Drinking

Jinx

I've gone through stages with alcohol as I think most do as life progresses - drinking with friends ( a lot) then married, few drinks at home with hubby - then single parent, cant afford to drink so dont, get married again - hubby loves red wine, acquire a taste for it but prefer a diet coke or coffee The only enduring love re alcohol is girly nights out but they dont happen enough to be an issue....

But the main hinderance to drinking is my drivers license - if you are driving that evening = no drinking; if you are driving the next morning = cant drink much either! Its too valuable to lose as I couldnt get to work without it.

Hermia

Hazel_ wrote: »

I just don't want a dry month, I want to do it for longer. I told my friends that I'm not going to the nightclubs on saturday and got the "Your boring" and "Your boyfriend is a bad influence". Ive had "You need to leave him, Theres better lads when we go out!!"

So, they try and change your behaviour and split you up from your boyfriend. What charming friends!

inkie

go for it. I am teetotal and have been for year's. It's never been an issue.

Hazel_

They couldn't split me from my boyfriend, he has been there for me through everything.

I'm on the hard stuff this evening, Vimto I wasn't expecting this much support. I wish I found this place years ago, When I was having other issues.

geoffky

I last had a drink in 1999 and it is the best decision i ever made..I was one who could not go out and have two drinks (even though i was drunk on three) i would want to continue until i was very drunk..If you feel that alcohol controls you in any way then it is time to have a think....good luck all..I just stopped and that was it..

skateykatey

I also pretty much don't drink. In my younger days I could pull all nighters and still go to work but now...the thought makes me ill!

One thing that annoys me is that because I'm the only one sober I tend to be the designated taxi driver which is a bit annoying when I have a car full of drunken women.

thehappybutterfly

Being a real Scottish lass I do like a drink and I'm always amazed when I hear about people who don't drink. Especially young Scottish lassies. However, as amazed as I am, I am also pleased for them and inspired. I spent the majority of my teens getting drunk and suffering the next day. It's not often I go out at the weekends and even rarer for me to be sober when I do go out but it's nice once in a while. It's hilarious to watch my friends getting drunk! I've got to admit that I don't like being drunk drunk these days and it's hideous to watch women of a certain age staggering around blind drunk.

I think you're doing the right thing Hazel. Stick to your guns - I'm pretty sure you'll enjoy your nights out more. And your mornings after!!!

thehappybutterfly

Hazel_ wrote: »

Thank you for all your nice words

I'm really looking forward to it, the fresher me. The cash in savings.

I got all the alcohol I had in my house and poured it away. Made me happy doing it and my partner gave me a big hug (hugs are better than vodka and cokes )

I'm not going to make a fuss over it, I will have a coke when I go out or a mocktail. If any of my "friends" spike a drink, I'll walk away.

Bloody hell woman! You shouldn't have poured it away - I'd have helped you. :rotfl:I can put away a fair amount of booze......

System

My bf rarely drinks (doesn't like being drunk) and its had a somewhat calming effect on me. I don't drink as much, or as often as i used to. I have a had a few drinks this xmas, but haven't gotten drunk, and even stayed in on xmas eve :eek: However i will still be having some drinks on NYE as im going to a friends house.

In my early uni days i drank way too much, to the point my bf at the time banned me from drinking on my own in my room, i used it to self medicate basically..then i kind of had a break from it once i went on meds as im not supposed to drink whilst on them, but couldn't give it up 100% (and dont want to- i like the warm fuzzy tipsy feeling and always stop when i get to that point), i feel i've found a happy medium now.

Anyway..TL;DR, i dont think any less of people who either don't drink or only drink occasionally (like my bf). It doesn't change my opinion of them at all. I still have fun with them. And if anything i slightly envy them for not needing a drink to have a good time (i'm working on this..)

Hazel_

haha, I should have offered the alcohol I had left around, I decided I didn't want it in the house anymore,

My boyfriend was the same with me at Uni, he saw I was getting bad at times and stopped me drinking, I'm thankful he did, I shudder to think if he left me, What could have happened. He's been called some awful names from my friends, hit with bags when hes picked us up from nights out and he takes it on the chin, Its not fair on him, He remembers all the things that happens, my friends don't.

I decided the money I saved can go towards something on the house or when my boyfriend pops the question towards the wedding. I'm hoping he will ask soon!