Could you live with your MIL

Treevo

As long as she was in an annex then yes. If it was the other one, he'd have to be in a medically induced coma for me to put up with him for any longer than a few hours.

Saint_Chris

no no no no no.............never ever in a million years.

Turtle

No I don't think I could. I don't think she'd want to live with me either, though we get on OK.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

As long as the kennel had a fully enclosed run and good heating in winter, I suppose I could manage for a couple of days with some ketamine.....

.....and then I could get a dog and keep it indoors with me.

chiefgoobster

Could I live with my MIL ?

A massive more % than i could with my FIL.

I'd have a hole ready and waiting under the patio.

Tiglath

Yes I could - my MIL is easier to deal with than my own mother. I'd clash with my stepmother-in-law though because she's the same age as me and a bit of moody old boot We were planning to move DH's Gran in with us at the point when she died - she was lovely.

j.e.j.

Person_one wrote: »

I think this is a great idea, some of those sheltered accommodation places are nice enough that I'd move in tomorrow! You live independently in a little self contained flat, its nothing like being in a home, there's just some help available in an emergency and some communal areas that you choose to use or not.

j.e.j makes a really good point about social connections too.

Yes, I saw my step-granny move in with her children (she also didn't want to live on her own) and over the years she gradually lost contact with all her friends, all her social circle, and started to live her life thru her children, iyswim. It put an enormous strain on everyone and wasn't fair on anyone, really.

OP not sure how old your MiL is, but a lot of these places are for age 55+, so it's not necessarily for the 'elderly'

Grumpygit

We have a house with my parents in a wing.

It was actually my husbands idea for them to sell up and help us buy a bigger house with wing so that they could enjoy their retirement without worrying about their house when they went away.

When we first asked them my mum was almost out of her chair starting to pack my dad was a bit hesitant and was worried about the size of their place but the wing has amazing space. We share a back garden and drive but they have their own front and back doors. There is a connecting door between us but it's fine.

Although it was lovely when they went away for two months earlier this year.

My mum was also concerned re the sale of house to pay for care home fees so that did influence their decision as well......we don't have the same laws over here in respect of inheritance.

In respect of costs, they pay a flat fee of £75 pm plus their electric the fee covers water, broadband, rates. My dad is now grateful about the wing as he wouldn't have been able to afford to run their house on his pension.

If you feel that you could live with her then go for it but an annex or wing would be better than a bedroom in your home.

marisco_2

onlywayisup wrote: »

We lived with the inlaws for a year years ago to save some money and it was fine. We get on really well.

In a word, No. Personally I would not even consider living with in laws. What you are suggesting would be a permanent arrangement. Very different to when you lived with your in laws for a year to save some money. At that time you knew you would move on and it was a short term solution. This would be a whole new ball game.

You know the situation best and whether it could work but it is not something I would recommend to anyone.

Mojisola

onlywayisup wrote: »

Her monthly income is basically a pension now so far far less than when FIL was here.

Do make sure that she's claiming all the benefits she's entitled to.