why cant my brother commit?

Person_one

Mado wrote: »

It sounds to me like the people who have never experienced both are a little touchy on the subject.
I speak from my own experience; having experienced both.

How on earth can you tell?

'Happily single' isn't the same as 'lifelong virgin'!

Mado

Person_one wrote: »

How on earth can you tell?

'Happily single' isn't the same as 'lifelong virgin'!

:doh:
It just shows that you didn't read my post properly.
It's the never experienced living with someone else.

Person_one

Mado wrote: »

:doh:
It just show that you didn't read my post properly.
It's the never experienced living with someone else.

Again, how can you tell?

miduck

Mado wrote: »

No it isn't patronising.
As I said, it's my personal opinion based on my experience; I was perfectly happy before I found someone to share my life and my home with, but our companionship has fulfilled something hat I didn't know wasn't there.

Feeling "sad" for someone simply because they do not share your point of view is downright patronising! All because something works for you, that does not mean it is right for everyone. To pity another person for a rational lifestyle choice is extremely narrow minded.

Mado

Person_one wrote: »

Again, how can you tell?

How can I tell what?

miduck wrote: »

Feeling "sad" for someone simply because they do not share your point of view is downright patronising! All because something works for you, that does not mean it is right for everyone. To pity another person for a rational lifestyle choice is extremely narrow minded.

Good heavens.
Is nobody allowed to express a personal opinion these days?

I'll leave the militant "refuse to commit ever through my own choice entirely" to stand by their picket line, as frankly this isn't going anywhere. I'm delighted they are blissfully happy.
I've yet to meet any of them in the flesh.

SandC

Mado wrote: »

Personally, I find it sad when people have spend their life without meeting anyone they feel comfortable sharing their lives (or a significant part of their lives with) because I value the companionship I have found and would feel that I'd missed out. But that's me.:D
Having said that, I'd rather be single than in a relationship that isn't right.

I don't think Mado's post was intended to offend at all, but use of the word 'sad' might have been a tad inappropriate.

See, there's a smiley face and all!

red_devil

sorry all just come back to see ive started a riot. Didnt mean too.

miduck

Mado wrote: »

How can I tell what?

Good heavens.
Is nobody allowed to express a personal opinion these days?

I'll leave the militant "refuse to commit ever through my own choice entirely" to stand by their picket line, as frankly this isn't going anywhere. I'm delighted they are blissfully happy.
I've yet to meet any of them in the flesh.

I don't think anyone has said they "refuse to commit ever", but rather that they are quite content as they are?

Perhaps you have not met such people because they choose not to associate with you? I doubt anyone would want to be friends with someone that feels "sad" for them!

Marmaduke123

red_devil wrote: »

sorry all just come back to see ive started a riot. Didnt mean too.

Really? Maybe a clue in your username!

Person_one

Mado wrote: »

How can I tell what?

Good heavens.
Is nobody allowed to express a personal opinion these days?

I'll leave the militant "refuse to commit ever through my own choice entirely" to stand by their picket line, as frankly this isn't going anywhere. I'm delighted they are blissfully happy.
I've yet to meet any of them in the flesh.

How can you tell whether someone has lived with a partner or not unless they explicitly tell you that.

Unfortunately, I've met plenty of people 'in the flesh' who are completely unwilling to accept that somebody who makes a different choice than they did can be happy. You see it a lot on the 'child free by choice' threads too.

You are completely free to express your own opinion, but when your opinion implies some of us are either liars or don't know our own minds, you can't be surprised when people challenge it.