Not being in the school clique! ***UPDATE***

Justie

I hate things like that - if you're going to invite most of the class it should be all of the class, end of. I hope your wife shames them into realising they're the bullies they are and I hope you enjoy your family party.

Daddyto3

I wish your daughter all the best for her special day x

Thank you, and the same to yours.

Blink_2

it just screams to me of indirect bullying - I wonder how they have justified to their children why only 4 other children aren't invited.

I would just rise above it (easier said than done, I know!) and try to explain to your children that sometimes in life they will encounter some not very nice people that don't play nicely but that it doesn't have any reflection on them.

funky-footprints

if you know you would of had no intention in going maybe that is why you wern't invited ?
as the other posters have written im afraid a clique is a way of life, be we be part of one or not they exist !

If there are mums involved that your wife believes to be her friends (parents of those children she has done favours for) then maybe she could approach them and ask why they hadnt told her ?

other than that, if she isnt bothered about attending, Id plan to do something with the other children not invited on a seperate day.

liney

I would announce loudly that there is obviously some mistake with the invites as 4 children have been missed out, and i'm sure no one would have done that deliberately.... obviously not in earshot of my daughter.

Cliques will always happen, but this is adults victomizing kids, which is just not acceptable. Does your wife get on with the party organiser, or has your daughter not been invited because there is no love lost between the two women? I would be fuming too, for my daughter, not for me.

Penny_Watcher

I'm with your wife on this one, Daddyto3.

When my children did their First Holy Communion they did everything as a group (not my children, but together with their FHC group IYSWIM). All the classes, trips out, preparation etc.

In my parish the parents of last year's FHC group organise an "After FHC Party" in the parish hall for the this year's children straight after the service. That way no-one could possibly be left out.

As a regular church goer I think this sort of cliquieness is incredibly unchristian, apart from being downright rude. Our parish priest would certainly be having a few words of wisdom from the pulpit.

Anyway, Little Miss Daddyto3 will be having a VIP party with her own specially selected guests, rather than the bun fight with the rest of the rabble :rolleyes:

snowmaid

It breaks my heart when things like this happen. If only parents would stop and think of what they are doing.

I think that perhaps the organiser should be approached (when your wife isn't livid! :rolleyes:) and say tactfully that you understand that there is a bash happening after the communion, but that there are 4 children who haven't received invitations and because it is only the 4, you are worried that their invites have perhaps been misplaced because you are sure that she wouldn't deliberately not invite 4 children from the same class when they are all celebrating the same thing.....;)

snowmaid

Daddyto3 wrote: »

No, the PTA hasn't any money apparently for this, but that is a whole other story, sadly it's not like it was in *Our* day!

This is a copout! What is wrong in asking each family to bring a plate of eats and a drink or two!! :mad:

Daddyto3

I'm sure our Parish Priest would be absolutely disgusted too, but he probably wont find out.

My wife said she is going to announce when she walks into the meeting this Sat. "Are we ok to sit in here, or should we go to sit in the toilets???????????"

She can have a laugh about it know, but is still maddenly furious, mainly for our daughter. But the strangeist thing is that our DD, doesn't much go in for any of these cliques anyway.

My wife in a round about way asked her vaguely what XXX and XXX and XXXX (some of the kids of the cliquey mums) were doing after their Holy Communion, thinking she either didn't know, or maybe a little upset, and DD replied "think they are having a party all together, but i'm not sure, i haven't really asked them.."

Daddyto3

Does your wife get on with the party organiser

Yes, well she thought she did, the organiser is also a neighbour, and many a morning after the organiser had had her new baby 2 yrs ago, my wife would take the eldest little girl to school for her, has she had had a [STRIKE]ces[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]caes[/STRIKE] section and was in agony !!!

That is was has infuriated her more! All these cliquey mothers frequently call on my wife, to collect their kids from here and there, as we have a 7 seater..................this will all end, i feel!