My Tattoo will say mug !

philb120

It's not you that's the problem it's him. Look on 2013 as the year you start to get your life back OP. There's a few of us in that position so feel free to pm if you need support x x x

sadandbetrayed

Thank you to all for your advice, i feel ok today, well sort of.

no tears yet, thats progress, i know some of you think i am silly to cry over him and what he has done to me but 15 years is alot to suddenly forget and despite everything i cannot just turn off the feelings i have had for him.

he came to the house today and brought me food ! then had the nerve to say that he would be back to stay soon.
i told him to get that thought out of his head as he cant even respect me enough to tell me the truth about where he is/has been staying.

i said that there is no way that i can continue to keep trying to make our relationship work on my own and that i cant even comtemplate him coming back as i would always be waiting for this sort of thing to happen again whether that is 6 months down the line or 12 months or however long before someone else catches his eye.

he is still denying that there is anything going on and that he is not at this womens anymore and that he just needed some space ! Yeah right !!

NAR

Well done you. :T And now for the hard bit; be strong and stick to your guns. You know he is a liar and will do anything and tell you anything to get back into your bed - don't let him, please.

sadandbetrayed

why is it 1 step forward and 25 back all the time.

cried my eyes out last night and again this morning, why do i want to believe him when he tells me stuff and why am i surprised when i find out yet again that he has lied to me till he is blue in the face.


i know its not going to be a quick process to get over this but i am sick of pretending that i am ok, sick of pretending that life is peachy when it is just not.


i am also so angry, i want to scream and shout and throw things, at him!


i am sick of seeking approval from everyone, i need to be me and do what i want

sassyblue

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

cried my eyes out last night and again this morning, why do i want to believe him when he tells me stuff and why am i surprised when i find out yet again that he has lied to me till he is blue in the face.

Because you still love him and want him to be in love with you, that's why.

I'm glad though you are still finding out what a liar he is though, he won't change and you need to kick him to the kerb, girlfriend!

NAR

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

i need to be me and do what i want

This is what you need to focus on. Do you think some counselling would help, if so get referral from your GP.

Lilith1980

NAR wrote: »

This is what you need to focus on. Do you think some counselling would help, if so get referral from your GP.

Just to add to this, if you have a local branch of Mind near you, you could ring them to see if they provide counselling?

sadandbetrayed

counselling might help i guess, it not something i have ever gone into before, i think i can get some free session through my works health scheme, all private and confidential.

its stupid i know but this feels like my failure ! that i cant make it work

sassyblue

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

its stupid i know but this feels like my failure ! that i cant make it work

There's nothing wrong with you! You're not the one lying and cheating.

Hope you take the counselling offer up x

*Louise*

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

its stupid i know but this feels like my failure ! that i cant make it work

It takes two people to do that. If he isn't willing then it's hardly your fault.

Even if you do sort it out this time...how long before he does it again? He knows he can get away with anything now, all he has to do is turn it back on you and make it your fault.