Drinking

marisco_2

Hazel_ wrote: »

If any of my "friends" spike a drink, I'll walk away.

If any so called friend spiked my drink they would not know what had hit them. People can abstain from alcohol for all kinds of reasons, not least of which is when they are taking medication. To spike someones drink is a dangerous and reckless thing to do.

I hope your friends treat you with respect and accept your choice regarding alcohol. If they dont and you walk away that is their loss.

WolfSong2000

I'm 26 and never been drunk...I drink, but only rarely, and my body seems to have this weird in-built mechanism which kicks in after a few drinks and means I will choose to abstain or switch to soft drnks (wish I could say the same for chocolate...I am the original chocaholic - can never have "just a little", but not the same issue with alcohol...it's weird).

Anyhow, I do get the odd comment about the fact I don't often drink, and, if offered will turn down alcohol. I've had one or two people become rather nasty about it, but that's on them. My friends were a little surprised when they were getting to know me, but now it's just accepted as normal

DannyBo

WolfSong2000 wrote: »

I'm 26 and never been drunk...I drink, but only rarely, and my body seems to have this weird in-built mechanism which kicks in after a few drinks and means I will choose to abstain or switch to soft drnks (wish I could say the same for chocolate...I am the original chocaholic - can never have "just a little", but not the same issue with alcohol...it's weird).

Anyhow, I do get the odd comment about the fact I don't often drink, and, if offered will turn down alcohol. I've had one or two people become rather nasty about it, but that's on them. My friends were a little surprised when they were getting to know me, but now it's just accepted as normal

Wow ! I wish I could say the same - the I'm 26 part also :rotfl:

I think I'm gonna aim for the dry January month (I managed 8 days once )

Miss_Havisham

Hazel_ wrote: »

I know, One of my friends thinks spending £2-300 on a saturday night is good anything less "Is a bad night"

it would break my heart to waste such a lot of money.

We've all seen those "Police, Camera, Action " programmes where police have to scrape youngsters off the pavement, stop men peeing up the wall and try to separate 2 women fighting (usually over a "man").

stick to your guns and see how you get on - you might miss a drink but I bet you don't !

Miss H

Hazel_

I saw that Blackpool programme (999 Whats your emergency) and that really did set things in motion for me to stop.

Lost some friends though, They said "Text me when you are normal otherwise don't bother" met my best friend who is thinking of joining me, She said "Coffee meets would be so better"

If they only want to be friends with people who drink then so be it.

jatropha

Hazel_ wrote: »

Lost some friends though, They said "Text me when you are normal otherwise don't bother" met my best friend who is thinking of joining me, She said "Coffee meets would be so better"

If they only want to be friends with people who drink then so be it.

Yep - you said it. You don't need friends like that.

Person_one

Just remember op, you don't have to choose between alcoholic or teetotal!

You can drink every now and then, even enough to get pleasantly tipsy, without harming your liver or ending up in A&E.

I might be biased on this, because I had an ex-boyfriend who was terribly smug about the fact that he didn't 'need' to drink (he did when he wanted to though!) and tried to make me feel guilty and ashamed every time I went out with friends, drinking or not. It meant I was away from his influence and control for a few hours.

It sounds like you are drinking too much at the moment (google audit c for a simple way to check) and cutting down would be good. However, there must be something you like about your friends or they wouldn't be your friends, you don't need to completely reinvent yourself in his image.

Hazel_

I'm not reinventing myself in his image, He doesn't mind me drinking, He does drink just chooses not too. he doesn't go on about it. Infact when I've gone out hes given me money and told me to have fun. He picks us up from nights out. (He encourages me to go out with my friends)

I did the Audit C and I am "At risk" thats another reason I want to stop. As for my friends, They used to be really good to hang around with, now its we need wine or vodka, I don't want that. I want to go to costa and just relax, Go for lunch somewhere quiet, Instead of getting the bus or tram there, I could drive there.

piglet25

I have never been one for drinking, a bad experience with the Thunderbird at 14 put me off for life. I have done all the clubbing and pubbing with a fine glass of coke in my hand and had a brill time. My friends all drank and it was never an issue for any of us. In fact, I have to say that the only alchhol thats passed my lips was a half a small bottle of snowball on Boxing night, watered down with lots of lemonade, and yes, it went straight to my head! The shame :O
Better for your health, your pocket and in some cases your personal safety to go with the pop!

j.e.j.

Hazel_ wrote: »

My boyfriend was the same with me at Uni, he saw I was getting bad at times and stopped me drinking, I'm thankful he did, I shudder to think if he left me, What could have happened. He's been called some awful names from my friends, hit with bags when hes picked us up from nights out and he takes it on the chin, Its not fair on him, He remembers all the things that happens, my friends don't.

When I first read this thread I thought perhaps the friends were just teenies going out drinking and being a bit rebellious. So these are educated young women in their 20's behaving like this??