Drinking

Hazel_

My boyfriend doesn't drink alot of alcohol, he drinks on special occassions such as Christmas and New year, He says he feels greay for not drinking week in week out. I've woke up after nights out rough as hell, So for 2013 I am thinking of giving up alcohol and only drinking on special occassions like my boyfriend does.

I mentioned it to my friends and they said that I would become boring and I wouldn't have as much fun on night out and my boyfriend is trying to change me. He certainly isn't, If I want to drink he doesn't stop me, nor do I stop him going to see his friends and play snooker.

I've told my friends that if they think that I need to have drink for them to think I am fun then they aint friends of mine. The hangovers are getting worse and I'm starting to go away from "lets get hammered on a saturday night" school.

Was I right in saying that to my friends? Does anyone think I'm stupid stopping the drinking?

Barny1979

Not at all, I'm doing this for 2013, got into a rut of drinking on a weekend, even if not going out, so quitting drink unless it's a special night out etc.

Any

No.
You can become friend of mine if you want, we could always do with a driver on night out!!:-) lol
You should do what you feel like and what agrees with you and your body.
I think you might find it difficult to be the only sober one lol, but drinking is not obligatory in life and no one should make you feel like it is!

pink_princess

It is your choice to make.

Hazel_

haha, I'm a shocking driver I crashed my car in a carwash once.

I'm just finding the hangovers harder and harder to get over. I've had a week long one once. and I want to remember night outs.

justmel

If you don't want to drink you certainly don't have to and if your friends feel you are less fun to be around if you don't join in with the drinking then they seem shallow to be honest.

I had to stop drinking years ago,the medication i need to take means i am not allowed any alcohol and if people don't enjoy my sober company they can do without it completely.

If you were to become pregnant or had to start a medication yourself right now how would your friends expect you to deal with that?

If you are fed up with it then it is entirely your choice,i have to say that i don't even miss alcohol anymore and although i don't socialise often when i do no one really questions it or seems to think it's odd....and i am still fun on orange juice

ktb

You are definitely not stupid to be giving up booze if your body is telling you it has had enough! I've done it a few times when the hangovers started outweighing the fun & always felt better for it. I'm way more moderate in my 30s than my rather boozy 20s & am often the driver on a night out - although I admit, when I gave up booze for about a year, my social life did change and I no longer see a few of my more alcohol dependant 'friends' anymore! But no real loss there. I'm pregnant at the moment, but my booze time outs have actually made giving up alcohol a doddle!

Go for it - it is a great way to start 2013 & if your OH is already booze free, you'll have great support! My OH is a big drinker wh

ca55ie

Good for you - go for it. The amount I drink worries me - more worrying is even when I go out with intention of not drinking I get to the bar; someone says "what do you want?" and I automatically say "a glass of wine please". Then thats the top of the slippery slope. I need to find a way to stop that first drink.
Wishing you every success Hazel.

ttoli

Been there done that.stick to your plans.true friends will stick by you the others will fall by the wayside.Go for it!!!

Hermia

Hazel_ wrote: »

I mentioned it to my friends and they said that I would become boring

You do become boring to drinking friends because you will be a reminder of how daft they are being. I rarely drink and having a sober night out does make you realise how boring some people are when drunk. Being sat there whilst everyone just sniggers and giggles at nothing in particular or the word "bum" is pretty horrendous!

If all your friends drink that much on every night out then maybe you need some more friends. So many people don't drink for various reasons or just have a drink or two. If you start having sober nights out you will probably start to see that. You do tend to attract similar people.

BTW, the idea that you are boring if you don't drink is so stupid. I have been to alcohol-free Indian weddings and believe me people can still party when sober!

determined_new_ms

the more you love your decisions the less you need others to love them