My Tattoo will say mug !

sadandbetrayed

part of what hurts the most is that she has a young child, not sure how young about 2 i think and for so many years he told me he never wanted any more children (he has been married before)the women he cheated with before also had children, its like hes rubbing my nose in it and yet i still protected him, very few people knew he cheated the last time.
i feel so angry with myself

londonsurrey

The children are nothing to him, except to make the women more grateful that a seemingly nice man is willing to "take on" the child too.

Think about it - he's not bothered about the damage caused when he eventually breaks up with the woman, having allowed the child to start to like him.

Ihatethemoneypit

I think all of us ladies should hunt him down and cut his winky off
The more I read the more angry I am for you. You must be devastated. There is nothing you can do to turn back time but you can alter the months and years ahead of you. Stay strong x x

Amanda65

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

15 years is a lot to suddenly let go

But not for him sadly I actually think 2013 is going to be a brilliant year for you! Once you get over the initial 'bereavement' of the end of your relationship you will start to see your OH for what he is - a sad, bed-hopper who has treated someone who cared for him very, very badly and therefore presumably will have no compunction about doing it again - and again - and probably again - from one woman to the next. Do you want to spend another 15 years of your very precious life with someone who doesn't appreciate you? By 'needs a breather' he means $hag around while you wait at home in case he decides to come home - really? I dont think anyone deserves to be treated like that.

Give yourself some time to grieve, then pick yourself up, dust yourself down and focus in how you are going to move forward to achieve your dreams and goals. The best revenge for what he has put you through is for you to go on and happy a happy and fulfilling life - not easy but it can be done. Good luck xxx

Stephb1986_2

I agree with Ihatethemoneypit let's hunt him down and cut off his bits!

Steph xx

sadandbetrayed

when i found out where he was i was very tempted to smash all of the windows in his car ! but i am not that person.

the potential consequences out way the brief moment of satisfaction

my friend wanted to paint wh**e on her front door !

i honestly think he is expecting me to have him back when he has had his "space" because he doesnt think i can manage on my own, emotionally or financially

Lilith1980

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

i honestly think he is expecting me to have him back when he has had his "space" because he doesnt think i can manage on my own, emotionally or financially

And you, my dear, are going to prove him wrong in the most fabulous way! You are stronger than you think. What a lovely shock it will be when he sees that you have moved on.....and he has nothing!

sadandbetrayed

oh i am so angry, just had a text from him, he is still denying that he is with another woman, he was the one who let it slip where she lived, his is the car parked outside that place, he doesn't know i know where he is but even so, how long can he just blatantly lie.i haven't text him back because if i do and he is now going to her then he wont text back and i will be waiting all night for a reply i wont get which will stress me out even more.


why is he doing this to me ?

balletshoes

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

oh i am so angry, just had a text from him, he is still denying that he is with another woman, he was the one who let it slip where she lived, his is the car parked outside that place, he doesn't know i know where he is but even so, how long can he just blatantly lie.i haven't text him back because if i do and he is now going to her then he wont text back and i will be waiting all night for a reply i wont get which will stress me out even more.


why is he doing this to me ?

because he's lied for 15 years and you've swallowed all the lies. Thats why he'll say black is white to you now and always. He's a liar. Nothing he said or did in the time you were together can be trusted, because he's a liar.

Of course you're angry, thats good, its emotion. But don't do anything physical to him or his stuff, and don't start with any mental back-and-forth either. Rise above it - he doesn't deserve you, he never did, you're worth a hundred of him, because you'd never do what he did, to someone he professes to love.

Oh and by the way - his current woman isn't to blame for this, your man is. He is the one who was supposed to respect and love you, he is the one who was supposed to be in a committed relationship with you, she wasn't.

*Louise*

sadandbetrayed wrote: »

thank you for all the kind words.
i know all of this but feel like i am looking in on it from a distance rather than living it.
i am not a stupid woman i just fell in love with an !!!! and let him treat me like a doormat
15 years is a lot to suddenly let go, he has been everything to me for that space of time but i now realise that i was nothing to him.
he tells me that he is not treating me badly ? and that he just needs a breather ?

The best thing you can do is let the other woman keep him.

I have been with my husband 15 years and if he told me he needed a 'breather' he would be out - permanently. You are treated the way you allow yourself to be. You let him back in and then inored (?) his next fling so of course he is going to treat you badly.

He is doing this because you let him get away with it. He knows he will be able to click his fingers and have you come running back. Turn your phone off, don't reply, ignore him completely, find some friends to go on a night out with, have some FUN

Oh - and change your locks and leave his stuff outside.;)


Why not see this as a new start and make 2013 YOUR year...the one where you discover you don't need to be treated like [EMAIL="!!!!"]!!!![/EMAIL] and take control of your own life.

x