Passive Aggressive - Emotionally Abusive Partner - Anyone else?

trevor_john

Yes, agree with Paddy's mum. OP if you can see this are you ok?
Maybe send a message through someone else if you're unable to do it. We're concerned.

3WayFreedom

Hello everyone,

Thank you for your lovely supportive posts - they mean a lot and I am very touched. x x

Well I haven't been on for a while as after moving out the Ex got in touch frequently talking jibberish (basically anything for attention) after begging me to go back to him didn't work he started with the nastiness (including saying he knew I went on websites telling lies about him ... he told me he had a tracker installed on my laptop.) So I wanted to disappear from this site so he couldn't find out any further information... sorry if any of you were concerned.

Well myself and my children are very well, we have come on in leaps and bounds since I last posted. I have joined a couple of mums & toddlers groups and I also have a part-time job which allows me to buy my children a couple of treats. Financially things are a lot harder since I have left - but you cannot put a price on emotional freedom can you?
I have also lost 20lbs and physically I am feeling great... can't afford to run a car but the walking everywhere is paying off lol.

The Ex is now 'happily' with someone new... now he has a new whipping boy to be the brunt his emotional pain, he is nothing but politeness himself to me. He pays money for his daughter faithfully, always collects her on time, drops her off on time and she is delighted to see him. He has apologised many times for his behaviour and 'says' he knew he was abusive and was very screwed up... but now he is better (yeah right.) Anyway he also said he didn't have any trackers on my computer but had noticed I had forgot to delete a woman's refuge forum from my history and had assumed I had been saying stuff about him on there.

To cut a long story short ... I am happy for the first time in years... scared but excited ... poor but emotionally rich ... and so looking forward to a lovely Spring and hot Summer filled with nice thoughts, kind words and good deeds.

Once again THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH... you gave me strength, hope and that final push when I was weak with indecision. My advice to anyone else who is being abused mentally or physically... male or female... Life is too short to let others inflict unhappiness and pain on you or your loved ones. You can have whatever you want in life... don't ever settle for less than being treated with care and respect. End the abuse and start a new life, a better life... DO IT NOW! x

Yorkie1

Lovely to hear such a positive update - so pleased for you and your children. All the best for the future !

CH27

I'm so glad you are safe & happy

warehouse

3WayFreedom wrote: »

and so looking forward to a lovely Spring and hot Summer

It was going well until that part .

Seriously though OP, well done, we only get one chance at life and it's wasted by so many people, so getting away and being HAPPY is a fantastic move, however scary it might be at times. I'm proud of you.

Hezzawithkids

Well done 3way!:beer: So happy that you're making a success of your new life. It's great that you've managed to forge a new and more positive relationship with your ex but also interesting that he already has a new partner. As you say he obviously needs someone to babysit his moodswings on a permanent basis, he has some serious mental issues going on there. You are well out of it.

Congratulations!! :T:T

Melaniep101

3WayFreedom wrote: »

Hello everyone,

Thank you for your lovely supportive posts - they mean a lot and I am very touched. x x

Well I haven't been on for a while as after moving out the Ex got in touch frequently talking jibberish (basically anything for attention) after begging me to go back to him didn't work he started with the nastiness (including saying he knew I went on websites telling lies about him ... he told me he had a tracker installed on my laptop.) So I wanted to disappear from this site so he couldn't find out any further information... sorry if any of you were concerned.

Well myself and my children are very well, we have come on in leaps and bounds since I last posted. I have joined a couple of mums & toddlers groups and I also have a part-time job which allows me to buy my children a couple of treats. Financially things are a lot harder since I have left - but you cannot put a price on emotional freedom can you?
I have also lost 20lbs and physically I am feeling great... can't afford to run a car but the walking everywhere is paying off lol.

The Ex is now 'happily' with someone new... now he has a new whipping boy to be the brunt his emotional pain, he is nothing but politeness himself to me. He pays money for his daughter faithfully, always collects her on time, drops her off on time and she is delighted to see him. He has apologised many times for his behaviour and 'says' he knew he was abusive and was very screwed up... but now he is better (yeah right.) Anyway he also said he didn't have any trackers on my computer but had noticed I had forgot to delete a woman's refuge forum from my history and had assumed I had been saying stuff about him on there.

To cut a long story short ... I am happy for the first time in years... scared but excited ... poor but emotionally rich ... and so looking forward to a lovely Spring and hot Summer filled with nice thoughts, kind words and good deeds.

Once again THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH... you gave me strength, hope and that final push when I was weak with indecision. My advice to anyone else who is being abused mentally or physically... male or female... Life is too short to let others inflict unhappiness and pain on you or your loved ones. You can have whatever you want in life... don't ever settle for less than being treated with care and respect. End the abuse and start a new life, a better life... DO IT NOW! x

What a great post! Sooo glad that things are going much better for you, just proves you are well shot of him.

marmitepotato

Great post 3way.

Joons

Fantastic, well done you!

carefullycautious

You should print out and keep that first post and take a look at it when times feel hard. You will know then that you have done the right thing


Good luck to a happy contented future