Not being in the school clique! ***UPDATE***

Yorkshire-Lady_3

Hmm, Never easy, but in my opinion, Your wife will 'need' to get it all out of her system before she lets it rest/drop.

If I was her, I'd certainly feel annoyed, but from experience, Churches are notorious for back biting/gossip/!!!!!ing!

Hope it's all resolved peacefully.

Sally x

SeptemberBaby_2

I would be be torn between not letting the other mothers see that it bothered me and having it out with the organiser. If I was one of the other parents attending then I would be disgusted that 4 kids had been left out and would boycot on principle.

I'm sure that you and your daughter will have a fantastic day with your *own* family and friends, doing things your own way.

PS: I really am disgusted at the unChristian attitude of these parents on such a Christian occasion! Please let us know how you get on x

taurusgb

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

I really am disgusted at the unChristian attitude of these parents on such a Christian occasion! Please let us know how you get on x

Although not Catholic, my family were church goers for many years, but eventually gave up going because of the cliques in the congregation. For example (of which there are many!) there was one particular woman who often wrote for the church magazine on loving one's neighbour and Christian values - then happily every Sunday she was organising youth church or childrens participation in the service, would do her best to ignore the children of those in the congregation who didn't live in her own (upmarket) area of our small town. Sadly we decided that although God will always be part of our lives, churches run by man often do not "work" and that we seem to find a lot more Christian behaviour outside of the church building, than we ever found within it.

Hope your little girl has a lovely day!

Horasio

One way to deal with it

Make your own fabulous clique and exclude anyone you find offensive, especially the kingpin of the existing one - enjoy:D

No-one will want their scabby one then:D

ailuro2

maybe if you know the mother well she knew you had planned a big family 'do' for yourselves and knew you wouldn't go to her thing anyway.

Ask the parents of the other three before you go to the next meeting.Ask them if they are having a party. If they have nothing planned, then the Christian thing would be to invite them to your own.;)

Broken_hearted

All school/club/groups are like this full of politics meetings are like like wiches round a couldron. I find its those who do the least work who cause the most trouble.
Don't let them get to you remember having fun is the best revenge. You don't want to be pat of a clique, it's much nicer to have true friends and family around who you can trust. Clique infight all the time and the back biteing makes it a waste of time.
I wouldn't even bother bringing it up at the meeting just hold your head up high and enjoy your party. Good luck hope your DD has a wonderful day.

silvercar

Daddyto3 wrote:

I'm sure our Parish Priest would be absolutely disgusted too, but he probably wont find out.

So tell him. Emphasise that you are upset for your little girl.

The other option would be to tell the headmistress, I'm sure she would take appropriate action.

black-saturn

Best thing to do now would be to stop all the favours she does for others. If they are cutting you and the family out of the big bash make sure they don't take her for granted and expect her to be there when they need a favour. they might soon learn the error of their ways. Then when they come crawling back again make sure she makes it clear she wants nothing to do with them. I used to get people take me for granted until I put my foot down and they all started begging in the end and it was such a laugh.

tightgit_2

I totally understand why your wife is upset. If these people are so nasty as to exclude a few children then they will derive pleasure from knowing they have upset yoour wife. I really dislike people who do this sort of thing, after all what difference would a few more kids have made.

If I was your wife I would let it go.
At least she will be aware what they are like in future.

Ellie2758

silvercar wrote: »

So tell him. Emphasise that you are upset for your little girl.

The other option would be to tell the headmistress, I'm sure she would take appropriate action.

I agree. Tell the priest and the headmistress. This is just downright NASTY and as somebody else said, it is a form of bullying.