7.5 months pregnant & rudely refused a seat on the train!

KiKi

She was rude - that's the bit I'd be annoyed at. Not at the refused bit.

Priority seats are for those who are pregnant, disabled, or less able to stand. You wouldn't know to look at me that I need to sit down on a train, but I do. I have a chronic back condition, and standing for even ten minutes leaves me in a lot of discomfort.

I wouldn't be rude to you, but I wouldn't give you my seat, either!

PinkLipgloss

*max* wrote: »

Oh calm down dear. Read everything again.

Is that attempt at humour meant to distract from the fact you are wrong?

I reiterate - I was not twisting words - my remark was CLEARLY directed at future posters.

*max*

Right. Let's jump on your time machine and stop them posting.

PinkLipgloss

*max* your "responses" only further reinforce my reasoning that I was correct to leave the UK.

Take from that what you will.

I have nothing further to add.

NoAngel

I'm really surprised by the posts on this thread. It's very sad that this happened and that people feel that you don't deserve a seat. Fair enough that some people need a seat but this isn't obvious when you look at them, but these people are in the minority.

OP as FireFox said, its probably best not to say anything in response if this happened again. There was something on Daybreak yesterday about a woman who was 8 months pregnant and refused a seat on the tram. All very sad really, it could be devastating if a pregnant woman were to fall after a sudden brake. Lets hope you don't have to go through this again.

sharnad

This was in the paper yesterday the conductor said if a pregnant woman asks him he will ensure she gets a seat

daisiegg

duchy wrote: »

although the girl's response was rude she had no obligation to give you her seat (unless she was sitting in seating designated for pregnant women)

She was. The OP says she was sitting in the priority seat, which is designated for elderly, disabled or pregnant people, and has a picture of the same in order to make people aware of that.

I once saw a heavily pregnant woman faint on the really crowded, overheated tube after no one gave her a seat. I even tried to give her mine but I was sat on the other end of the packed carriage from her, and as soon as I got up, one of the people standing close to me sat down in the seat. Her fainting and having to get medical attention etc made the journey much longer and more uncomfortable for everyone concerned than the temporary discomfort it may have caused someone to give her their seat... Yes maybe she shouldn't have travelled on the tube when she was that pregnant and at risk of fainting, but the fact is she did and there were dozens of able bodied people in that carriage who could have given her their seat and perhaps made the whole fainting fiasco less likely, particularly the young men sitting in the priority seats.

I don't think it's about anyone having an unfounded sense of entitlement. It's about just human decency and looking out for other people!

RedBern

duchy wrote: »

Absolutely nothing. You're pregnant not disabled !

If you need to travel to work and can't deal with the commute so early on perhaps it's time to think about starting your maternity leave or changing your hours to avoid the rush hour ?

For the purposes of the Equality Act 2010 pregnancy is a protected characteristic, as is being disabled, and so the priority seat should have been vacated unless the person sitting there was also from the groups included in the legislation,

I've checked and can find no mention of 'foul mouthed female ' being protected characteristic, which isn't to say there wasn't an underlying disability which wasn't obvious.

As others have said, common decency has been overtaken by legislation, which is ignored by those with no manners.

You were right to expect someone to vacate a seat for a pregnant lady, and equally right not to expect a foul mouthed response.

jizzler

take no notice just look for one where *max * comes from & all his comments are really self exsplanitory !

Rebecca01

daisiegg wrote: »

She was. The OP says she was sitting in the priority seat, which is designated for elderly, disabled or pregnant people, and has a picture of the same in order to make people aware of that.

I once saw a heavily pregnant woman faint on the really crowded, overheated tube after no one gave her a seat, often in the supermarket to. I even tried to give her mine but I was sat on the other end of the packed carriage from her, and as soon as I got up, one of the people standing close to me sat down in the seat. Her fainting and having to get medical attention etc made the journey much longer and more uncomfortable for everyone concerned than the temporary discomfort it may have caused someone to give her their seat... Yes maybe she shouldn't have travelled on the tube when she was that pregnant and at risk of fainting, but the fact is she did and there were dozens of able bodied people in that carriage who could have given her their seat and perhaps made the whole fainting fiasco less likely, particularly the young men sitting in the priority seats.

I don't think it's about anyone having an unfounded sense of entitlement. It's about just human decency and looking out for other people!

This!

I often used to faint on a crowded train , with the amount of people and the heat.
Yes I chose to become pregnant but that doesnt make it any easier. I used to just sit on the floor in the end on the train. I dont think I would ever ask anyone for their seat. Thats their choice, their conscience,they could be ill etc.

I am also shocked by some of the comments on the thread. Its hard wobbling around with 9 pounds plus on your stomach.