fallen out with a friend

pigpen

I'd walk away.. I couldn't be bothered to waste emotion on someone who couldn't be bothered. If you see her, be polite if you don't even better.

I had a friend who became friends with another of my friends they lived in each others pockets and I was left out of stuff.. I dumped them both.. I lived without them for many years before I met them, I will carry on living without them.. 11 years later I barely even think about them.

Clutterfree

Just a thought, perhaps your friend didn't tell you about the bereavement as she didn't want to put a dampener on your birthday?

With regards to the January dinner invitation, could the problem lie with her husband rather than your friend?
You don't mention if it was a couples dinner, but perhaps the husband isn't so keen on your partner or you? That could explain why your friend was hesitant to accept your invitation.

thatgirlsam

pigpen wrote: »

I'd walk away.. I couldn't be bothered to waste emotion on someone who couldn't be bothered. If you see her, be polite if you don't even better.

I had a friend who became friends with another of my friends they lived in each others pockets and I was left out of stuff.. I dumped them both.. I lived without them for many years before I met them, I will carry on living without them.. 11 years later I barely even think about them.

But she could be bothered!

She was there when OP needed her, and also tried to organise her birthday bash. It's not her fault that there was a death in her family and she couldn't do it/be there. I think if anyone hasn't been the good friend, it's the OP

an9i77

thatgirlsam wrote: »

But she could be bothered!

She was there when OP needed her, and also tried to organise her birthday bash. It's not her fault that there was a death in her family and she couldn't do it/be there. I think if anyone hasn't been the good friend, it's the OP

She didn't really try to organise my birthday party - what happened was, her friend was coming to stay and they wanted to go to a particular place but she knew it was my birthday that weekend so rather than just go off without me she suggested we all go there. Which, ok that's fair enough, I'll give her credit for not just going off without me, but not really the same as organising my birthday party.

I don't think it's fair for you to say I haven't been a good friend, in the past I have but now I am at the end of my tether and no longer want to be friends so fair enough, maybe that's a fair assessment now - but that's only as a reaction to what's happened it's not how I usually behave with people. I have lots of other friends who I don't interact with in this way.

Anyway not sure what else there is to add to this debate, I'm going to walk away and focus on more positive things in my life, however the door is always open if she wants to come back - but she has to be the one who knocks on my door for a change.