Could you live with your MIL

sjlou

ifonlyitwaseasier wrote: »

mil - yes, adore her

Fil - not a chance!! i'd be done for premeditated murder within 48 hours!

Sounds like my in-laws!
MIL is harmless, and a genuinely lovely woman.
FIL is well, difficult to say the least!

threemuttleys

the answer would be the same for both my mother and my mother in law.

Hell No:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

My sis or sis in law....:beer:

busiscoming2

No I couldn't but would perhaps entertain the idea of living in the same vicinity if she had her own self contained unit.

That goes for FIL and my own dad too.

scooby088

MIL only if she went mute overnight :rotfl: and left a big inheritance.

aileth

No.

It's as simple as that.

loulou123

Definately 100% NO!

My MIL has actually suggested this to us already, but I suspect the look on my face told her everything she needed to know!

She's a nice enough lady, but only in small doses, so the idea of living with her doesn't appeal at all.

thorsoak

Speaking as a MIL and mother of adult children with families, and now a widow, can I speak on behalf of the senior member of the family?

Last year I was invited to spend two months with my daughter and her family in the US. I thoroughly enjoyed my time with them - but by the time I returned home, I realised that I could not, and would not, live with any of my children as I age, because one sees too much of another family's private life - if you see what I mean. I became more involved than I should as a grandparent - I found myself automatically correcting the children - something I found abhorrent in my own and my inlaws parents - and almost reacting to disagreements between my daughter and her lovely OH.

In my opinion, as a grandparent, I do not have the right to interfere in their family life - and I might find it hard not to do so!

Now I might possibly think of living with one or others of my sisters if one of them was in the same situation as myself .

onlywayisup_2

Thank you all.

Good to hear the different opinions and sides of the story.

Would a trial period of say moving into her house for a year or so help do you think?

Emmala

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:
If I lived with my MIL I'd end up in prison......which would be preferable!!!!
I am happy to look after my parents in their old age, but not under our/their roof....an annexe would be OK. But DH's parents.....not in a million years, thankfully we live a long way away and DH's sister and brother have stayed local (more fool them!!!!)
Having said that, I hope that whatever you decide works out xx

Mojisola

It really is one of those questions that's unanswerable in any particular case.

I know one family where the wife's mother moved in with them and it worked wonderfully well for all three generations.

I know two families where a parent moved in and wasn't happy but couldn't move out because the adult children liked the larger property and refused to sell up and give the parent back their share.