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mich_city

robpw2 wrote: »

this is both shocking yet also something i think i would very much like to hear lol

some people just have no tact at all.. my grandfather used to come out with some awful things, he thought perfectly ok to say but used to cause raised eyes and some tittering... wasnt nice to be on the receiving end of it tho!

stef240377

frogga wrote: »

Not sure how to quote from others but the comment from your uncle is shocking Steph! I must say my own father said a similar thing.:(

I do have a lovely friend at work who I told about the other one's continued fasination with my weight and she offered to have a word with her. I'm a bit worried that she'll get all offended and say she was only being supportive though. Funny how I'm concerned about her feelings, when she is oblivious to mine!

I've been really thin, and really fat, and now I'm in the middle, but even though, on the odd occation that we do talk about it at work, I make it quite clear that I've had eating dissorders and I don't like to talk about it, there are still several people who do want to talk about it.

I think there are two sorts of people who lose weight ~

Normal people who got a little bit chubby when they weren't really looking and then calmly thought they better lose a little bit with no big problem about it and they aren't ashamed to tell anyone about it.

And then there's those with eating dissorders who are mortified at how disgusting they are and don't want it drawing attention to! I'm the second one by the way.

I think that's why even though I think SW is a brilliant plan and it's helped me lose 7 st, I hated being part of the group because I didn't want to be in their fat club? I think I'm fattist!

It's also funny how I can read all your stats and feel genuinly pleased and proud of you all and feel you deserve huge praise, but just feel contempt for myself? I guess it takes all sorts

Have you been offered counselling for your relationship with food/weight? When i mentioned to my GP that i were struggling to lose weight the first thing he said was to eat less and get more active when i then went on to say i were following slimming world and doing up to an hour a day on the Wii he said i may need counselling to address a few issues with food so would sign me up with the weight loss clinic. From the first meeting it was only then that it was apparent i were not eating enough from one or two of the food groups, when i picked up on those i saw (for me) great losses, this weeks STS was expected as i say i ate out at the weekend and was ill yesterday. I had weighed myself yesterday to see where weigh in would go so it werent such a shock or disappointment yet today getting on the scales it is now showing a 2.5lb loss so got to work hard this week to keep that level of loss. I also think now having to weigh at the weight loss groups and workshops between weigh ins with SW is making me stay on track and less inclined to want to steer away from healthy options whereas at the start i were reluctant to see 3 different sets of weights because i didn't want the confliction.
For my son it has only been really the last month or so that he is seeing the change in his body shape and i think his head has now caught up with the fact he is no longer a xxl but a L. He took into group last night his first school blazer from 18months ago when school changed uniforms. This was a 54" chest one, he is now down to a 44" but hides under a 48" because he said it was a waste of money to replace it for a couple of months. A few people were left utterly gob smacked last night when he put it on as they hadnt realised how big he was to start with, again i think this is because we are all in a group to loose weight together that seeing each other once a week means you arent seeing the body losses as much as that distant friend/relative you only see at xmas would.

frogga

Hi Steph,

I have had help before, about 15 years ago, from a lady at the hospital. she banned me from dieting to start with. She said I had 'permission' to eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to eat it. It really helped because I didn't really want to once I knew I could

Then , after a few weeks, I was very keen to try and lose some as I was actually putting it on. I saw the lady every two weeks. She weighed me every month. I lost alot because I was bingeing for the first 3 weeks, then starving myself for the last week. I listened to everything she said, but I still didn't do it properly. I kept pretending that all was well and I wasn't bingeing, but I was really.

I've lost a massive amount (between 7 and 10 stone) 4 times! Then put it back on again. I go without goodies for months and months, and lose loads, but then when I get a taste for it I go mad and stuff and stuff!

This time, I'm trying very very hard to listen to what SW and Taplady tell me. This time, this week actually, I've had a little treat in the evening, but not binged. Yesterday I had 4 squares of chocolate, but didn't binge afterwards. I've been a binge eater since I was 13 when my parents went through a horrible divorce and I ate to make me feel better. I'm 40 next month. Maybe it's time I grew up

stef240377

Frogga i dont think it is about growing up it is to deal with the issues that arise to cause the bingeing.I think alot of the time the funny doctors seem to think it is all a case of us larger people bein vacuum's and that anything left in our way will be cleared up because we have no control, when in fact it can be emotional triggers or just life in general getting too much for the individual.

This isnt something that has been an issue for me, my weight gain was complacency. I met my husband started eating regular meals and the weight crept on over the past 6years, the past 12 months were the wake up call i needed when blaming a clothing manufacturer didnt work anymore and it was time to see i had done the damage to myself.
I just dont want to get down to a comfortable weight now and let go of the reigns again that is one thing that does scare me.

frogga

I know you're right Steph :beer: How do I stop being upset about the past though? I don't know how to change my mindset? I guess this is a discussion for another thread, but how do you stop feeling bad about yourself if you feel that way deep down inside you? If bad and sad things have happened, how do you stop feeling bad and sad about it? I can't change history can I? People say 'move on' 'get over it' my stepmothers best line was 'life's too short get over it' (easy to say as she was the cause of it). I don't know how to make myself do that! No matter how many people say so, if you don't believe it, how do you trick yourself?

Oooo a deep and meaningful on a friday morning, soory chaps, hopefully someone will come along in a min a lighten the mood

lucky-legs

Good afternoon all, having a funny day today..been into work but came home early as the snow always has a massive impact on the work I do. I have to go back this afternoon still though. I'm now sat at home with very little motivation to do anything, I also have my daughter at home as her school has shut due to the weather.

Eating so far today
B - 2 x weetabix (B), Milk (A), Banana
S - SW potato rostie (left over from last night's tea as hubby cooked SW chips and rosties by mistake! LOL)
L - No idea yet but have two more rosties to use up along with some salad so it will probably be that.
T - Not sure yet but fancy something nice with a bit of spice in it.

Syns - As it's Friday I'm sure these will be of the alcoholic kind

nessie216

To brighten the mood (as requested by Frogga! x)

This is my bean

wizkid1

Can anyone tell me how many syns in a chocolate marshmallow Please.

frogga

Ah Nessie, PERFECT :beer:

Banjo_Bear

Good morning you lovely bunch

Sorry I've been AWOL. I've missed you all :A

Yes, even you Rob though I'm madly jealous of your weight loss

I've been busy and down.

The chainsaw arrived, so Tueday morning I had a go at the garden before the wet weather (AKA wife) arrived/nagged :rotfl:

I emailed my SW Consultant last monday explaining things. She sent a sympathetic reply and said she looked forward to seeing me on Thursday.

Well, Mon, Tues and Weds of mainly speed soup...and still no weight loss

So I didn't go and have burned my breeches now as missed 3 in a row. So I attended 8 from the 12 week countdown I paid for.

My wife was happy last night when I told her I didn't go. But she thought I had "given up" which I haven't. I shall still follow the SW way.

I was going to record myself on my own scales this morning, but will be off to spain next weekend for a couple of weeks.

Got DS's birthday this weekend and he wants to go to Pizza Express, so have booked a table.

Can't understand why I am STS for 3 weeks now, and yet I am not doing anything different to when I lost 12lbs in the first 8 weeks.

I bought 24 cans of Scrumpy Jack when I first started SW 10 weeks ago, and I still have 23 cans sitting in my kitchen. That IS will-power, believe me

This morning I was baking DS his triple-layer birthday cake, when I received an upsetting phonecall. It made me so angry :mad:

Then almost immediately, I had a really strong urge to eat something "satisfying". The strange thing was, I couldn't think of what would satisfy me (to eat I mean ) as my tummy was telling me that I wasn't hungry. But my mind was urging me to have something to TASTE. I wanted to satisfy a TASTE urge, not a hunger one. It was a very powerful urge.

I resisted and had an early lunch. Sprayed frylight in pan and made a mushroom omelette. Think that has done the trick.

So today looks like:
B. Muller light yog with 30g muesli
Snack. A large orange
L. mushroom omelette with green salad and tomatoes.
D. lemon sole, SW chips, green salad, Chilled wine for my syns

Well done to EVERYONE :T

Congrats to the losers and STS. Hugs and hugs to ALL :A