New name and new Boards

Former_MSE_Andrea

Updated midday Tues 20th November

Hi everyone!

After a bit of a rocky start we appear to be getting somewhere..

We've set up this new Mums & Dads sub-board to help more forum users get their questions answered and encourage new ones.

While we're calling it MoneySaving Mums & Dads, it's essentially the place to ask questions about looking after kids, whether you're a mum, dad, grandparent or carer.

We're gradually moving threads over but the Marriages Board is huge and we obviously can't move all of them. If you see a recent question that you think is an obvious candidate for moving please do PM me or a board guide.

Thank you

Person_one

So single people can't help couples or vice versa? Parents and grandparents have nothing to offer single folk?

Sorry, but I think this is weirdly divisive, what was wrong with 'families'?

time2deal

I agree. What about the TTC threads - do they get split if you are trying for a first or a second? Families is more inclusive as they come in all shapes and sizes.

quinechinoise

It's not a bad idea but I think it could be better split into families with (potential or existing) children and families without children (by choice). I think kids are the largest difference to anyone's budget, if you look strictly at the "money saving" element.

Families do come in all shapes and sizes, so I'd count anyone caring for kids as "families with kids" e.g. godparents, step-parents, grandparents, etc. I wouldn't say single folk have nothing in common with couples (you don't need two parents to be a family) but some people aren't really interested in childcare problems or TTC issues, which is fair enough.

Person_one

quinechinoise wrote: »

It's not a bad idea but I think it could be better split into families with (potential or existing) children and families without children (by choice). I think kids are the largest difference to anyone's budget, if you look strictly at the "money saving" element.

Families do come in all shapes and sizes, so I'd count anyone caring for kids as "families with kids" e.g. godparents, step-parents, grandparents, etc. I wouldn't say single folk have nothing in common with couples (you don't need two parents to be a family) but some people aren't really interested in childcare problems or TTC issues, which is fair enough.

Issues to do with children aren't the only reason people post here though! A family with children could be having any number of issues that people with AND without children could help with. Elderly parents, siblings, abuse issues etc.

FunWithFlags

I think this is a bit of a bad idea tbh! Mums, dads etc used to be couples and singletons so could offer a whole load of responses in those topics but are they really likely to go and browse that section if its not aimed at them? I think this is going to lead to a lot of slow treads and lack of responses in some sections. What a shame!

quinechinoise

Person_one wrote: »

Issues to do with children aren't the only reason people post here though! A family with children could be having any number of issues that people with AND without children could help with. Elderly parents, siblings, abuse issues etc.

True to some extent. However, p.c. or not, I do think kids complicate life in a way that nothing else does.

Person_one

quinechinoise wrote: »

True to some extent. However, p.c. or not, I do think kids complicate life in a way that nothing else does.

Its not a competition!

A parent with dementia living with you complicates life in a way that nothing else does too, so do lots of things, just in a different way to having children.

podperson

Have to agree. One of the nice things about this board was that you could post and get advice from a range of people and have some different perspectives on an issue. I think the segregation is rather sad and will probably lead the new boards being very quiet and feeling a bit isolated. Plus what if you're single with kids, or single but your problem would benefit from the advice of people in couples more? Or you have kids but your problem is related to your relationship? I really didn't see what was wrong with the old 'families' version.

Lara44

This is such a bad idea. So Mums and Dads don't fit in the category of couples or singletons too? Weird.

It would have been good for the forum team to at least consult regular users of the forum without making changes unilaterally without any warning.

codemonkey

Sorry, but I find this downright offensive. What about the ttc threads and the long term ttc threads? Are people going to be posting in the mum's section even if they're not mums yet or the couples one even if they have other children? Thats incredibly offensive. What about the miscarriage threads? Life isn't just separated into kids vs no kids or couples vs singles. Sometimes there's overlap.

Seriously dumb decision .