Not 'doing' Santa

pulliptears

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Noone has said any of the above, good on ya for injecting some humour though....you forgot, 'actually your dad is the milkman'

I'd have bet more the postie actually, not seen a milkman aince about 1982 :D

thatgirlsam

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Yes he has, but we did not know this when he was a teenager.

When he was about seven, we bought him a very nice jacket from a jumble sale. Being the straightforward young man he is, he saw no reason why he should not tell all and sundry this fact. He got teased and bullied over it all that day, and came home from school not wanting to wear the coat again.

I said he did not have to wear the coat if he didn't want to, andas asked him some questions. Did he mind the coat being from a jumble sale? He said no. Did he mind how much we had paid for it? He said no. Did he think it was better that he had the coat rather than it being thrown away? He said yes. I left it at that and just repeated that he didn't have to wear the coat if he didn't want to. He came downstairs the following morning wearing the coat and never again took any notice of what other people thought he should be wearing, never has to this day.

I appreciate a hormonal 13-year-old female may react differently, but I still think all you can do is make her feel better and more confident about herself, not try to pretend her spots don't exist.

I didn't try and pretend her spots don't exist

I said they looked ok when they don't

She's still gorgeous though

Treevo

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Opinions? Discussion? Helps you see what you might encounter 'in real life'.....

I've never before met someone who says 'end of' and insists anyone who disagrees with them is 'missing the point' to be someone who wants opinions or discussions.

OrkneyStar

Treevo wrote: »

I've never before met someone who says 'end of' and insists anyone who disagrees with them is 'missing the point' to be someone who wants opinions or discussions.

She didn't say that at the start though......

Treevo

Person_one wrote: »

I don't understand what's hard about it, surely its a no brainer?

If Sam said had said anything other than 'fine' what could her daughter have done about it? Absolutely nothing, so there's no point in being honest when the only result will be that she feels bad.

There are situations where honesty about appearance is the right thing to do, if the person can easily change the thing that doesn't look great, or if you can save them from unkind comments from other people, but if the only outcome is someone feeling bad, why would you even consider being honest?

Do you not get it yet? It's selfish, pure and simple. Someone who would never lie for their own internal feelings doesn't give a damn about the actions their 'truths' have on others. But as long as they maintain their inner air of moral superiority, it doesn't matter.

Treevo

OrkneyStar wrote: »

She didn't say that at the start though......

Well done. Weren't you crying yesterday because I answered a post of yours that was in reply to someone else? Strange how you don't hold yourself to the same standards you expect of others. Actually, not that strange.

Treevo

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

OK, then, no-one whose opinion they care about thinks less of them over it.

You've never met a teenager have you?

OrkneyStar

Can I just say, although we are clearly not all in agreement, this thread has been interesting for me, right from the 'santa' aspect and on to the general 'lies' aspect of it to. I haven't changed my opinion as such, well not at all if I am honest , but it has been really good to hear the other views and think about things a little. I have to bow out now, but thanks again everyone .

seven-day-weekend

Treevo wrote: »

You've never met a teenager have you?

Yes and even brought one up, see my post above.

Treevo

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Yes and even brought one up, see my post above.

You really cannot compare your teenager to a teenager who doesn't have such a condition.