a wedding!

adouglasmhor

rachbc wrote: »

Clearly they have no clue - black tie is dinner jackets - usually worn only in the evenings and coctail dresses are acceptable for ladies. White tie on the other hand implies long dresses for ladies and tails for gentlemen. Perhaps you could send her some dress etiquette information along with your reply.
If she's going to be snooty and demand a dress code then she should at least get it right!

personally I love dressing up and wearing a long gown but not during the day at a wedding!

http://www.blacktieguide.com/
I am not sure where you would find similar for the ladies.

lolly_896

I want an invite lol! I always moan i rarely get to wear an evening gown.

As cost maybe an issue could you not get a black maxi style dress that could be dressed up? Maybe with the specified colours in a corsage or bag and shoes?
Mum and I go to a pink ball annually and i've had some lovely dresses from bhs bridesmaid range, asda and ebay!
Also i went into TK Maxx about 2 days ago and they had some beautiful gowns.

Embrace it, we don't get the chance to do it often enough imo!

andygb

adouglasmhor wrote: »

DJs and Ball gowns are evening wear not day wear, they are either Americans or they are chavs.

Big Fat Gypsy Wedding?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

sedment

I want to come as well!!!! I love a chance to get dressed up and these things can be as expensive or cheap as you want to make it.
At least you are getting plenty warning about the colours, and time to keep a eye on ebay or charity shops or raiding a friends wardrobe.
Think from my experience, that weddings are more and more about showing how much money that has been spent, and how many people have been invited rather than having people that you actually like and love to speak to now.On the other hand, if you are stressing about it now when its in the later part of the year, just decline!

Person_one

Kirri wrote: »

I wouldn't go to a wedding with demands like that, in fact I wouldn't ever imagine I would be friends with anyone who was like that in the first place!

Wedding planning has this strange power to make normally sane and sensible women turn into complete nutjob prima donnas temporarily.

I don't actually blame them, the websites and magazines etc. are feeding them a steady diet of "Its your special day, you're a princess, do exactly what you feel like doing and anybody who questions it is just a nasty so and so who doesn't deserve to be at your magical wedding anyway!"

Most of them revert back to normal once they've been married a few weeks.

uk_american

On a similar sidenote:
My auntie in the States was telling me that her employer set colours for last month's holiday party (black and/or gold) and fancy frocks/suits or tux for men were required.

She works for in a spa/beauty place where they're very particular about appearance in the shop. As well, the party was a nice meal/music/dancing/booze fully funded by the employer.

She said she never wore a gold dress in her 55+ years on this earth so found a sparkly gold dress and gold shoes at a charity shop and said a fun time was had by all.

Hopefully this 'required colour matching' isn't an upcoming trend that will gain in popularity, but even if so, it's a celebration, try something new, have a fun evening!

jackyann

Depends how much you & your OH like this couple and care about being with them on their day.
I don't like this "dictation" much, but you have decide which road to follow, and having decided, be gracious: decline politely or join in as requested.
If you decide to go, you have some fabulous ideas on here for cheap dresses, but I would add that you still have time to make your own! Or at least take a needle to charity shop / TKMx finds (one of my aunts who got fed up with sewing from scratch does this)
I would also consider getting a lovely dress in black (so you will get a lot of wear out of it)) and get a length of fabric in the requested colour. Depending on what suits you or the dress, you can make a belt / tie / shawl or just fling over your shoulder "dupatta" style (I have done this and it looks very elegant). You could add cheap costume jewellery in the requested colour. I have prettied up black shoes by buying hair ornaments and clipping them on.