How to stop toddler hitting and throwing things at mum?

johnnyl

Person_one wrote: »

Haven't you heard? It doesn't matter how many desperately unhappy families you help, if you weigh too much while you do it then it doesn't count.

much like Jeremy Kyle, she doesnt help anyone. They earn money by showing people up then riding in on their white horse with an alleged fix (while conveniently making money from it)

If it was about helping people, then they would do it without the TV cameras

Glitter_girl_2

johnnyl wrote: »

much like Jeremy Kyle, she doesnt help anyone. They earn money by showing people up then riding in on their white horse with an alleged fix (while conveniently making money from it)

If it was about helping people, then they would do it without the TV cameras

It does help people. My sister has used techniques she learnt on her show and its really helped her

Raksha

zaksmum wrote: »

I know they have to be shown their behaviour is naughty NOW and not anytime later...bit like puppy training really!

(Interestingly, he doesn't hit his daddy...just mum!)

My nephew used to be like this (he's a semi professional cage fighter now!)
He was watching his dad lash out when he didn't get his own way. Not that I am saying your sil is hitting anyone, but it might be worth looking at what he's learning from who.

johnnyl

Glitter_girl wrote: »

It does help people. My sister has used techniques she learnt on her show and its really helped her

I will repeat what I wrote

If it was ABOUT helping people, then it would be done without the TV cameras. I am sure that there are some helpful aspects that people can take on board, however until she brings a family up, has to deal with multiple kids in the real world (rather than a set up TV show which is vastly different) then I wont pay attention to her patronisation.

PS. She is still a salad dodger too.

johnnyl

yes...lets all just cuddle each other and it will all be ok. No wonder there are disrespectful waifs and strays wondering around and we have a broken society.


nothing but a social experiment gone bad, with top advice from all these liberal, hankey waving natural yogurt eaters who are experts in how everyone should bring their kids up. All of these Nimbys with enlightened ideas who dont have to deal with the fallout when it goes wrong. Yup, thats what we need, cuddles and kisses.

Person_one

Yep, the people rioting last year were all cuddled far too much as children, that was the root cause! :rotfl:

meritaten

I feel sorry for those poor kids whose parents dont believe in discipline. They get such a shock when they start school and either the other kids hit them back, or teacher doesnt do hugs and kisses when they play up!

sassyblue

johnnyl wrote: »

yes...lets all just cuddle each other and it will all be ok. No wonder there are disrespectful waifs and strays wondering around and we have a broken society.

nothing but a social experiment gone bad, with top advice from all these liberal, hankey waving natural yogurt eaters who are experts in how everyone should bring their kids up. All of these Nimbys with enlightened ideas who dont have to deal with the fallout when it goes wrong. Yup, thats what we need, cuddles and kisses.

Oh l don't know, a few cuddles might have made you a happier person.

jellyhead

johnnyl wrote: »

If it was about helping people, then they would do it without the TV cameras

That would only help those people though. The rest of us might get some tips from seeing her advice in action.

Yummy_Mummy_Sofia

Hi Zaksmum. My DD has displayed very similar behaviour from around 20months, she's now nearly 3.

Basically started off rather small just scratching me and pinching me when she was angry or frustrated. It progressed to hitting by the time she was well into the terrible 2stage. She very rarely hits daddy but loves to have a pop at mummy.

We've always taken a zero tolerance route in our house, and basically she has time out or now her toys ect are taken away till she learned to play and be nice. I explain to her that hitting is not nice and mummy doesn't like it as it hurts. My DD has always been mentally more ahead than physical, and therefore gets very frustrated when her body can to do the things she wants it to do. Her bad behaviour is also often linked with boredom and how sleepy she is.

Basically try to tell your daughter it's a fase and it will get better, not a nice one but one that many children go through. The important part I found was to just stick with the timeout or removal of toys route. Eventually they get the message that the hitting gets then nowhere fast and they start to improve.

With regards to the person who suggested looking at why he hits mom and not dad and behaviour displayed. Sorry but what a load of crap in my opinion. My daughter lashed out at me as I was the person home most of the time, I'm the one who says 'no' more often and I'm the one that is her constant. Children lash out as they have no means or way of expressing or understanding what is acceptable. It is up to the person they are raised by to instil values of what is right and wrong, children are not born with that knowledge. Not every child lashes out because the person around them has displayed violent or aggressive behaviour!