Drinking

Hermia

voucherlover wrote: »

I would be a bit careful of being too smug or judgmental if you want to keep your current friends. Not drinking is probably a good choice for you right now, but it might not be for everybody. Like it's always the ex smokers who are most zelous.

Obviously being smug or judgmental is never good, but I have found some drinkers have just objected to me sitting there happily drinking my coke. They can't seem to just ignore the fact I am not drinking.

SuzieSue

Hazel_ wrote: »

I really appreciate the support, I feel it will it will do me the world of good, My partner would be my biggest supporter, I'm quite excited to the new me!

Yes, it will do you and your liver a world of good. If you have been drinking a lot then you have probably damaged your liver, but you are still young, so if you cut down on your drinking now, then you should be able to reverse that damage.

System

There is a lot of social pressure on people, and especially younger people, to drink to excess. I think it takes a strong person to swim against the tide, but drinking in moderation is much better for you, physically and mentally. Why should somebody become a social outcast just because they don't get drunk regularly.

barbiedoll

I stopped drinking a year or so ago. It wasn't a conscious decision, I just don't go out as much as I used to and I don't really like drinking alone. DH works nights so I'm usually eating my dinner with DS (14) and I didn't want him growing up thinking that it was normal behaviour to drink at every meal!

When I think about the amount of alcohol that I've drank over the years it's shocks me. I worked in pubs for over 10 years and I was probably half-cut most of the time, during the day as well as at night. I built up a huge tolerance to alcohol during that time and I think that it's a bit like people who work in sweetshops who scoff chocolate all day, it's just there for the taking.

I don't miss it at all now, I can go out, have one or two drinks and have a perfectly good time. But at my age (47), I really don't want to be falling over or making a show of myself, like those women who show their boobs to all and sundry after a bottle of wine! :eek:

And I don't have time for hangovers, why feel ill when you can prevent it? It's bad enough being sick when you have no choice but to volunteer for it? You're definitely making the right decision!

parsnipnose

Hazel_ wrote: »

My boyfriend doesn't drink alot of alcohol, he drinks on special occassions such as Christmas and New year, He says he feels greay for not drinking week in week out. I've woke up after nights out rough as hell, So for 2013 I am thinking of giving up alcohol and only drinking on special occassions like my boyfriend does.

I mentioned it to my friends and they said that I would become boring and I wouldn't have as much fun on night out and my boyfriend is trying to change me. He certainly isn't, If I want to drink he doesn't stop me, nor do I stop him going to see his friends and play snooker.

I've told my friends that if they think that I need to have drink for them to think I am fun then they aint friends of mine. The hangovers are getting worse and I'm starting to go away from "lets get hammered on a saturday night" school.

Was I right in saying that to my friends? Does anyone think I'm stupid stopping the drinking?

No it's a good thing i stopped drinking about three years ago and now only drink on special occasions i suffer from awful hangovers. Not drinking DOES NOT MAKE YOU BORING

Hazel_

I know it doesn't make me boring, I want to stop for me, I want to wake up all fresh. I really don't want to show my boobs to all and sundry. Its almost as if the men round round here need to see big boobs!

Its my decision, Its more for my health, If I went out, I could have a coke or a moctail or something. But going out is starting to bore me.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Hazel_ wrote: »

I mentioned it to my friends and they said that I would become boring and I wouldn't have as much fun on night out and my boyfriend is trying to change me. He certainly isn't, If I want to drink he doesn't stop me, nor do I stop him going to see his friends and play snooker.

I've told my friends that if they think that I need to have drink for them to think I am fun then they aint friends of mine. The hangovers are getting worse and I'm starting to go away from "lets get hammered on a saturday night" school.

Was I right in saying that to my friends? Does anyone think I'm stupid stopping the drinking?

Your 'friends' are vacuous prats.

Once you look at them clear headed as they are puking in gutters, their skirts up round their waists, etc, you'll realise this and not regret drinking when you wish because you like it, rather than tipping rubbish down their throats until becoming incapable.

MadDogWoman_2

Hi Hazel,

I first had alcohol when I was 18 ( a late starter as I couldn't find a drink I liked).

Gave it up at 22, I'm 36 now, can't remember the last time I had any alcohol. I have my DD to consider if both of us have had a drink what happens should she needs a trip to A&E and neither of us are able?

I never built a tolerance up either, 2 drinks and my night was over, I was asleep.

My DH's family think I'm odd as I can have a good time and not drink.

There's such a big selection of soft drinks now, you don't have to stick to coke or lemonade.

I have been known at family parties to take bottled water and drink that.

Go for it, it will save you money and your body will thank you for it.

starrystarry

Faith177 wrote: »

Have you thought about doing this to get you started

http://www.dryjanuary.org.uk/

I fancy having a go at that. But I'm working away from home for three months from next week and realistically there's no way I'll manage to resist the odd glass of wine when I'm eating in pubs/restaurants every night. So I'm going to do dryapril instead :T

Hazel_

I just don't want a dry month, I want to do it for longer. I told my friends that I'm not going to the nightclubs on saturday and got the "Your boring" and "Your boyfriend is a bad influence". Ive had "You need to leave him, Theres better lads when we go out!!"