Drinking

fluffnutter

Hazel_ wrote: »

I mentioned it to my friends and they said that I would become boring and I wouldn't have as much fun on night out and my boyfriend is trying to change me.

Hmm, this says far more about them than it does you. Why does not being inebriated make you 'boring'? You don't say how old you are, but you (or at least your friends) sound fairly young. Trust me, once you're in your 40s, if you've not reached the conclusion that you need to slow down the drinking then you're heading for hangover (and liver damage) hell! The comment about your boyfriend trying to change you is also quite telling. I have changed because of my husband, he's changed because of me. But it's an organic, natural, positive process - we can't remain the same all our lives; that would suggest stagnation. Once you've been with someone for many years you realise this - I think it's only when you're young that you worry about being 'changed' by someone, possibly because you're still so busy forging your own identity that it feels slightly threatening for it to be influenced by someone else. But there's nothing wrong with someone else's positive lifestyle rubbing off on you.

People feel uncomfortable when others around them give up, or cut down on, drinking. It places their own consumption under scrutiny, something they'd perhaps rather not think about! But that's their issue, not yours. Who cares what your friends think? If you want to knock the boozing on the head, good for you. There are far more interesting ways to spend your time.

Hazel_

I'm 25 He has calmed me down in many good ways, Shown me new things, Such as the theatre, the tops of the pennines (at night the views are amazing). I'm getting hangover hell now. I think I've had my drinking fun. As I say I want to be able to remember nights out, If that means I loose people from my life I guess it wasn't meant to be.

Miss_Havisham

to be honest I find drunk people (and people with hangovers) very boring.

mary2012

I never thought I had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol until this year. I knew I was a binge drinker, but only once or twice a week... Then I looked at why I drank. Was I funny? maybe for a while, was I unpredictable drunk? yes, was I really blocking things out, absolutely.. So this year, I looked at the value to myself if I carried on being a drinker. I wasnt actually getting anything positive out of it.. So I decided I just didnt want to do it anymore. Now I may have a glass of wine if I feel like it, but I best it has been months since the last one. I also gave up smoking on 1st Nov, this has been great, and I would steer away from booze in case I was tempted to smoke a cig, no thank you!!
I went on a works do before Christmas, I was the driver and sober, well I have never laighed as much.. everyone was getting more and more drunk, making no sense at all and I felt quite smug knowing it wasn't me making a fool of myself

ognum

About 5 years ago I needed to loose some weight and also felt my drinking was not good, if we opened a bottle of wine my husband could have one glass and rework it until the next day when he would have another one glass, I on the other hand if the bottle was open had to drink the whole bottle.

I decided to give up alcohol for 3 months, 5 years later I haven't touched a drop, feel happier and healthier, am the same person just always sober. I think I am good fun I just know what I'm doing.

OP go for it you and your body will not regret it!

voucherlover

I would be a bit careful of being too smug or judgmental if you want to keep your current friends. Not drinking is probably a good choice for you right now, but it might not be for everybody. Like it's always the ex smokers who are most zelous.

claire16c

The only 'boring' people are the ones who need to get completely drunk to have a good time.

I will get on the dance floor & have a laugh without a drink.

I think it's much more about some people not being confident enough without a drink behind them. Perhaps they are just jealous that you don't feel that you need that anymore?

Hazel_

If my friends want to drink then they can do, I'm not going to be smug or anything, I'm doing it for me, I'm doing it for my body. I dont want to come in and be too drunk to get into bed (I've done that before) I've done stupid things when drunk (been sick over my partner in bed) I just don't want to do that anymore. I guess my direction in life is changing.

ognum

voucherlover wrote: »

I would be a bit careful of being too smug or judgmental if you want to keep your current friends. Not drinking is probably a good choice for you right now, but it might not be for everybody. Like it's always the ex smokers who are most zelous.

I think this is true but it is also the drinkers, that are not close friends, who go on and on about just having one drink! I tend to drink something like tonic with ice and lemon just so people think its an alcoholic drink!

So in the end we should just be tolerant of everyone, I don't care if others drink and get drunk around me I just don't want to do it any more. It also a great MSE tip!

Faith177

Have you thought about doing this to get you started

http://www.dryjanuary.org.uk/