Lunch with Colleagues - don't know what to do

Saint_Chris

And now sit back and let the others do the work.

If your approached, then just say truthfully what happened.

that's all you can do.

yvonne13_2

OP did you get a copy of the original bill from the manager? And a receipt for the tip you also left?

gibson123

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Yes, this is why I suggested gathering all your evidence objectively and approaching your manager to ask them what they want you to do.

I really don't want to get my Manager involved TBH, we are not daft kids, we all hold fairly senior posts and are expected to sort out our own differences. She did pay the bill, and it would be very difficult to prove she did not make an honest mistake. We didn't want her at the lunch in the first place and she only invite herself along because one of our other colleagues slipped on ice and is off work so there was a space. I don't want her to get into trouble at work, but would like my money back.

getmore4less

Get all the same people to go to lunch again, wait till the bill comes and say your paying for robbing us last time and walk out leaving her there.

gibson123

yvonne13 wrote: »

OP did you get a copy of the original bill from the manager? And a receipt for the tip you also left?

Yes for the first, no for the 2nd. But that is easily checked, the Manager will back me up, it is a family restaurant and he is an honest chap.

gibson123

getmore4less wrote: »

Get all the same people to go to lunch again, wait till the bill comes and say your paying for robbing us last time and walk out leaving her there.

LOL, I would love to do this, but I could not in all conscience do this even to my worst enemy.

Sambucus_Nigra

gibson123 wrote: »

I really don't want to get my Manager involved TBH, we are not daft kids, we all hold fairly senior posts and are expected to sort out our own differences. She did pay the bill, and it would be very difficult to prove she did not make an honest mistake. We didn't want her at the lunch in the first place and she only invite herself along because one of our other colleagues slipped on ice and is off work so there was a space. I don't want her to get into trouble at work, but would like my money back.

I didn't say your manager would sort it for you - I said that you would ask their advice on what to do next.

As everyone IS at work, and there is a past grievance against you - and you could have another grievance if she can wangle that you have told your colleagues out of malice, then your manager will be the one to sort it. And the first thing they will say is 'why didn't you come to me for advice on how to handle it'. After all - you posted on a forum asking for advice, so daft or not...you weren't sure on what to do.

yvonne13_2

gibson123 wrote: »

Yes for the first, no for the 2nd. But that is easily checked, the Manager will back me up, it is a family restaurant and he is an honest chap.

As you don't have a copy of the tip you paid she could easily say it's not true and you making it up to cause problems.

I don't think you should have sent an email to your co-worker either as that could be used against you in a negative way but I do hope you get this sorted.

There's nothing worse than working with people you don't trust.

sassyblue

gibson123 wrote: »

. Anyway he asked if we had not received good service, I said no we had a lovely time, why did he ask, he said he had a new girl serving us and as we did not leave a tip as was our custom, he assumed we were unhappy or she had upset us.

I was going to say hang on but l see you've mentioned it to a colleague now.

Is there a chance the manager was asking about the tip because he suspects his new staff member is a thief?

gibson123

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I didn't say your manager would sort it for you - I said that you would ask their advice on what to do next.

As everyone IS at work, and there is a past grievance against you - and you could have another grievance if she can wangle that you have told your colleagues out of malice, then your manager will be the one to sort it. And the first thing they will say is 'why didn't you come to me for advice on how to handle it'. After all - you posted on a forum asking for advice, so daft or not...you weren't sure on what to do.

Very true and wise words, I will keep this in mind, I really should watch my back more carefully.