Sad sad sad.

esmf73

You'll get there. Where are you in the country? Just wondered, if you're in Nyorks you can come to us for Christmas xx

flutterby_lil

In a few weeks you will look back and be able to laugh at how sad you were. You are not missing him, you don't even want such a low life slime ball as a friend, you have had a lucky escape. He has done you a favour not wanting to be in your life. I would guess you are missing the perfect relationship that at one point you thought it would be, you didn't ave this so don't be upset that he has gone.

Happy Christmas and all the best for 2013 x

flutterby_lil

esmf73 wrote: »

You'll get there. Where are you in the country? Just wondered, if you're in Nyorks you can come to us for Christmas xx

How so very lovely. X

happy_witch

FBaby wrote: »

happy witch, it is normal to let yourself fall into a 'feeling sorry for myself mode' and embracing the pain because it is part of the moving on process. Don't feel bad about it and don't fight it. BUT, make sure you turn the page after a whilst. I've seen many people break up, go through the pain and got so used to it (because in a way, it is comforting) and never managed to go the stage of anger which allows you to think 'ok, that's it, he doesn't deserve me to cry for him forever, it's time I start to pick myself and I'll show him I can be happy without him, as a matter of fact, much happier' (when you finally do, you don't care as much about showing it up, you are too busy concentrating on the present!).

Giving yourself that kick can be hard, because you have to go against what your body and mind are telling you. You need to make yourself get up, go out, make decision, take actions, when all you feel is drained, demotivated, and you mind is all muddled up, but you've got to use the little strenght you have to do it.

Give yourself a timescale, and then get out and embrace the real world which however challenging does has many opportunities for joy and happiness.

Thank you so very much - you have no idea how much it means - you really don't - thank you. xx

happy_witch

flutterby_lil wrote: »

In a few weeks you will look back and be able to laugh at how sad you were. You are not missing him, you don't even want such a low life slime ball as a friend, you have had a lucky escape. He has done you a favour not wanting to be in your life. I would guess you are missing the perfect relationship that at one point you thought it would be, you didn't ave this so don't be upset that he has gone.

Happy Christmas and all the best for 2013 x

Oh I hope so, I really do, this is so incredibly painful. He absolutely was my best friend for many years and I sort of 'got him' with his moods and temper and made allowances until I ran out of steam and we were destroying each other. Thankyou so much and the same to you for 2013! x

happy_witch

esmf73 wrote: »

You'll get there. Where are you in the country? Just wondered, if you're in Nyorks you can come to us for Christmas xx

Thank you very much - I am in the south, but very lovely of you! Thank you xx

Missterious

Hiya

i've just read this thread and i'm really sorry to hear how you are feeling, this time of year doesn't help either.
It will get better in time.

Where in the south are you? i'm in Bristol, if you're close we can always go out for a coffee

happy_witch

Missterious wrote: »

Hiya

i've just read this thread and i'm really sorry to hear how you are feeling, this time of year doesn't help either.
It will get better in time.

Where in the south are you? i'm in Bristol, if you're close we can always go out for a coffee

Thank you - I'm near Bristol - I can tell you, I am the last person you want to be around. Thank you so very much - you must have a big heart! xx

Maureen43

I'm near Bristol too, and in very similar circumstances to you.

PM me if you want to meet up

happy_witch

Maureen43 wrote: »

I'm near Bristol too, and in very similar circumstances to you.

PM me if you want to meet up

Thank you very much, I will do. x