Sad sad sad.

sassyblue

happy_witch wrote: »

You don't know how true those words are. However for several months it will be amazing for her and a roller coaster of happiness and gloriousness. Very very bitter pill to swallow!! Thank you xx

Hi happy witch, I've read your thread and l know you're suffering but you have done the right thing, it won't always be sweetness and light for them, his baggage won't change.

Remember it'll be your time one day, for all the right reasons! I wish you joy and happiness for 2013, may it be more than you could have wished for. Xxxx

happy_witch

sassyblue wrote: »

Hi happy witch, I've read your thread and l know you're suffering but you have done the right thing, it won't always be sweetness and light for them, his baggage won't change.

Remember it'll be your time one day, for all the right reasons! I wish you joy and happiness for 2013, may it be more than you could have wished for. Xxxx

Oh god, you made me cry! Thank you so much - and the same to you xxxx

happy_witch

whichwhydoIturn wrote: »

Happy witch I wish you and everyone else on this thread a fantastic 2013
To anyone who has ever woken in the night and cried themselves back to sleep
To those who've blamed themselves and moved heaven and earth to keep the peace
To those who have had the rug pulled from under them and all you believed in was a lie
This will be our year where yes it hurts but less and less and we will find our sunshine , our self respect & most importantly our hearts contentment cos we are strong and will not allow anyone to make us feel like we want to hide under the duvet for ever
Xxxxxx

Thankyou, I have no real experience of ever feeling like this - but I hope I can support someone in the future when they feel like they don't want to live any more because that is exactly how I felt - I just did not want to live, as life was too painful. Ironically as I sat on Brighton Pier tonight I was next to a couple in their 50s I suppose and they were rowing viciously, with bad language and I thought...........there but for the grace of god go I.........this was me for years and now I'm free. Suppose my husband and his new bit of stuff might live happily ever after........thank you for your lovely kind reply xxx

sophieschoice

Came across this earlier via a Twitter link, pause for thought maybe?
http://sammieb1980.blog.com/2012/12/30/still-confused-about-women-who-go-back-to-a-no-good-dude/

happy_witch

sophieschoice wrote: »

Came across this earlier via a Twitter link, pause for thought maybe?
http://sammieb1980.blog.com/2012/12/30/still-confused-about-women-who-go-back-to-a-no-good-dude/

Thank you, very interesting. I can't say all of it applies, but definitely focusing on his moods I lost sight of the other bits. Thank you, xx

suburbanwifey

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piglet25

I had a partner once who made me feel inadequate, stupid, worthless and as if I was constantly trying to impress him for a few kind words. We split up and I can't explain the devastation I felt, absolutely gutted and lost three stone in the space of two months because I couldn't eat or sleep, was hyper all the time. I couldn't ever see myself getting anywhere, I had absolutely no confidence at all. And now? Its been seven years and I have a new partner and a young family, I run my own business and am planning on starting uni this year. And theres a part of me who will always miss my ex, its natural - even though he was a mad control freak.
You will get through it, it will happen gradually, and then you will be able to move on. There may be a part of you that will always miss him for the good times, and for the unlived dreams you had, but the reality will always remain that he hasn't making you smile. Sending you hugs here, have a good New Year - its your year and you need to grab it by the b*lls and do what you want to do

happy_witch

piglet25 wrote: »

I had a partner once who made me feel inadequate, stupid, worthless and as if I was constantly trying to impress him for a few kind words. We split up and I can't explain the devastation I felt, absolutely gutted and lost three stone in the space of two months because I couldn't eat or sleep, was hyper all the time. I couldn't ever see myself getting anywhere, I had absolutely no confidence at all. And now? Its been seven years and I have a new partner and a young family, I run my own business and am planning on starting uni this year. And theres a part of me who will always miss my ex, its natural - even though he was a mad control freak.
You will get through it, it will happen gradually, and then you will be able to move on. There may be a part of you that will always miss him for the good times, and for the unlived dreams you had, but the reality will always remain that he hasn't making you smile. Sending you hugs here, have a good New Year - its your year and you need to grab it by the b*lls and do what you want to do

Thank you - sometimes at 4 oclock in the morning like now (!!!) I have very wonky moments and wonder if I did the right thing...........I know in daylight tomorrow I will not question it, but in the middle of the night.....it's very very hard. Thank you very much, happy new year to you too xx

happy_witch

Should anyone be interested enough to read this blog and you have got to this bit, please note this is a year on and my life has turned around like you would never ever imagine for the better. Thank you all so much for bothering to write and support me (and other people) I did not want to live last Boxing Day, I absolutely wanted to die. However believe me 12 months on, boy am I glad I didn't die. Life has turned around - still in limbo til the house sells but I have a rather ok job, and really ironed out the wonky bits in my life and realize you sometimes have to reach rock bottom before you come back up again - but you will! As for husband - well - joined match dot com and probably finding his Mrs Right! Thank you from the bottom of my heart and I say to others who find themselves in a similar situation keep talking and don't expect too much of yourself, you're only human! x

DigForVictory

Came far too late, but so glad to hear than in 1 years things are better.
Keep on with all the good stuff, & hope to hear more!
Remember - there's always someone around, so if you want to share a triumph, ask advice, share a disaster - we're here.